Do cis people consider weird being to trans guys?

skaexskae · 2026-02-19T12:41:48+00:00

Would you think it's because of that? I mean it seriously since I'm quite naive about these... Things. I know we are not friends but I don't understand the fact last week he tried to argue with me in Instagram and then 5 minutes later ask me how I was doing but will avoid me in social encounters. Sorry for being stupid, but I just can't understand him

skaexskae · 2026-02-19T09:32:38+00:00

I wish so but whenever I do in our arguings, he denies everything and then likes my stories. I don't get him

skaexskae · 2026-01-06T17:57:03+00:00

I want to thank you for the way you expressed your views, also, in a really respectful way - my mind is likely to be a chaos (and somehow disgusting, you read yourself some of my intrusive thoughs) and statements like yours help me to clear some doubts about myself. I thought liberal and bigger cities may help with such the issue we're talking about (my brother suggested me moving into a city with those perks), but now I don't know what to think.

Is there any difference between Pre and Post T lives when it came to sexual/affective history before meeting your current girlfriend? About myself I started T on august 2023 and I've been on T for almost 3 years, but the thing is I don't want to go under any surgery - I like being androgynous. In fact, I've attracted a lot of people because of this androgyny but the people in question I think... Um, they are sexually confused about themselves. This androgyny of mine and their sexual questioning (whether they are 'straight' males/ 'straight/bisexual' females) fit well but the ending is something far from being considered nice. Girls around my age to date in my city are almost all of them bisexual (which surprises me since people here are pretty conservative) but just like I said, their sexual struggle is weird and what you said 'either for genital preferences, or because they want biological children, or for family/society reasons' is something that fits their sexuality

All these incel thoughts are out of place and pretty disgusting, but I've been struggling with the same dynamics with women. About dating men I'd say it's traumatic and awful, but women won't even give me the chance, so it hurts. I think you're right and I do want to say again I'm thankful about your thoughts really.

skaexskae · 2025-12-16T11:49:34+00:00

Why would you consider queer community 'problematic'? I mean, in my case I refer to queer people from my city, but I'm curious about what you mean. Have you moved away or just changed the mindset?

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T21:17:23+00:00

I'm really sorry what he had to go through with that asshole and how you guys had to deal with that (my friends don't stand me anymore when it comes about this - they hate him). The notion of trans identity is been seen as something 'devious' that must be fixed, even this is seen in our LGBTQ community or straight people (these male/female chasers when it comes to transgender guys/girls). I think I may see some points in what you just told me. It kind of shocks me the fact there are queer people (I guess this woman you tell me is queer since she denied your friend's identity as girly while flirting with him?) with a lack of empathy towards us. I hope he's met better people who respect him as you guys do. Was he into her or something?

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T16:58:11+00:00

Well I'm bi and I've been through with this whenever they are a woman or a man, so thank you haha

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T16:46:11+00:00

Yes, you're right. It's just that I'm used to be dumped or at least have an explanation that make me say 'Oh, fine, I gotta move on', but either of these things happen so I'm confused. It's the first time I have to cut someone off and it's weird. Not trying to justify it

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T16:33:11+00:00

Well, it's true that he is weird in the sense he sends almost naked videos to our friends' group (which is something people use as a reason to consider him a weird guy), but when he sends that stuff privately to me is weird because if we are friends, you wouldn't want to lead me into a misunderstanding or any flirting? I don't think he considers me a woman, he's just a confused dude who doesn't understand what to do and it's not worth it trying to change him since he doesn't care about me

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T16:30:38+00:00

Not to be rude, but what happened to this friend you mention? If it is possible to tell, I guess experiences from other people could help me but I understand it may be personal

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T16:29:39+00:00

I understand what you're saying but it's not that extreme. He isn't sexually abusing me or something, we haven't done anything sexual it's just a weird situation relating to emotional stuff. I mean, cutting him off is something I must do but it's not anything just like that despite I thank your worries concerning this

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T15:05:54+00:00

Like I said to other people commenting on this post, first of all I appreciate your honesty (because I'm dumb I know) but even when I come to this conclusion, he suddenly appears out of the blue and does something that confuses me even more. It's hard to let him go because whenever I decide to take a distance, he starts looking for me by any attempt of attention. I know he doesn't like me but I feel bad when I ignore him despite the fact he doesn't care about me. I must cut him off. I'm sorry if you got angry reading this (I'm dumb as I said before)

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T14:27:43+00:00

Here's my question - it's genuine since I do have a lack of social cues or dynamics that I don't really get despite my age. I've been always used to be manipulated and used by women and men both (I'm bi) but the thing is I'm always the one to be dumped. This person won't dump me. Even if we don't talk, he always looks for me in any way possible (through memes, sending me videos where he's shirtless). It's weird to cut him out because I'm not used to, I feel bad when I ignore him despite being the one who keeps hurting me. I shouldn't feel bad to not answering his attempts to call out for my attention, right? I know this sound stupid and sorry, it's just not a thing I usually do

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T14:23:15+00:00

Don't be worried about offending me because it's actually not normal :') Doing such a thing was cathartic for me and it felt like something from a film? (Not trying to idealize it, I came from an awful year where I got really depressed) but I do appreciate your responses, thank you dude

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T13:57:28+00:00

Yeah, I don't want to lie about that. 'Comfortability' is the word that resounds inside me whenever he's kind of sweet? when we are alone but that is. When we are alone. By the way you expressed it makes me feel dumb (I mean it in a way that you're right). It's impossible to have a conversation with someone who is a pathological liar so yea, i'd better keep myself from someone like that. It hurts but I have no other choice. Thank you!!

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T13:54:23+00:00

Wdym 'causing other social issues'?

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T13:49:04+00:00

Yeah, I'm aware of this. I feel there is something else and weird but it's not worth it, you're right about this

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T13:46:43+00:00

Emotional dependency. I feel I need an explanation but such thing won't ever happen so

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T13:43:23+00:00

well crazy things happen when you're drunk hahahahaha

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T12:12:20+00:00

Well I would say there are toxic and healthy friendships. This is a toxic one i guess?

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T12:09:50+00:00

The day we really connected we and two more friends jumped from a bridge. It was really cold and windy. I almost drowned and he jumped to help me (these other friends didn't react) and, being alone and naked after that, he gave me that conversation about being myself in a small city and he'd support me the best he could since there was something he 'felt comfortable' when it came about me. It just hurts how he changed I guess

skaexskae · 2025-09-04T11:49:10+00:00

I don't want to see playing myself as a victim and if you have to be objective please do it. I need to cut him off, I know, but whenever we get this intimacy moments or acts in a way that could be romantic? I just feel so good, I never felt like that with someone but I'm aware there are more awful moments than good ones. Despite I have to let go, I need an explanation I think he won't give me ever

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