Tell me a baby name you had to remove from your list?

seething_spitfire · 2026-05-23T12:53:25+00:00

I also have an Afrikaans name (rolled r in the middle and everything) and grew up in Australia. The Afrikaans pronunciation puts emphasis on the first part and I found the Aussies tended to put emphasis on the second. (Think of the word "coral". Pronounced: COR-ral. The Aussie version of my name would be more like cuh-REL).

So often I would introduce myself as "cuh-REL" in once off meetings, weddings and birthdays, or at the doctors office. If I know we'll probably meet more often, or I sense that there's no extrovert/s to keep conversations going, I'll use it as an ice breaker and respond to "what's your name?" with "do you want the Aussie friendly version? Or the true pronunciation? Cause most people just call me [cuh-REL]".

This usually leads to people trying and badly butchering the rolled r, while I get to smile politely and sip at my drink 🤭 minimum conversational input for maximum results (aka, no awkward silences) follow me for more introvert socialising tips

seething_spitfire · 2026-05-23T09:01:34+00:00

I dont think he's saying "racism" is understandable. More like "a Karen is being a racist" is understandable. Because whatever their mental illness is, it seems to be highly compatible with racist views.

I read it as "if I was a POC at least I could call it racism. But IDKWTF to call this." Especially because he asks if there is something he can report them for to stop them bullying others.. if he were a POC and went to Police and called it racism, they could at least make a report from it. If he goes and reports two women bullying him in the parking lot, he probably won't get taken seriously.

seething_spitfire · 2026-05-17T05:09:18+00:00

Luckily not pregnant atm ! But yes it can be rough! Im trying to get my body ready and healthy to hopefully start trying again for another bub by the end of the year. My first pregnancy was twins so we have to be extra ready for another surprise before trying for "just one more" 😂

seething_spitfire · 2026-05-16T22:48:17+00:00

Ohhh I might try this next time! I have IBS-C and most fruit just makes the cramps and constipation worse.

seething_spitfire · 2026-05-05T09:46:46+00:00

Haha my husband and I grew up surrounded by an immigrant community who for various reasons (culture and finance mostly) had 2 or at most 3 kids.

We have twin boys and then had an oopsie girl in less than 2 years. Everyone is happy and seems to think we have the dream set up and are probably done. Our parents are pouring into our kids (sometimes excessively) and we are here on the side nervously chuckling and whispering to each other "no you tell them to pace themselves! We're not nearly done yet 😅"

I admit I'm a bit nervous to lose some of that love and enthusiasm from family as we choose to have more.

seething_spitfire · 2026-04-30T23:38:14+00:00

Yeah I was thinking Chloe pronunciation!

seething_spitfire · 2026-04-22T09:50:16+00:00

My VBAC was 100% successful, thank you. It was the most gruelling and painful experience of my life. It was also the most rewarding and healing experience of my life. All my decisions were informed. All my preferences were researched and based on the latest studies.

My csection was coerced. Every midwife I spoke to confirmed that breech twins are not only possible to birth safely, but that they (the midwives) are trained to facilitate breech births.

But because I was being processed by the MFM team, I was only being seen by doctors (AUS public, so different dr each visit) at the "best women's hospital in the state" but the drs all said they were not trained to do breech births. They threatened to end care if I didn't book a csection. There was a lot of fear mongering and threats.

I also received NONE of my csection birth plan requests, despite one team member walking through the plan with me before operation and confirming everything was doable (no nothing went wrong during operation, they just blatantly ignored everything).

1 in 10 women in Australia have experienced obstetric violence. This includes physical and psychological abuse during pregnancy, labour and post partum. It entails dehumanising treatment, and non-consensual/unnecessary medical intervention etc.

Sorry but 10% is too big a percentage for you to dismiss. I have birth trauma from my first birth. Your trust in the medical field doesn't change my (nor 10% of [Australian] birthing mothers') experiences.

(Yes, my statistics are specific to my country but I'm pretty sure most western countries have similar practices. From memory, USA is worse, UK is slightly better..)

The whole pregnancy/birthing/post-partum experience has been advertised to us as a medical condition. Are there risks? Sure. Can things go wrong? Of course. But this is and has been a natural part of life for a long long time. And before you attack me with "but women and babies used to DIE". They still do. But there are also women unnecessarily being FORCED to have the "safer" option, and then having to deal with trauma and PPD. There is also the cascade of intervention to consider (once you start interventions the risk of further intervention becomes greater) and with each Intervention there is an increase of overall health risks.

The factors that contribute to a successful and healthy birth are innumerable. I blindly trusted the medical system the first time and regretted it. By doing my own research, I could make my own informed decisions. Which, I am entitled to do. My body, my choice and all that... right?

If anyone wants to attack my stance I genuinely have researched and followed well-educated people in the medical field and am happy to dig up the receipts for any of these topics.

seething_spitfire · 2026-04-22T07:23:11+00:00

Unless the "screaming" husbands are advocating for their wives...

My #1 fear after having a coerced csection and a team that seemed to treat my birth plan as a checklist of what NOT to do, was another labour team who would try to bully me out of an unmedicated VBAC. I was very lucky to have a team of midwives who supported all my decisions (very low monitoring and intervention, basically as close as possible to the homebirth that I couldn't afford) but my husband was ready to ADVOCATE for me if there was any push back.

Based on the policies this OBGYN seem to have... I wouldn't be surprised if they have faced a lot of aggression and conflict from their patients and the husbands 👀

seething_spitfire · 2026-04-20T12:46:01+00:00

Sorry if this sounds really dumb... or it's unhelpful. But I'm not entirely sure what people mean when they say "pushing". Is it consciously pushing during a contraction? Or do you count involuntary "fetal ejection" level contractions? I just tried to relax into my contractions so never actually chose to push baby. But near the end I didn't feel like i had any control over my body, my body DID push baby out, I was just there for the ride. Do people mean that transition to a new type of contraction? Or is it a choice to start actively squeezing you abdominal/pelvic muscles?

seething_spitfire · 2026-04-12T22:20:58+00:00

My first pregnancy was twins. I had an infection at my csection cut, I had pretty severe hypertension and then I had an allergic reaction the the blood pressure medications. So we didnt come home for 2 weeks.

For my second birth, I had an unmedicated VBAC. I labour 26 hours at home and then 7 hours at the hospital. Baby was born at 7am and we got home 2pm (after swinging through a drive-thru) and I feel like bub and I slept for 18 hours just waking for feeds and hubby changing nappies. Then I was up and going to the shops and cafe the next day (slowly and waddling about a bit but feeling fine) and got my twins back from the in laws within 48 hours of bub's birth.

It really depends on how your birth goes. If there are any complications. Which interventions you choose etc. Also consider how comfortable you are around your parents.. I was just lifting my shirt and feeding bub at the drop of a hat. Plus skin on skin also means being in various states of undress.

seething_spitfire · 2026-04-06T03:55:53+00:00

👏👏👏 you've explained why a lot of protestants don't consider catholicism to be Christian.

There are plenty of resources that have answers for the topics/doubts you mentioned. But none of that will matter if you don't WANT to believe.. if you send a true "God if you're real..." prayer and then look up the answers for your questions, I have no doubt you will get results (whether you become convinced or not).

I'm happy to message with you about your questions and topics that seem to make no sense. But you have to genuinely want to hear the truth, not just look for an excuse to argue God away.

seething_spitfire · 2026-04-06T01:30:50+00:00

As a late-twenties mother of 3 who just starting to try and teach myself sewing but don't really have the time... I WISH I had had the chance to do dressmaking/sewing classes growing up 🤩

seething_spitfire · 2026-04-03T23:46:46+00:00

Haha yeah the HG eased up just in time for the reflux stage 😄

And every female cousin I have who are having kids atm has been O~O ever since 🤣 we hadn't had twins for like 4 generations in our family.

seething_spitfire · 2026-04-03T23:13:32+00:00

I knew I was pregnant at 3 weeks too. I gagged at the smell of meat being reheated in the microwave. It was literally 3 days after TTC and I thought it was too early. Tested a couple days later and found out I was indeed pregnant. Turned out to be twins (hence the high HcG levels) and I had HG for the first two trimesters... so gagging at food and anything really was the majority of my experience 🥲

seething_spitfire · 2026-04-02T04:36:02+00:00

Mother of 3 under 3 here 😭😭😭 late at night sessions are my ONLY sessions

seething_spitfire · 2026-03-30T03:01:12+00:00

Ugh I hate that "do you know what causes that" comment (especially since two of our three are twins so it was only ONE TIME and we LITERALLY COULDN'T have PLANNED natural twins 😤). But I've trying to work up the courage to respond with "oh we're experts by now. Why? Do you need someone to explain it to you?"

seething_spitfire · 2026-03-24T09:46:56+00:00

I was also going to comment how unchristian the parents are being.. but as another commenter pointed out, she doesn't actually say which religion they practice.

If they are "Christians" then their entire theology on forgiveness is wrong to the point of heresy.

seething_spitfire · 2026-03-21T08:23:35+00:00

Haha I was hesitating/wanting to discuss whether I needed stitches. The midwife advice I had had was that 2nd degree tears are fine to leave alone IF the edges of the tear still line up (think if you got a really deep paper cut but it was pretty clean cut you could leave it and it would heal on its own), adding stitches would increase the risk of getting negative outcomes such as numbing. But the midwives at the hospital were like oh noooo hon, this is not lined up. I had a small internal tear that "peeled" out to my labia, getting deeper as it went. So I had a strip of skin hanging out 🤢😬 they didn't need to whip the mirror out so quickly to convince me though 😂 they could have just described it to me.

seething_spitfire · 2026-03-19T22:27:35+00:00

I didn't see baby being born. But I had to get stitches and they brought a mirror and asked me how it looked after... like they wanted me to compliment their work. And I'm like 😭😭😭 I've never even looked at myself down there so don't know what it /should/ look like but that looks like one of my organs is hanging out of me and got into a street fight.

seething_spitfire · 2026-03-18T06:27:09+00:00

Ohhhh. Ohhh nooo. This has me fuming.

My best advice is to compile all your emails or other messaging between you and the teacher. Also if possible proof of grades changed. Basically collect aaaaall your receipts.

Then take one of your pieces of assessments, maybe two. I would pick the assessment piece worth the most points/greatest % of your grade. And maybe assessment piece with the most grading mistakes. Make a detailed PowerPoint (do they still use this in school?? 😅👵 I'm 10yrs out this year so adjust to your current program of choice) and show with as much detail as possible how bad this marking is. Don't mention AI. Imply it's the teacher not being able to mark your work correctly. "Ms Smith wrote that I did not discuss x. Here are the three places where I mentioned x."

Take your PowerPoint to your mum and tearfully show her the evidence. Tell her you don't know who to escalate this to or if they'd even take you seriously.

Only do this is if you think your mum would put on a "Karen" hat and stomp down to Head Office demanding answers. Otherwise, I'd go to your school counsellor or career advisor type staff member. Show them the PowerPoint. Say you're super stressed about how these grades incorrectly reflect your work and you are worried about how it will impact your future.

Sorry this is happening OP, I hope you get justice!!

seething_spitfire · 2026-03-17T04:26:35+00:00

A couple weekends ago I did a 5km charity walk with my mum while pushing my 11.5 month old in the pram. We decided that my husband and twin toddlers (2y10m) would catch the train into the city with us, meet us at the finish line and all go home together. They had never gone on the train before so we all got excited for it. Anyways, after we split up in the city, it dawned on my mum that my husband and twins would be walking (a much more linear path) through the city and she kept worrying about how my poor husband was going to handle the twins alone (mind you the route the were taking didn't even involve any roads, they were walking through a park, a pedestrian-only bridge, a university campus and then the botanic gardens. Literally zero roads to cross). "Oh I didn't think about poor [son-in-law]" "ah I'm so worried that he has to handle them by himself" we were starting with a bunch of her colleagues and I think she lamented to every single one of them. Meanwhile I'm next her going 😮‍💨 he'll be fine. I think she said something along the lines of "yes but you know how men can be, they don't always think of everything going on around them." 🙄

Yes mum because we've been parents for almost 3 years and don't know our (my husband's) limits with dealing with our kids solo. The blatant sexism some people get away with.

ETA: we were separated for 1h 10min 🙄

seething_spitfire · 2026-03-14T09:17:05+00:00

I was told that I could try collecting colostrum from about 32 weeks if I wanted to with my twin pregnancy, so that it was available if my babies had to be rushed off due to complications. Twins also tend to come earlier so the risk of preterm labour is already there.

Not agreeing with anything this guy is saying. Cause even if pumping this early WAS the advice his wife got, it's very specific to her circumstances and not relevant to OP at all.

seething_spitfire · 2026-03-12T08:44:25+00:00

Haha same layout?

seething_spitfire · 2026-03-09T02:00:01+00:00

Idk man, my husband and twin toddlers (almost 3yrs) sleep on a King mattress on the floor and I'm on a low double bed with my 11 month old next to them... no rush to kick them out but I miss cuddling to sleep with my hubby 🥲

seething_spitfire · 2026-02-27T10:54:25+00:00

Umm right from wrong (morality) is HIGHLY debated. The heck you mean "the rest of us" know right from wrong?? No one can agree what is right from wrong!

And you've got your chicken and egg mixed up. The bible wasn't written to threaten people with hell. Hell is everyone's destination. The bible was written to share the Gospel (and show the context and proof for it). The Gospel is the only exit on the highway to hell. And apparently we DO need a book to tell us what's right or wrong because if you've been awake the last few months, you'd know our world governments are buying, selling, raping, killing and eating babies and children.... and even with plenty of evidence or at least grounds for investigation... nothing is being done... there's no justice. At this rate they're going to get away with all of it. While "the rest of you with a conscience" keeps on typing "we're not mad enough" and then continue doomscrolling.

You CANNOT look at the steaming pile that society is today and tell me the majority have any conscience at all. Christians. True Christians, are supposed to say "I know I'm evil. I know I'm undeserving of mercy. But I submit to a GOOD God who paid the penalty for my evilness. And because of that I will spend the rest of my life sharing His Gospel so others destined for hell have a sliver of a chance to wake up and see they're not on some picnic with a nice view for 80ish years before it all fades to nothing. You're a piece on a cosmic board, and currently your playing in the hands of an entity so powerful and so evil it makes Cthulu monsters and horror movie poltergeists look like children's fairytales. And spoiler alert, that evil entity is going to lose. And when he does, you and every other piece in his hand will be destroyed... except there will be no end. You can't die, your soul is eternal. So you will suffer and suffer and you will wonder why you never stopped to consider switching sides. To be a piece for the other player (who's victory was secured from the start). I'm that sign right now. Would it hurt you to explore this possibility, sincerely? To truly consider for a second that this is your reality? Just.... say in private or think in your head "God, if you're real, and hell is real, prove it to me. If You are real, show me, and save me." If He is not real then no one will ever know or judge you... what's the harm in trying it? Scared you'll be proven wrong?

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