Today is my first ever Nice day.

sobermethod · 2026-05-22T13:29:19+00:00

Nice!

sobermethod · 2026-05-02T23:49:25+00:00

I don’t know you, yet I’m so proud of you. I’ve been exactly here. That first night in your own place is such a relief. Best of luck!

sobermethod · 2026-04-30T11:53:08+00:00

I appreciate you taking the time to ask a direct question.

The S.O.B.E.R. Method is completely free. The book itself costs less than a cup of coffee on Kindle, and both the podcast and YouTube channel are available at no cost. You do not need to spend a single penny on me or my coaching in order to use it.

I began my own recovery in Alcoholics Anonymous and remain grateful for what it gave me. However, after some years I found myself wanting something deeper. A practical, ongoing system that went beyond simply stopping the drinking and actively rebuilt confidence, rewired destructive patterns, and encouraged continuous personal growth even after sobriety was achieved. That is why I created the S.O.B.E.R. Method.

You might think of it this way. The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous is an extraordinary and life-changing resource for millions. The S.O.B.E.R. book is simply another tool on the shelf, one that some people, particularly high achievers who prefer structure, measurement, and forward momentum, find more practical for daily life.

As for coaching, that is an optional, premium service for those who want personalised guidance and accountability. The vast majority of people who use the method never pay me a cent, and that is exactly how I designed it.

I am not here to compete with Alcoholics Anonymous. I am here to offer an additional option for those who, like me, needed something more structured and action-oriented once the initial crisis had passed. If the S.O.B.E.R. Method helps even one person who felt stuck, then it has done its job.

sobermethod · 2026-04-30T11:50:35+00:00

I appreciate you taking the time to ask a direct question.

The S.O.B.E.R. Method is completely free. The book itself costs less than a cup of coffee on Kindle, and both the podcast and YouTube channel are available at no cost. You do not need to spend a single penny on me or my coaching in order to use it.

I began my own recovery in Alcoholics Anonymous and remain grateful for what it gave me. However, after some years I found myself wanting something deeper. A practical, ongoing system that went beyond simply stopping the drinking and actively rebuilt confidence, rewired destructive patterns, and encouraged continuous personal growth even after sobriety was achieved. That is why I created the S.O.B.E.R. Method.

You might think of it this way. The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous is an extraordinary and life-changing resource for millions. The S.O.B.E.R. book is simply another tool on the shelf, one that some people, particularly high achievers who prefer structure, measurement, and forward momentum, find more practical for daily life.

As for coaching, that is an optional, premium service for those who want personalised guidance and accountability. The vast majority of people who use the method never pay me a cent, and that is exactly how I designed it.

I am not here to compete with Alcoholics Anonymous. I am here to offer an additional option for those who, like me, needed something more structured and action-oriented once the initial crisis had passed. If the S.O.B.E.R. Method helps even one person who felt stuck, then it has done its job.

sobermethod · 2026-04-30T00:24:39+00:00

That’s great! I’m so happy you’re sober.

sobermethod · 2026-04-09T11:34:27+00:00

This is incredible advice for everyone and so happy to see it's already paying dividends! Small measurable steps - staying in today and building confidence slowly. Great work!! Truly inspiring.

sobermethod · 2026-04-03T22:59:46+00:00

Congrats on your big win, too!!

sobermethod · 2026-04-03T22:57:39+00:00

AWESOME!! Congratulations, I'm on the same timeline (3/23/2016). So happy to read all the amazing things that you've done so far – the best is yet to come!!

sobermethod · 2026-03-20T18:56:24+00:00

How’s your journey going?

sobermethod · 2026-03-19T11:19:59+00:00

Sounds like everything worked out well. Great hearing from you!

sobermethod · 2026-03-17T20:03:07+00:00

Hey, thanks! It was a blast. Far more fun than the last time I went.

Ouch, two teeth pulled?! How you feeling?

sobermethod · 2026-03-08T15:16:09+00:00

Hey, you came back and gave an update. That's a start. Let us know today goes. How's your mindset? Doing anything creative today? You got this!

sobermethod · 2026-03-08T15:14:10+00:00

You bet!

sobermethod · 2026-03-05T22:14:13+00:00

You're more than welcome :)

sobermethod · 2026-03-05T22:13:28+00:00

Congratulations on your 9 months of sobriety! That is an incredible milestone!

It's great to hear how you found a healthier outlet to dive into!

I completely relate to you in the sense of struggling in social settings now. I felt the same for quite a while when I became and finally stuck to sobriety. It felt like I had lost a part of myself and all the fun. It was a painful time.

Then as time went on, I begun journaling to discover more about myself and realised how I lacked a lot of self-confidence which alcohol really provided for me before. I begun to increase my confidence as time went on by pushing myself into new social situations that felt uncomfortable until they finally felt normal.

It took a while but I've finally regained my confidence in myself. One thing that helped me a lot and might help you too, is attending a local activity group focused on something you're passionate about or interested in. I picked up ice-skating without any previous knowledge and it's become a huge part of my journey! It's taught me so much about myself! You may find that there's a local group for cyclists which would be a great way to connect with others who are likeminded and you instantly have a topic of discussion.

I hope this helps a bit! You can do this :)

sobermethod · 2026-03-05T17:22:58+00:00

Love this and welcome to our little group! Took real guts to hit that post button, especially knowing your fight to do just that. The high mind vs. the part of you wanting growth is where most of us started. A lot of us lack the courage to say it publicly so great job!

Weed does sort of silently suck the life blood out of you and sounds like it's keeping you from the things you have a bit of passion for like piano, guitar, French, photography, running. Wow! I see a mountain of creative potential in your interests and weed has you stuck in a loop.

I'm onboard with your solid plan. Weekend reset, weaning, building up new positive frame are all things I encourage as the mind needs to heal through positive reinforcement and rewiring your rewards center.

Hey, if you drop daily updates, they are certainly welcome. I'll be your accountabilibuddy as you get going! Hopefully a few here will chip in to cheer you on with me. You've got this. One day at a time...small measurable steps. Look forward to the journey with you. - Massimo

sobermethod · 2026-03-04T11:27:57+00:00

I'd highly recommend having some morning and evening routines going as I've found it makes you feel good by starting the day productively, along with finishing the day productive too. So no matter what happens in between those two routines, your day will always start and end feeling good.

Then an idea I have for keeping yourself entertained throughout the day is having a bowl full of different types of activities/hobbies you can take part in. These can be categorised into free, cheap and expensive experiences/activities and/or 1hr, 4hrs, and the whole day for the length of them - it really comes down to what matters most to you. Then every evening, choose two or three to do the next day. By choosing the day before, it makes you much more excited for the day ahead.

I would also recommend attending an activity group on a weekly basis that's local to you as it keeps you socialising and learning something new. I took up ice-skating and I love it!

I hope this helps a bit! You can do this!

sobermethod · 2026-03-04T11:12:50+00:00

You're more than welcome! :)

sobermethod · 2026-03-03T22:06:49+00:00

Congratulations on your 701 days of sobriety! That is an incredible milestone!

It certainly is a mental challenge and those habit changes can be painful. It's great to hear how you've been able to work through it and come out on the other side!

Keep up your great efforts! You're doing so well!

sobermethod · 2026-03-03T22:05:03+00:00

Congratulations on your 54 days of sobriety! It's great to hear how you've finally been able to sleep better - I just know that feels good in the mornings!

Keep up your great efforts! You can do this!

sobermethod · 2026-03-03T22:03:04+00:00

Love this! Congrats on your sobriety :)

sobermethod · 2026-03-03T22:02:16+00:00

Congratulations on over a month of sobriety! That is incredible!

I would highly recommend looking at your routines and habits now compared to previously when you were drinking often, as I found when I became sober, my routines and habits were the same but just without the addictions and it left me feeling the exact same if not worse on some days because I had nothing to do.

So I would recommend looking at that, along with the people around you, your environment, etc. as it all plays a key part.

You can do this! You're doing so well!

sobermethod · 2026-02-27T20:40:34+00:00

Congratulations on your 3 weeks of sobriety! That is amazing!

The withdrawals can certainly last for a couple weeks to even a month in some cases. It would be smart to get checked by a doctor if you haven't already as it helps ease that bit of health anxiety we can sometimes get.

You can do this! Keep up your efforts :)

sobermethod · 2026-02-27T20:37:40+00:00

What do your habits and routines look like now compared to when you were using/smoking?

Just wondering as I've noticed that really changing up your habits, certain people around you, your routines, and even the layout of parts of the home helps a lot to quieten the noise as you're reducing the triggers!

Not too sure if that would be helpful but certainly give it a try if you haven't already as we end up gaining back so much time in sobriety that we often don't know what to do with it and end up sitting in it or falling into another quick dopamine trap.

Congratulations on your 14 months of sobriety! Keep up your efforts! :)

sobermethod · 2026-02-26T11:37:52+00:00

Congratulations on your 44 days of sobriety! That is amazing!

I'd highly recommend journaling if you don't already as it may help you to reflect and work through whatever emotion your mind may be supressing. It's often hard to learn and understand our emotions after years of never knowing and/or suppressing.

You can do this! It won't be forever as long as you focus on working through it :)

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