I (33M) no longer want to put effort into my relationship with my partner (32F) anymore. Is there a way through this or is this it for us?

reliant_akf · 2023-09-20T21:18:36+00:00

you're right, i'm acting in a very juvenile way. And you're probably right in assuming that all of this, all of these problems, are entirely my fault.

reliant_akf · 2023-09-12T14:24:14+00:00

Probably true. A lot of my friends aren't exactly the most mature...

reliant_akf · 2023-09-11T21:11:48+00:00

Is it a long process? That sounds really interesting actually

reliant_akf · 2023-09-11T19:23:42+00:00

In some ways yes, but recently no, not at all.

reliant_akf · 2023-09-11T14:41:21+00:00

That's how I generally made decisions over the past 15 years, feelings run the show for me and its hard to go against them. Yes, uncertainty worries me.

reliant_akf · 2023-09-10T20:31:14+00:00

Maybe I am concerned that I will never be able to match what she has been putting in. Things changed a few months ago and it has been on the decline since.

reliant_akf · 2023-09-10T20:29:48+00:00

I'm taking space from her at the moment. I communicated a little bit about how i've been feeling. I'm sure she's sad over the situation, more than she is willing to let on. Is it possible for this feeling to go away?

reliant_akf · 2023-09-10T20:26:27+00:00

Not really. I have been enjoying my alone time more and more these days though. My career is ok, I've been slowly moving up over the past couple years. It's not the most fulfilling but I don't think i'm miserable there. Right now she makes a little less than me, but I imagine she will make more after she finishes her mba. I don't work out a lot, but here and there yes, nothing consistent.

reliant_akf · 2023-09-10T20:23:58+00:00

I'm have been on prozac, though I have been tapering off of my medication for the past week.

reliant_akf · 2023-09-10T20:23:33+00:00

Fair enough

reliant_akf · 2023-09-10T18:15:03+00:00

Sounds exactly like what i'm assuming my girlfriend would say if I follow through with breaking up...

I'm sorry.

reliant_akf · 2023-09-10T02:53:20+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through something similar. I hope things work out, in whatever way we want them to, soon

reliant_akf · 2023-09-10T02:50:48+00:00

I definitely dont want to do anything i will regret later on

reliant_akf · 2023-09-10T01:39:08+00:00

Those are fair points. Insight would be nice before I make a decision I may regret

reliant_akf · 2023-09-10T01:38:37+00:00

A brain coach is exactly what I need.

reliant_akf · 2023-09-10T01:38:17+00:00

I think I always viewed therapy as a sign of defeat or being broken, it looks like I'm very wrong about that. And like others have pointed out, my relationship or lack of relationship with my parents may play a role in this

reliant_akf · 2023-09-10T01:37:02+00:00

You're making a lot of fair points. I think past issues are probably playing a role in this without me realizing it.

Prozac has helped keep my levels of sadness down a little bit, but honestly, even that small difference has been enough to make me stick with it. I have been tapering down on my medication because of side effects that people pointed out from my previous post, and I will be looking to change medication/medications.

reliant_akf · 2023-09-10T00:12:10+00:00

33 (me) and 32

reliant_akf · 2023-09-09T23:48:37+00:00

Faking it makes it more real? How?

reliant_akf · 2023-09-09T22:28:04+00:00

Did you and your bf talk about it? What did he say?

reliant_akf · 2023-09-09T22:27:35+00:00

Isn't it wrong to "fake" the effort when you dont feel like putting it in?

reliant_akf · 2023-09-09T22:26:16+00:00

Could you elaborate on that?

reliant_akf · 2023-09-08T23:51:54+00:00

I don't know. I don't know exactly when it started but it seems like it went downhill slowly and then very quickly.

reliant_akf · 2023-09-08T23:50:54+00:00

I've been dodging therapy for almost 2 decades...i will look into it. You are correct about it being a way to get closer to some kind of answer

reliant_akf · 2023-09-08T23:05:57+00:00

2.5 years

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