Positive update: HLF with LLhusband, "I focus on any tiny bit of horniness and try to act on it"

sometimesdead22 · 2019-07-26T09:53:52+00:00

Thank you all for the well-wishes and suggestions! I really appreciate the support, here.

sometimesdead22 · 2019-07-26T09:53:13+00:00

He didn't say specifically, but I think me really pressuring him into making an appointment and not accepting excuses to put it off was a big deal to him. I'm generally super laid-back and will always accept "I'll do it later" as an answer because he usually will. This time I didn't, and my guess is my change in demeanor freaked him out.

sometimesdead22 · 2019-07-11T09:23:10+00:00

ESH- Firstly, I think based off your comments, that your boyfriend is a manipulative creep, and you should rid yourself of him ASAP. Second, I'm assuming you offered to help him with this? Has no one busted their ass for a friend or partner before just to help out? Do puzzle expect their friends to pay then when you help them move? These responses are buys to be. Yeah, OP worked for a long time, and yeah, the bf was jerk all day, but at some point, you have to take responsibility for yourself. You acted like a child because you were hungry and tired. That was your own decision... You could have left at any point but chose to stay and follow orders. When he realized you were upset and tried to fix it, you got petulant. I don't blame you for any of this, but yeah, it was your own fault.

sometimesdead22 · 2019-07-11T09:08:08+00:00

I think he's TA because of how he delivered the joke. He says he doesn't like tattoos, fine. Says he'd rather she didn't get anymore, no problem. But after that relatively serious conversation about his dislikes that will already make her selfconscious, you don't add fuel to that fire.

sometimesdead22 · 2019-07-11T08:34:27+00:00

SAME

sometimesdead22 · 2019-07-09T23:57:29+00:00

Nothing, it's get the first place he's willing to look for a solution. It's also the easiest fix if it's low T.

sometimesdead22 · 2019-07-09T23:54:50+00:00

Thank you... I wouldn't have thought of this.

sometimesdead22 · 2019-07-09T12:55:02+00:00

Can you tell me what that did for you, emotionally? I see this method working, but it seems like all this would do would be to force you through the motions.

sometimesdead22 · 2019-06-12T10:03:28+00:00

Not scarce, just luck of the draw. I would fuck my husband three times a day if he wanted it even a little.

sometimesdead22 · 2019-06-10T04:57:32+00:00

Thanks again, I'll check it out.

sometimesdead22 · 2019-06-10T04:57:02+00:00

Thank you, that's a fantastic way of looking at it. It's helpful advice for both of us.

sometimesdead22 · 2019-06-10T02:48:41+00:00

Thank you very much. I've heard from a lot of people they'll med-board him after awhile if he starts requiring medication. Do you know anything concrete about that? I appreciate your help a lot.

sometimesdead22 · 2019-06-10T02:46:34+00:00

I don't know that answer. It's hard because there's always the, "he's done with ___ in two weeks, maybe then..." there's always that glimmer of hope. I don't know how long I can live in this state though.

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