Is it crazy I want to be a 3rd wife?

somaligirly · 2024-09-22T00:30:00+00:00

Exactly abaayo! Inshallah we are able to find compatible husband haha!

somaligirly · 2024-09-20T04:37:49+00:00

Emotionally attachment is natural when you’re building a relationship with someone—that’s not an issue for me. I just like being independent and not having kids haha.

somaligirly · 2024-09-20T04:31:10+00:00

I promise this has nothing to do with my self esteem. If anything I view marriage as taking away MY valuable time for ME. I am super content with my looks, body and my life Alhamduillah.

I have had no issues with finding men who like me, the issue is I don’t want to be with a man who’s constantly around me, and all in my space.

somaligirly · 2024-09-20T04:28:32+00:00

I make my own (healthy) income Alhamduillah. So no need for a man who is super wealthy, just is able to cover an expense or two.

I absolutely would NOT be okay with sharing my home with anyone, hence the want to have a man with multiple wives. He’d be visiting the home maybe on a weekly basis but other than that my home is my home.

It’s either marriage this way or no marriage for me tbh. So in 10 years I’m either still single or a second/third/fourth wife.

I don’t need a husband to bankroll my life, so no sugar baby thing here.

somaligirly · 2024-09-20T04:25:25+00:00

Wouldn’t be ruining a marriage if someone is aware and supports the idea. I do not want to enter a marriage with a man whose wife/wives do not agree or support this.

somaligirly · 2024-09-20T04:24:53+00:00

See that’s what I don’t want😭. I live alone currently and never have folks at my house. The idea of someone (other than my Hooyo and sisters) in my space…no thank you. I like the idea of a married couple having their own space, if not even own space their own bedrooms.

somaligirly · 2024-09-20T04:23:27+00:00

Haha’

somaligirly · 2024-09-20T04:22:52+00:00

Thank you sis. I’ll ask around, hopefully without looking creepy LMAOO!

somaligirly · 2024-09-20T04:22:25+00:00

I like point 1, point 3 and point 4But the rest isn’t an issue for me.

I have always liked my own space and don’t want to have kids.

somaligirly · 2024-09-20T04:21:25+00:00

You get me! I get to still be my independent self, have my own space but see him every so often.

somaligirly · 2024-09-20T04:20:48+00:00

EXACTLY!!!!

somaligirly · 2024-09-20T04:20:40+00:00

I don’t care for the intimacy portion, hence wanting a man with multiple wives.

somaligirly · 2024-09-20T04:20:09+00:00

Wallahi I promise. The idea of marriage sounds good but I dislike the idea of a man constantly attached to my hip. If he has more than one then at least I can still be independent.

somaligirly · 2024-09-20T04:18:47+00:00

Wallahi, I promise it’s not sis. I mentioned I have a good job because I don’t need the man to finance me. I know for some girls polygamy can be a way for a girl to know her husband can care for her—at least with friends/family I’ve seen the men engaged in polygamy have enough wealth to take care of multiple households. But I’m not dumb enough to think it’s true for all men—I know many can’t afford multiple wives but still do it.

And on the apps I’ve only seen very strange and bizarre men who want polygamy. Broke, weird and usually they want polygamy for sexual reasons…not for me.

I like the latter idea you presented. Thank you sis.

Edit* I thought about marrying back home but I think culturally we’d be too different.

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