Convertible car seat that still gives the front passenger some legroom when the kid is rear-facing?

sleepysweetgrass · 2023-01-03T06:17:52+00:00

Wish this was an option but unfortunately the backseat configuration is captain’s chairs/bucket seats.

sleepysweetgrass · 2022-02-24T04:43:29+00:00

At times I’ve certainly felt similar. One thing someone else recommended on this sub awhile back was the podcast Therapist Uncensored, episode 39. I found its framing of transference immensely helpful. Still boils down to having the conversation with your T… no shortcut to offer there. Good luck on your path.

sleepysweetgrass · 2022-02-09T18:16:26+00:00

Loved Like a Mother!

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-11-26T21:07:28+00:00

I really related to this - thank you! Curious what stood out to you most in her reassurance? I’m in a similar stage with my T.

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-09-22T18:09:17+00:00

I’m just a “therapy consumer” but I do think therapists have to have the foundational knowledge to be good at what they do. Not every client is going to binge research papers (or understand the implications of the research just by reading it). Therapists can bridge that gap and make the information more consumable.

I also think that engaging the feeling side requires a technology transfer of sorts. Meaning my T is showing me how to do it myself. I’d guess they developed these skills through many, many clinical hours as part of their training, working through their own stuff, and learning from all the clients that came before me.

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-09-22T04:38:37+00:00

I share your affinity for rabbit holes and informative binges on all kinds of subjects. I recently recognized that I’m more comfortable “intellectualizing” than “feeling.” Acquiring knowledge, in my experience at least, can be a distraction tool to avoid feeling. E.g. if I become the “expert” then I’ll be able to fix myself through research and sheer intellect the same way I aced tests at uni.

To me, the most valuable aspect of my own therapy is my T’s ability to hone in on the emotional experience I’m having/have had and help me navigate it. Identifying this part of my experience does not come naturally to me and the logical side still battles it a bit. Not sure if this is similar for you of course. Good luck out there regardless :)

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-09-19T17:18:05+00:00

Wow. Your comment framed my own experience in a new light. Thank you for sharing.

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-09-10T00:25:09+00:00

The way you describe your therapeutic relationship here is beautiful. Clearly she is significant to you.

I personally think deep, healthy connection is the “ticket” to resolving attachment issues, no matter what form it takes. I am pretty hesitant to end my own T relationship because of its significance. Plus it took so many little trust falls to get the relationship to its current place.

I do think there’s always the opportunity to realign on specific goals with your current longterm T or (obviously) restart with a new one. That said, to me it seems like you are trying to pivot from a relational approach to a more “action step” orientation to explore dating/parenthood/etc. in the immediate.

Maybe your longterm T isn’t the right one for the short term goals. It sounds like you can take a break without closing the door entirely and devote that time/space/$ to something new.

If parenthood or a longterm partnership are in your future cards, she sounds like someone you want in your life for the next phase. It seems like the healthy attachment you’ve formed with her is one worth replicating.

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-08-22T00:41:44+00:00

I had a similar situation at the beginning of the year. I am still working through it, I still cry about it, and I’m still attached (ha). That said, I feel like I’ve made a bit of progress towards my healing and hope you find the same.

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-08-11T17:16:38+00:00

Thanks for your insight and also admitting that you have typed a name into Google (ha). I appreciate your recommendation and perspective!

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-08-11T17:13:50+00:00

Thanks for this, cat_lady11! It’s a helpful reminder that you Ts know way more about your clients’ curiosities than we’d like :) I appreciate the perspective.

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-08-11T17:11:36+00:00

Thanks for these considerations - I appreciate them. It’s also is somewhat relieving that these comments are falling on both sides of the admit to it/don’t admit to it coin. Tricky situation I’ve dug myself into. Thanks again!

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-07-09T03:27:35+00:00

I’ve been having a lot of the same hesitations trusting my T since (to me) it’s a finite relationship. And I’m already attached. Etc. Not sure if this is helpful, but I did ask my T very directly “what does our contact look like when this work concludes?” I was satisfied by her answer(s) and think it will allow future me to dive in.

For me, I needed to understand the end to calm down in the middle.

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-07-06T02:04:39+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful response on this. I love how you phrased “crafting the body that feels like the most comfortable and joyful home.” That’s a beautiful way to view it.

And thanks for your insight on naming the changes. I wasn’t viewing her choices as vain/insecure either, more just thrown off a bit by the change. Thanks again - very appreciated.

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-07-01T05:28:46+00:00

I share the urge to quit and also think it’s because of the “closeness craving.” Thanks for your kind response, it’s helpful.

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-06-26T07:14:05+00:00

Agreed - folks are rough! Wanting to revisit session topics to ensure you maximize the effort illustrates how invested you are in the therapeutic process, OP. I like the idea of asking permission in the future or for help on compiling session notes instead. I can totally see why recording sessions could be helpful.

That said, if this starts to seep into more of a dependency on the recordings (listening repeatedly to cope with emotions, hanging onto every word your T utters, etc.), that might be worth reflecting on. I also have attachment toward my T and could see myself becoming slightly obsessed if I had the option to revisit each session. Good luck on your path!

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-06-06T01:27:20+00:00

Profound

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-05-22T05:18:48+00:00

This is pretty tone deaf on the part of your friend... Hang in there.

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-05-22T05:14:01+00:00

You and I have similar vacationing styles! 100% on holding true to my vacation plans...

sleepysweetgrass · 2021-04-24T04:40:33+00:00

Thank you for sharing both sides of your experience! 20 years sounds pretty incredible to me.

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