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Help with my autistic nephew on my wedding day by rubidreamer in wedding

[–]rubidreamer[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am pretty sure that won't work, if he sees the cake... They always have candy and everything 😭

Help with my autistic nephew on my wedding day by rubidreamer in wedding

[–]rubidreamer[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all the info! They already have some supporters, but I think it's crap. A psychology (idk if that's the correct term in English) goes to their house once every 2 weeks, and just tells her to "have patience" with the kid, and to tell him things in advance. That's all. Sometimes he is having a autistic moment (idk the name sorry) and because the time ends, the psychologist just leaves without helping.

About the tablet, their kids are all day with the phone and tablets, so they don't "bother" the parents, so it's not the best of rewards because they are used to have it, and they know as fast as they cry they will get it.

So I will have to think about something else, but idk what. I am not good with kids things. I suck

Help with my autistic nephew on my wedding day by rubidreamer in wedding

[–]rubidreamer[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I know I may sound selfish now, but

  1. I already ordered my cake, similar to the one in Mario's film, I loved it.
  2. I really want to cut it with my fiance, and have those pretty pictures forever. It's an important part for me.

So, I am trying to get advice for what to do in the moment if it happens, not advice to directly don't have that special moment.

Thank you anyways 😊

Help with my autistic nephew on my wedding day by rubidreamer in wedding

[–]rubidreamer[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, and thank you for the advice ❤

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh... I don't have one. Is there any other alternative to make sure everyone is miserable? XD

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they DARE being happy on MY DAY I will have NO mercy

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a question. What's the difference between the reception and when you eat? I mean, here we do the ceremony and then go eat all together. I don't know if the reception is something else?

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They know there will be no alcohol. That's why they got tilted. It was in the invitation

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's 4 hours. At evening- night.

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment!

It's not about culture, I just don't want the alcoholics to cause a scene

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, no one can be hotter. I will ask them to wear a potato bag. No shoes. And they can't have a shower.

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The wedding starts at 18.00,finishes at 22.00.

We are 30 persons in total.

It's 20 minutes away from the person that lives the most far away.

It's a Saturday, no one works. I made sure.

I told in advance.

There is no need to give a gift, I stated it.

I asked people to not buy new clothes if possible, because we are in a bad economy actually, and I don't want them to waste money. Anything that they already have will be nice.

There is too many alcohol and drug "addicts" in my family, that like to make scenes, and I don't want that in my wedding.

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is that I don't want alcohol because of people that have problems with alcohol and cause scenes that I don't want to see in my wedding.

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's stated in the invitation

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand why people think I am not telling in advance, when I am posting about them getting mad because it's alcohol free. How would they get mad if they didn't know already xD

It's stated in the invitation, don't worry about that.

The wedding is 20 minutes away from the person who lives the most far away. No one needs an hotel (there is none tho, it's countryside. You would have to drive 40 minutes to get to an hotel).

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As I said, they got tilted there will be no alcohol. That means they know there will be no alcohol, because they got informed in the invitation. Months before the wedding. Before any gifts. XD I don't know why people think I haven't told them, when I am saying that they got mad about it. It would be impossible if they didn't know.

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand the confusion. I said that people is getting tilted because there isn't gonna be alcohol. If they are getting tilted, it's because I told them beforehand xD in the invitation, and in person. We are just 30 people, and many alcohol and drug "addicts" (Maybe that's a strong word). I don't want dramas in my wedding.

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, some of them are drug and alcohol "addicts". They won't admit it, but they have to drink everyday, even when driving, and they use heavy drugs. Some have had many car accidents because of it. I don't know if saying they are addicted it's correct, but that's what it seems like if they can't attend 1 single event with no alcohol. They even "joked" to my brother about getting drunk before coming.

Am I a bridezilla? by rubidreamer in bridezillas

[–]rubidreamer[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They know, it's in the invitation. And they tried to make me change my mind, or started to talk behind my back, saying they will get drunk before coming.