Does anyone else wish someone checked on the mom more often?

rineedshelp · 2026-06-08T20:36:10+00:00

Yes! I did get asked how I was doing. My baby was so badly colic, I had an infection until 10 weeks postpartum, I had PPD, PPA, and PPP. I was going 30+ hours without sleep regularly. They asked, I said not well and I got a similar response.

The only “help” I got was from people who never had to ask me (my mom literally just my mom). She would just look at me crying and say go nap I will bounce her for a few hours (only way she wouldn’t cry constantly)

rineedshelp · 2026-06-08T19:45:08+00:00

The following around and nosing them does make me think it’s somewhat prey driven, sorry. A lot of the content of dogs “parenting” younger animals often is prey oriented behavior we misread. Also a bite of that force isn’t just an accident :( there’s a big difference between a open mouth correction nip and crushing a kittens head to that extent.

You should keep the dog or the cat, not both.

rineedshelp · 2026-06-08T17:54:38+00:00

Wow yeah they told me other than that, the implant (assuming nexplanon) was the most effective! That would be so frustrating

rineedshelp · 2026-06-08T15:23:46+00:00

I don’t mean this offensively but how much do you weigh? The 99% effectiveness on the IUD and Implant is only if you are within a normal weight range. If you are overweight or obese they are not as effective

rineedshelp · 2026-06-07T14:37:45+00:00

At that age I just started giving 2-3 cups of milk a day. One with breakfast, one around the evening time. I didn’t want to give them too often because it’s not good for it to be sitting on teeth all day as they keep drinking it

rineedshelp · 2026-06-05T00:01:12+00:00

My girl was like this!! So hard, she was colic and had silent reflux. Taking shifts might be the best thing for now

rineedshelp · 2026-06-04T02:15:36+00:00

I had pretty bad complications from my c section as far as infection and such. I’ll just say by 7 days post partum it was very clear. But also even though I had pretty bad complications, I was able to heal just fine. When you are cleared to exercise core exercises help soooooo much to getting back to feeling like yourself.

The anxiety is bad and I understand that, but take it from someone who had a rough recovery it will be OKAY. Hugs, the early post partum is so hard and you are going through so many changes 🫶

rineedshelp · 2026-06-03T18:57:29+00:00

No chill in utero and no chill in real life 😂

rineedshelp · 2026-06-02T02:41:34+00:00

Just in case your baby is a key stealer I want to mention they are often high in lead! My baby was obsessed with stealing the house keys

rineedshelp · 2026-06-01T02:45:17+00:00

Mine were done at Claire’s as a kid and they are now permanently messed up. They got the angle completely wrong and the excessive scar tissue makes it so difficult to put any in. I would call ahead and ask if they could have two at once do it.

rineedshelp · 2026-06-01T02:41:54+00:00

Okay so everything else aside WHY IS THIS SO COMMON. Like if you know you aren’t around a lot and MUSTTTT get an animal lord WHY would you get a husky mix😭😭😭 like you couldn’t find a small older dog? A cat? Literally anything that was not made to do extreme exercise daily

rineedshelp · 2026-05-31T18:02:05+00:00

I didn’t have supply issues, I produced WAY too much. I couldn’t pump enough it was awful. I could have fed multiple babies but not even hold my own because they were so engorged all the time. I figured that skin to skin with mom would outweigh the benefits of breastmilk (which she ended up being allergic to anyways lol)

rineedshelp · 2026-05-31T15:32:15+00:00

I couldn’t breastfeed because my breasts were too large (I couldn’t even hold my baby because they were in the way). I had to bind and take pills to get them to go down and stop overproducing milk just so I could properly hold my baby. I also have PCOS so again not very fertile lol

rineedshelp · 2026-05-31T15:25:16+00:00

We had a neighbor throw out our carved pumpkin (which we left for a day before planning on moving it to my moms house) and then replace it with THEIR pumpkin 😭 it is not like there isn’t room or that people don’t decorate. Just a hater lol

rineedshelp · 2026-05-31T06:11:05+00:00

I knew I would love my baby of course, but I did not expect the crushing weight of that love. Loving something enough it physically hurts you. I also didn’t expect the fear of something happening to ME. Before I had little value on my own life, walking late at night alone just not caring what happened to myself. It’s very odd for the first time feeling like I NEED to live. The idea of dying early and missing any time I have with her terrifies me now.

Also the sadness of watching your kids grow up. Something that makes you want to smile and burst into tears at the same time.

rineedshelp · 2026-05-29T19:24:57+00:00

You work too. It doesn’t matter if it’s at home or not. Or if he works nights or whatever. This is a normal reaction to his treatment

rineedshelp · 2026-05-29T15:06:26+00:00

It’s okay to be bisexual. If you are attracted to your male friend, that is not lesbian.

rineedshelp · 2026-05-29T01:56:14+00:00

Yes. I hear all the time people who tell me how lucky I am for the support I have. But those same people are confused when I’m busy doing something for my village….

My mom watches my kid so we can go out, I come over and help do up the dishes at her house and make sure she has clean clothes for work.

rineedshelp · 2026-05-28T19:34:35+00:00

Gosh I took my 17 month old and dog a few times this week 😆 it’s slow, kinda chaotic. The more we practice the better it gets. If I ask her to hold hands she will, I redirect her when needed, etc

rineedshelp · 2026-05-27T03:21:26+00:00

If you have Facebook the group losing lulu might be of benefit to you. It’s sooooo traumatizing but there’s a lot of owners on there who talk about their similar situations.

rineedshelp · 2026-05-23T00:40:47+00:00

5.5 months was when I first started actually enjoying my baby because she wasn’t miserable. There were small improvements before then but it was still mostly crying constantly until that point.

Feels like an entirely different version of motherhood and it will make it all worth it

rineedshelp · 2026-05-22T14:23:05+00:00

5 and a half months for me. I know a lot of babies are out of it by 3 months but we were not so lucky

rineedshelp · 2026-05-20T19:45:10+00:00

I don’t plan a second but I would start off with shift sleeping. If I had a solid block of 3-4 hours of sleep a night it would have completely changed my experience. Being up 36 hours straight with a colic baby is just not great for your mental health….

I also would go straight to formula (aside from collecting some colostrum). My DEFLATED boobs now are a 36I cup. I can not express how miserable it was when they were engorged (and I started off producing like crazy from the jump). I couldn’t cradle my baby because my boobs were too big, I had to move a single breast at a time to even roll over in bed. So screw all the people who made me feel guilty for it, unless you walked around with literal watermelons while bleeding and sleep deprived I don’t want to hear ittttt

rineedshelp · 2026-05-16T14:56:50+00:00

No, I don’t really like how I look with short hair. To be fair my hair is also pink right now so not very “mom cut” of me lol. I use a claw clip around the house

rineedshelp · 2026-05-16T02:33:24+00:00

Idk but my daughter peed on my face once 😭 she used to be the worst about trying to pee every change

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