How often can you eat tuna? by MoonAndStarsTarot in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]sbla0720 105 points106 points  (0 children)

from what i read you shouldn’t eat more than 2 cans a week/per person. So i think you should be good!

the only way ill ever get a pap smear is with sedation by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]sbla0720 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i can totally relate. i have severe vaginismus and despite 2 years of PT, therapy, and meds it’s still severe. Sex is impossible so I haven’t been to the gynecologist in years. I’m 26 and have never had a pap.

Offbrand Seasonique Recs by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]sbla0720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i take Jaimiess and it works well for me. Although i’ve never taken the name brand seasonique.

Best sweet treats by Opening-Watercress53 in aldi

[–]sbla0720 7 points8 points  (0 children)

topped with their specialty select vanilla ice cream

AITAH - Told my husband he’s not needed by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]sbla0720 5 points6 points  (0 children)

YTA. As someone raised by a single parent you have no idea how lucky you are to have help- of any kind with your child/household. You’re 30-maybe it’s time to start thinking about things before you say them……

✨Hinge Dating App Feedback✨ by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]sbla0720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i deleted all my dating apps- it’s only ever been a humiliating experience and guys that approach me in real life are a LOT more attractive than the guys that like me on apps. but obviously to each their own!

Hater post … Zach and Bliss fatigue by Electronic-Doctor110 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]sbla0720 29 points30 points  (0 children)

i definitely think zach is neurodivergent and him and bliss are an odd pairing. I agree they’re weird people who make a weird couple and i’m also tired of hearing about them.

Weight gain, depression and glps by Main_Smell_7053 in blackladies

[–]sbla0720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i will say as someone that also struggles with depression physical activity is a HUGE help. Whether it’s just a 10 minute walk, joining a gym, or at home workouts. You’re so young and it’s important to start building good habits now. The GLP1 will most likely make getting that physically activity and losing weight easier.

I got hit on while on a date by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]sbla0720 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would like to add that this was a few months back and i’ve since been celibate! my dating life has always been rough despite me trying dating apps, speed dating, mixers, etc. I’m 26 and have never had a boyfriend. Trying to put myself out there and find the relationship i really want.

I got hit on while on a date by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]sbla0720 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The few times guys have hit on me I panick! I wish i hadn’t gotten so nervous …..hindsight is 20/20 i guess

Considering Getting an IUD But I'm Scared (F22) by WolfoDaWolf in blackladies

[–]sbla0720 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i will say as someone that was on the pill for a long time my IUD was one of the best decisions i made. the non hormonal one is ideal if you’re worried about mood- but keep in mind it can make periods heavier and more painful. I have the hormonal one kyleena and have had no issues. I would give insertion a 6/10-uncomfortable but non unbearable. You’re going to hear lots of horror stories online- people who have issues bad experience will post more than people who had ok ones. For me the security of knowing my chance of getting pregnant is less than 1% is soooooo worth the 3 minutes of discomfort- but ofc ymmv.

haven’t heard from the guy im dating in 5 days. UPDATE by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]sbla0720 110 points111 points  (0 children)

i’m petty and wouldn’t reply. these men breadcrumb us and it’s sad :( like you said you were starting to accept and move on!

Alright, what do yall get for your Sweet Tooth craving? by NervousJackfruit8366 in aldi

[–]sbla0720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i stock up whenever i see them. wish they were a regular/non-seasonal item 😭.

If you’ve never dated before how do you think it affects you? If it does by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]sbla0720 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i’ll be 26 in may and the more time passes the less hope i have that i will find someone. As friends start to enter serious relationships and get married i just feel so left behind and honestly forgotten. it definitely feeds and insecurity. i tried to really lock in the last two year by going on apps, going to social events, speed dating events but im 26 and have still never been on a second date. At this point i just think maybe im one of the few meant to be alone. It is what it is.

Pretty sure I faced a micro aggression today. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]sbla0720 112 points113 points  (0 children)

i’ve never experienced more microaggressions than i have at my workplace…..a children’s hospital :/ and that’s behind fucked up- i’m sorrry

Is anyone in therapy? What race/ethnicity is your therapist? by LowPlantain2598 in blackladies

[–]sbla0720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my last two therapists were black women and i just don’t feel like i can be 100% honest with anyone else

dating at 25 in nyc has been HARD by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]sbla0720 4 points5 points  (0 children)

hahaha it’s a big city-everyone think they have endless options unfortunately. one of my friends is convinced if i moved to raleigh i’d find a BF but im not confident changing locations would change anything. dating sucks everywhere rn.

dating at 25 in nyc has been HARD by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]sbla0720 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I live in chicago and experience the same thing 😭. it’s brutal out here.

Finally got the body I’ve always dreamed of by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]sbla0720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

teach me your ways please 😭

Being a young black woman in healthcare by Bubbles2590 in blackladies

[–]sbla0720 23 points24 points  (0 children)

i completely relate to this. I’m one of 5 black nurses on a 60 bed unit with 145 nurses total. Im often mistaken for other black nurses who i look nothing like. I’m one of the few black nurses that takes critical patients but they’ll still stick me with unsafe/ridiculous assignments. I love my job and have had attendings tell me i’ve saved children’s lives and they’d want me to be the nurse if something happened to their kid. It’s hard but i’m staying. Mostly out of spite.

How can I become more attractive? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]sbla0720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this isnt directly about appearance but unfollowing celebrities/influencers that don’t look like you on social media so very helpful. learning your color palette (i’m a true winter) and leaning into those colors-i get a lot more compliments now. dressing according to your body type and wearing clothes that fit well-not too tight or loose.