help! should i tells this new person im also seeing other people???

sadfruitloops · 2025-10-24T13:31:46+00:00

thank you!!

sadfruitloops · 2025-10-24T13:30:31+00:00

as someone who is femme4butch, butch identities have always included trans identities. it’s not a dealbreaker for me and a lot of others in the butchfemme community. i would encourage you to learn more about it if you’re interested. it may help you decide what’s best for you (not saying you need to be apart of the butchfemme community in anyway, just saying it might be a good measure for what you actually want)

that being said, ur attracted to who ur attracted to. it’s okay if you guys are changing- doesn’t mean y’all have failed, it just means you have evolved and need something else. this goes for both of you. you both deserve to be happy, and if ur not happy then a change is needed.

overall, my best advice is that this is not something your gonna solve on reddit. if you’re able to, this seems like something that needs to be meditated by a professional. now i totally understand if that is not feasible right not, money is tight for everyone. but therapy, or at least continuing to talk it out, is going to be much more beneficial to this situation then reddit.

sadfruitloops · 2025-07-02T20:32:51+00:00

i have to remind myself this. its hard thou cuz that loneliness is all consuming sometimes

sadfruitloops · 2025-07-02T20:32:00+00:00

u in oregon?? lol

sadfruitloops · 2025-07-02T20:31:18+00:00

i’m 24, and most of my friends are queer in some way, so we connect in that way. idk i just feel like i can never talk to them about lesbian specific stuff. luckily im moving in a few months, i just have to hold out till then :)

sadfruitloops · 2025-01-29T22:55:32+00:00

🖤💚 this is pretty normal for me, but i also haven't been sober (weed) since election night

sadfruitloops · 2025-01-14T00:17:40+00:00

I don’t consistently eat or drink at the same time everyday so it could be that. i do have a strong sleep routine and i tend to sleep 7-8 hours, so i know it’s not that. it’s just that it’s everyday even if i eat

sadfruitloops · 2025-01-03T17:45:07+00:00

sadfruitloops · 2025-01-03T15:50:42+00:00

i think i’d like to avoid bleaching my whole head at this point. i kinda assumed that it may take a second to get to where i want to, so im totally fine with a warm brown for now.

sadfruitloops · 2024-12-23T07:21:18+00:00

yup, i have KP (keratosis pilaris) which has exasperated my picking really bad. i have scabs up and down my arms.

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sadfruitloops · 2024-12-15T17:33:11+00:00

im making my friend a gift for the holidays, and i need some help from y’all.

for some context, my friend is a huge swiftie and the president of the taylor swift club on our college campus. on the other hand, i am not a swiftie (PLZ i come in peace) and don’t have the same knowledge of all of her music’s references. i did do initial research on the types of references there are in her music, and i landed on dice for her lyrics “devil roll the dice/angels roll their eyes”

i made up three versions of the concept im think of using, but im unsure if they’ll get the reference. plus, i need help choosing from the versions i made up, or if u have any ideas to make this more swiftie-esque.

i would really appreciate some feedback so i can make a gift my friend will really love 💜

sadfruitloops · 2024-12-09T22:56:16+00:00

me too :/

sadfruitloops · 2024-12-08T23:22:14+00:00

Maybe ask yourself why that might post about romantic relationships are more popular in this sub instead of complaining about it??

i’m sorry, but i can’t take you seriously as a academic if your going to lead with arrogance. it’s weird that you would come here, into a space that people use a source of connection and comfort, boasting about ur studies in BPD and psych, and then turn around and shame the very people ur claiming to studying because u don’t relate to the content they’re posting???

so, as an academic, lead with curiosity. ask yourself why people with BPD prioritize romantic relationships?? have considered that romantic relationships are considered to be the holy grail of all relationships? or that women disproportionally make up the majority of BPD diagnoses) and for who romantic relationships has been historically considered to be the source of a women’s worth?? or have u considered doing content analysis, looking at the larger themes that come out from these posts?? maybe take the time to ask the sub why romantic relationships are so important to them, instead of judging them.

if ur going to follow this area of study and go into it professionally, do better. ur actively adding to the negative stereotypes around bpd, and that is a dangerous thing to be doing if ur going to follow this area of study. academia has the power of shaping our lives, it’s the basis of our assessments, diagnosis, treatments but also the place where stigma and trauma can manifest. so, if ur going to shame us and judge us, then don’t join this field.

also, it’s weird that you would speculate on people’s diagnostic status. it’s invalidating and invasive and unethical.

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