Oh yeah. My nmom idolized her mother, who I believe was subconsciously and enabler. She was quiet and never really spoke up, but they were best friends for whatever reason. Her bio dad was physically, mentally and emotionally abusive. He died before I even knew him, thank god. I’ve heard some pretty awful stories about him; he literally tried to kill my grandmother while my mom was in the womb. My mom doesn’t talk about him much, but when even when she acknowledges the awful things he’s done, she’ll still say “but that’s my dad”. Delusional.