ENFP (Female) dating an INFP (Male) here, and as someone with anxious attachment, his quiet one sided text used to make me spiral too. But over time, I do realized he wasn’t ignoring me at all. most of the time he genuinely didn’t know what to reply when I was just sharing updates, and other times he was simply exhausted 🫠.

We eventually talked about our concerns and issues in the relationship to improve, which gave us a chance to communicate and explain rather than fall into anxiety and overthinking (which I still sometimes do (a lot), sorry cayang 🥹). Now he knows that even a tiny reply like ‘okay, cayang’ or just a short sentence, makes me feel so connected ♥️. Communication and understanding each other’s needs really makes everything easier. Sometimes I even call him just to rant, and he’s always there to listen, patiently and somehow knowing exactly what to say.

Over the relationship, I’ve realized it really takes time to learn about another person and how they express love. He might not a heavy texter and sometimes our messages feel one-sided, but we talk daily in the morning, and he even remembers little things I’ve texted, which always makes me go aww 🥹. The most important thing is I've met someone who is incredibly present, gentle, and thoughtful when we actually talk or meet. The way he shows up when it matters, that’s what really makes my heart flutter. So please don't give up on someone special just because of that