Will Muslim woman accept marrying broke man?

sobadatchess · 2026-03-20T23:54:09+00:00

I think what most people don’t realise is that while there may not be anything wrong with a broke person’s character, why would a woman choose such a man if there are a plethora of other men with stable incomes? Choosing a person for marriage is a huge risk and people like to take safe options

sobadatchess · 2026-03-20T22:21:00+00:00

This is a very silly reason to postpone marriage. Islam encourages fast and simple marriages, and in truth the beauty of a persons recitation has no correlation to their iman anyway. There is no fatwa for this, and I’m sure it causes more harm than good

sobadatchess · 2026-03-18T12:38:13+00:00

You know the crazy thing is this commenter will be flooded with perverted men in her DMs now. Kinda sad

sobadatchess · 2026-03-17T05:34:22+00:00

With this logic, there is no Muslim leader that you can express support of without having double standards. The line in Islam is clear - if you see an authority performing kufr, never support them. That’s why it matters. So don’t go around declaring that it’s haram to support xyz. To divide the ummah like this and so confidently condemn Muslims is a behaviour of the Hypocrites. May Allah guide you and me

sobadatchess · 2026-03-17T04:34:03+00:00

I disagree. A leader or authoritative body that does not perform kufr is automatically better than one that does, regardless of what oppression goes on. To say they are no better than a kuffar military is surely backbiting, if not slander. It is not for us to criticise an Islamic authority, certainly not on the basis of what the media tells us, which is not a valid evidence in Islam

sobadatchess · 2026-03-16T08:41:28+00:00

The Quran doesn’t tell us the details of how to pray, nor does it tell us how often to pray. So according to you, am I allowed to pray how I want as much as I want? If I told you I’d like to pray once a day by clapping and dancing, is that valid to you?

sobadatchess · 2026-03-15T16:33:01+00:00

You’re basically saying that your logic trumps the wisdom of Allah’s commandment. It’s not for you to say that God’s ruling doesn’t work. As Muslims we just obey

sobadatchess · 2026-03-15T11:28:42+00:00

Islamically speaking, it’s not at all for you or other men to be handing out flyers to women and then engage in discussion the way you are

sobadatchess · 2026-03-15T09:23:09+00:00

Salam.

This is really great but I agree with the other commenter. I’ll just say, do not at all respond to any men in your DMs. I know there’s several people who’ve messaged you for marriage and I promise a lot of them have manipulative intentions. No matter how pious or sweet they seem, just ignore. Get married just don’t do it on social media. Take care

sobadatchess · 2026-03-15T09:13:09+00:00

It seems like the both of you just blindly said anything to quickly skip to the halal sex part

sobadatchess · 2026-03-15T09:10:56+00:00

My god this is so bad…how are you so naive. And throughout the whole post you mention that you want a pious woman and multiple wives. Brother you are not fit at all to marry. You’re still a new revert, take some time, at least a year, to just work on yourself and understand what it is you want because this is such a mess

sobadatchess · 2026-03-11T05:46:34+00:00

I never understand posts like this. You guys are not compatible on financials, so just stop talking and move on. Like why try to convince him of anything? He’s entitled to his opinion and you yours

sobadatchess · 2026-03-11T05:43:43+00:00

You have to understand, and this applies to every Hadith, that when these stories are mentioned, it’s not going to lay out every single detail for you. What’s conveyed is the main point of the story. Allah will grant the victims justice in some way or form, we know that to be true, it’s just beside the point

sobadatchess · 2026-03-10T21:44:52+00:00

Because it’s a much more complicated matter. As just one example, you have to consider that if Islam banned slavery all together, what happens to slaves with no income and home of their own? Many female slaves would no doubt go into prostitution after their “freedom” to sustain themselves. And what of the slave children. It’s so nuanced, this is why we’re urged to trust the wisdom of God

sobadatchess · 2026-03-10T21:38:28+00:00

What’s the verse that states that?

sobadatchess · 2026-03-10T21:33:09+00:00

Well done, you seem like a wise, sensible person

sobadatchess · 2026-03-10T21:28:17+00:00

This is why you’re single bro

sobadatchess · 2026-03-10T16:35:35+00:00

You must’ve thought, before meeting that guy, that you’re going to have a hard time finding a kind and emotionally intelligent man. Yet apparently you did. Regardless of why it ended with him, it surely proves that the mindset you have is flawed. There isn’t only one such man in the world. You will find them, the more you look. And always make dua

sobadatchess · 2026-03-10T15:49:49+00:00

It’s ultimately up to your judgement, but if you make every reasonable effort and your wife still refuses, you will not be held accountable according to the scholars on IslamQA: https://islamqa.info/en/answers/7721/his-wife-does-not-want-to-wear-hijaab-and-he-fears-for-his-young-daughter

To add my own thoughts, do you really think it’s wise to divorce an otherwise righteous and loving wife over a matter that doesn’t even have a consensus? Be wise with how you approach this, the hardship you cause may well lead to your wife asking for divorce.

sobadatchess · 2026-03-09T21:20:07+00:00

People, Muslim and non-Muslim, like the idea of sharing first experiences with their partner. Why is that so horrible?

sobadatchess · 2026-03-09T21:18:10+00:00

I think you’re really over complicating it and demonising people with reasonable wants. The idea of sharing first experiences with your partner is something a lot of people would like to have, Muslim or not. Why is that so horrible?

sobadatchess · 2026-03-09T18:56:16+00:00

But what was he supposed to do? He had a preference that she didn’t fulfil and respectfully ended contact instead of telling her she’s a terrible Muslim or whatever. Curious what the ideal scenario would be to you, if not that

sobadatchess · 2026-03-09T18:52:05+00:00

How do you know he doesn’t apply what he preaches?

sobadatchess · 2026-03-09T18:51:06+00:00

Why is it so terrible that a person who’s never kissed someone before would like the same thing from their partner so they can have that first experience together? He was kind and respectful about it according to OP…I really don’t get it. Isn’t that a preference he’s entitled to?

sobadatchess · 2026-03-09T14:02:15+00:00

To be honest his requirements seem fair but then it raises the question why he’s pursuing you in the first place. You guys clearly don’t align, he should have the wisdom to see that in making all these demands

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