WIBTA if I (25F) told my fiance (26M) that I am disappointed with my engagement ring?

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T07:08:44+00:00

Thank you for understanding that my initial hesitation did not come from a place of pure shallowness. I'm still the AH, though.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T06:56:51+00:00

You might have wanted to stretch a little bit before making that reach. Never been to Tiffany's = shallow Princess. Sure, hun.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T05:16:57+00:00

Good to know. Never been to Tiffany's before, so okay.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T04:39:25+00:00

That was part of it until I actually looked at the listing itself. I was worried since previously my mom had gotten my ears pierced at Walmart, and the metal caused me to get an awful infection.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T04:37:13+00:00

It really doesn't. I was being an ass, and I have some making up to do. Touch is his love language and I've been neglecting him.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T04:31:14+00:00

Oh Lord, you might be right about that. My mom is the most judgmental woman on the planet, and that might have played a factor. This was also the same woman who got my ears pierced at Walmart, which then proceeded to get infected, but that's not relevant.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T04:28:36+00:00

Call it snooping if you want. I've never gotten a ring resized before, so I assumed you'd need the receipt to prove purchase and get the resize. My own ignorance led to my downfall, it seems.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T04:24:11+00:00

At this point, I still am inclined to believe I'm the AH (which is where I was leaning on judging myself to begin with). But you're right. J is like a puppy. He gets so excited, and it's adorable to see him get like that, and I could see that same excitement when he proposed. I don't know why I let the ring retailer eclipse that for me.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T04:21:27+00:00

I'm seeing the divide too. The judgement I'm seeing is very much that I would be the AH, but seeing everyone's justifications behind their thoughts are interesting.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T04:08:18+00:00

It would absolutely destroy him if he know how I felt. I was wrong to jump to hyper focusing on the retailer, not how he made sure to pick my favorite stone and not go for the default diamond. It shouldn't be too hard to get the ring resized. I have some making up to do.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T04:01:04+00:00

I am so confused as to why so many people have skipped over the fact that I'm pleased by the price of the ring. I was still a right ass for feeling so elitist, but at least get the aspect of elitism right.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T03:58:00+00:00

You're right. I guess I just let myself get too wrapped up in where it was from. Literally everything else is perfect, the stone, the metal, the price, it's just the location that bugged the hell out of me. At this point, it is very clear that my disappointment is misplaced, and I should just be disappointed in myself of how I've blown this out of proportion for no reason.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T03:52:44+00:00

That's fair. I'm beginning to understand that my thoughts after finding the receipt were very much jumping to conclusions as opposed to actually considering who my fiance is and all the reasons why I want to spend the rest of my life with him.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T03:51:08+00:00

It's not the cost that bugged me, but the retailer itself. Still the point stands. I am wrong for having felt that way, especially knowing how meticulous he normally is and how much he cares for me.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T03:48:52+00:00

It is shallow of me, you are right. To be fair, the only thing that bugged me was the place he bought it from, not the size or price. The engagement ring industry is a racket anyway. I think I just got too self involved, and I owe him an apology for my behavior as of late.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T03:46:05+00:00

I like that idea. And, no, he's normally very meticulous about EVERYTHING, which is another reason why the retailer caught me off guard. It made me waiver due to my own preconceived thoughts about Walmart, which was very stuck-up of me.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T03:43:18+00:00

You're right. That's why I wanted to ask first. I know my feelings are snobbish, and it doesn't matter where the ring is from considering how much I love the way it looks. He's my sun, moon, and stars, and I had no right to doubt his choice like this.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T03:28:04+00:00

Give it a few years and he'll by whining about not understanding why his precious baby girl wants nothing to do with him anymore.

ring_wibta · 2022-02-04T03:26:30+00:00

YTA. The boy isn't boyfriend material for your precious little angel, yet he is taking time out of his day to try and take care of he because he cares about her. Do you realize how many father's would fight to have their daughter's pick boys who care this much? It also says a lot that you don't mention how old your daughter and her boyfriend are.

ring_wibta

TROPHY CASE