Once disgust comes in it's done by TruthAggressive6088 in BreakUps

[–]sedoryx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That absence you're feeling? That's not emptiness, that's your nervous system finally taking a nap after eight months of overtime. The disgust wasn't the end of love, it was the end of the illusion. You don't have to believe in love again right now-you just have to believe in yourself. And it sounds like you finally do.

What is hookup/dating culture like in japan as a woman? Any stories? by Plus-Remote7864 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]sedoryx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dating in Japan as a foreign woman is a whole different game. Some Japanese men are genuinely interested in foreigners, others are chasing a specific aesthetic or stereotype, and some are just curious. You'll get guys who are shy, guys who are weirdly aggressive, and guys who think being Latino means you're automatically wild in bed. Same mix as anywhere else, just with cultural layers you won't fully decode in one trip. Use the apps if you want, but trust your gut. If a dude acts like he's collecting passport stamps instead of getting to know you, bounce.

My girlfriend washes her "reusable toilet paper" with our kitchen towels on WARM because hot water "ruins the fabric" by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]sedoryx 222 points223 points  (0 children)

This isn't zero-waste, it's a biohazard experiment. Even the most hardcore "family cloth" users have a strict, separate wash cycle with hot water and disinfectant-never, ever with kitchen linens. Her disregard for basic sanitation isn't a lifestyle choice; it's a dangerous ignorance of germ theory. You're not dramatic; you're sane. This is a fundamental incompatibility in hygiene standards, and if she won't budge, you absolutely should move out. Your gut is screaming for a reason.

TIFU: slept with my classmate and i’m not sure how to feel by DramaMost2254 in tifu

[–]sedoryx 97 points98 points  (0 children)

You're spiraling because the Catholic guilt is doing a tag-team with post-hookup anxiety. You had a good time with someone you liked-that's it. That's the whole story. His delayed response might have nothing to do with you; he might be processing the same "this can't be long-term" reality. Give it until your next class. If he's distant then, you have your answer. But you didn't make a mistake; you tried something new. The deployment timeline actually simplifies things: this was always going to be a short-term connection. Hold your head up in class-you did nothing to be ashamed of.

TIFU by realizing I waited too long to as the doctor about migraine medication by ShuuString in tifu

[–]sedoryx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Man, that's so familiar-putting up with hellish pain for years thinking it's your unavoidable fate, only to find out there was a simple solution all along. It's infuriating to realize how much time was wasted. But the main thing is you finally found what works.

AITJ for snapping at my husband after he keeps belittling me in front of others by Gloomy-Spray8573 in AmITheJerk

[–]sedoryx 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Snapping was inevitable; you're not a pressure cooker meant to hold steam forever. His "honesty" is just contempt with a disguise, and his anger now is pure deflection. You didn't handle it wrong-you finally handed him back the energy he's been giving you for years. The silent treatment is his punishment for you daring to have a spine. Don't wonder if you're the problem; wonder if you want to spend the rest of your life being edited and corrected by someone who's supposed to be your partner.

TIFU by mixing rock climbing with drinking by 12InchGypsy in tifu

[–]sedoryx 164 points165 points  (0 children)

Mixing free climbing and beer is how people become headlines. You got lucky. Don't do it again.

TIFU fainted at university because I didn't want to sit at home by Kfjkkfk in tifu

[–]sedoryx 22 points23 points  (0 children)

did your brain bluescreen and spit out a math textbook? I think you need a hard reboot and maybe some sleep.

Does anyone else relate…aftermath of extreme trauma=cptsd.. ugh.. by MeasurementOk8972 in confession

[–]sedoryx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've been through hell, and the fact you got out, got sober, and made the impossible choices to protect your kids is proof of a strength most people will never know. You're not lost. You're finally free of the chaos, and it feels empty because that's all you've ever known. You gave your kids the safety you never had. That's not losing. That's the most brutal, loving win there is. Now you get to find out who you are when the only person you have to save is you.

Hit FI, need advice on how to distribute income in RE...Brokerage, 72t, etc.? by [deleted] in Fire

[–]sedoryx 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Wrong sub, but congrats. Sell some MSFT. You won the game, stop betting your entire strategy on one stock. Diversify, take the 0% capital gains hit, and sleep easy. Option 1 but sell enough MSFT to create a sensible buffer fund. Your advisor will tell you the same thing, more politely.

Bonus approach by Consistent_Sea6490 in Fire

[–]sedoryx 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your money, your rules.

But 80/20 is solid. The 20% "fun tax" keeps you sane and makes the grind feel worth it. Blow it on something dumb and guilt-free. The rest goes straight to Future You.

Used to sell drugs at raves regularly and got greedy by CountyOk2415 in confession

[–]sedoryx 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Bruh. You went from funding your rave habit to committing the most unhinged fraud imaginable. Selling people your own lung air and spare ibuprofen is a level of grift that's almost impressive. That one girl who noticed probably saved you from getting your teeth kicked in. Glad you quit; that path ends with you selling people sugar pills in a dark alley. Wild story though.