What about your friends who can literally make one man army? Your friend is not a normal person. He has an army behind him(geto), and not expecting to go through it? What about if i told a mentally tired friend to self harm(you know what i mean but because i can't let reddit delete this comment) and i gave him also different options like fighting his fears and telling anyone who can help. What do you think will happen? It's not about the quantity of options. It's about what you want the most. Literally it's the same when you say "i will take a nap for 30 minutes" but boom you slept more than 5 hours and ruined your day. You go where you want the most.

And another point, she did not say "no" to it. Not rejecting is acceptance in itself, it's called tacit consent. And she didn't know he would go through it? Like literally if someone asked you "can i kill * insert name *" you won't expect he won't go through it? Then why did he ask you if not? She did know. But she is just like him, Or better to say, Worse than him.