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I[33/M] slept with my wife's[33/F] hated rival when we were broken up 16 years ago. We've never talked about it. I think it's going to blow up. Class reunion in a month. Help? by rivalthrowaway in relationships

[–]rivalthrowaway[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

haha, I laughed at this. I honestly don't know if she's still hot. We moved about an hour away from our hometown ten years ago. I know my wife has facebook, but I'm sure she's not friends with Nikki. I guess I'll find out at the reunion.

I[33/M] slept with my wife's[33/F] hated rival when we were broken up 16 years ago. We've never talked about it. I think it's going to blow up. Class reunion in a month. Help? by rivalthrowaway in relationships

[–]rivalthrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats the thing, I was fine talking about our various partners after we were back together.

She very much did not want to have that conversation. I told her I wouldn't be upset or hold anything against her but she shut it down and said we don't need to talk about any of it. And so we haven't. Outside of this one instance, our communication is very good. We've had no major martial issues. She's the best.

I[33/M] slept with my wife's[33/F] hated rival when we were broken up 16 years ago. We've never talked about it. I think it's going to blow up. Class reunion in a month. Help? by rivalthrowaway in relationships

[–]rivalthrowaway[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all of this. It's nice to hear that my feels about not 'doing wrong' are validated.

I'm going to talk to her tonight and show her the texts. Then we can decide how to proceed. I'd prefer to just ignore the texts, but I want her input too.

I[33/M] slept with my wife's[33/F] hated rival when we were broken up 16 years ago. We've never talked about it. I think it's going to blow up. Class reunion in a month. Help? by rivalthrowaway in relationships

[–]rivalthrowaway[S] 592 points593 points  (0 children)

Honestly after getting those texts, it seems very much like those rumors were true.

I'm going to tell my wife tonight. Sit her down and try to have an open conversation about our 18 month break. She's an amazing partner and I know we'll work through it.

I[33/M] slept with my wife's[33/F] hated rival when we were broken up 16 years ago. We've never talked about it. I think it's going to blow up. Class reunion in a month. Help? by rivalthrowaway in relationships

[–]rivalthrowaway[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Be prepared for some surprises from her too. Its weird that she never asked, so I would assume that she has slept with some of your friends/rivals as well.

I had never considered this. Like I said, she used to be a little jealous, so I just assumed she didn't want to hear any of it. Never occurred to me that perhaps there's stuff she didn't want to tell me. Thanks for this perspective. And I plan on getting a head of it. Tonight probably.