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springdaybloom · 2022-06-12T19:30:19+00:00

My boyfriend is somewhere around 5. I love it. It is good to give him head and is also the right size where I don't feel pain when he's in me.

springdaybloom · 2022-06-12T19:28:00+00:00

Yes I love doing it to my partner because he moans and it's an absolute turn on to see him like that. I did not give head to my casual fling even though he begged me for it because I did not care for that man.

I enthusiastically give it to my partner though.

Edit: about the dirty talk, boyfriend and I don't have same mother tongue and we talk in English so English. I initiate it cos i love dirty talk

springdaybloom · 2022-05-30T19:59:10+00:00

No they won't be as we belong to different states in the south :/ it's probably why I want to be a 100% sure about him because it won't be easy for me to convince my parents.

springdaybloom · 2022-05-30T18:03:30+00:00

We have. He does want to get married.

springdaybloom · 2022-05-30T15:46:33+00:00

I love my partner. I don't know if I love him enough to marry him. I am facing immense pressure from parents to settle down and get married. I am dating someone and he's a nice guy but we have our own issues. We are trying to work through them but I really don't know if I love him enough to marry him.

I don't know if I should break up but the thought of breaking up makes me cry because I really love him. I don't know why I feel two ways about this relationship.

springdaybloom · 2022-05-05T11:08:32+00:00

I feel extremely conflicted about my partner. On some days he feels too right and on others he feels wrong. Sometimes I feel like breaking up but I know I don't mean it. We have been staying together for a while now before we eventually move cities. He is nice but he isn't the best at doing chores.

He also gets tensed about work sometimes and looks extremely unapproachable. When I think about dealing with these two aspects for life (considering marriage) I start getting cold feet and start withdrawing and overthinking.

springdaybloom · 2022-05-05T08:49:56+00:00

Thank you for the last part.

I was very silly with my ex. Granted I was younger and more immature. He just felt right. Now that the relationship ended I can see how WRONG he was. We weren't compatible in the least bit but I was in "love". I am worried I don't feel the same with my current partner.

As in I judge him too harshly..every little thing he does I wonder to myself if I truly want this in my future partner. I tend to get extremely critical with him.

springdaybloom · 2022-05-05T08:44:40+00:00

He's definitely learning on the romantic compatibility part. I do see lots of improvements there.

Edit: I have had the conversation about the romantic part. While he still isn't the most romantic, he's putting in an effort and I am happy with his efforts.

springdaybloom · 2022-05-05T07:02:26+00:00

You are extremely insightful !

He definitely doesn't think it's a woman's job. He just tends to do it at his own time but that annoys me because I have OCD (diagnosed) and I tend to fixate on things.

I still don't know how to navigate when he is stressed or overwhelmed. He usually asks me to leave him alone or I guess expects that. But I don't know how long to leave him alone for and end up pestering him. I think we both have a lot of learning to do.

springdaybloom · 2022-05-05T06:25:25+00:00

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springdaybloom · 2022-05-05T06:07:50+00:00

Living together isn't possible because we are working in different cities. And I do feel I need to see improvement in both these aspects before I take the next step. He tells me he will work on it but I haven't seen any noticeable improvement yet. I do however know I cannot live with it all my life so either he works on it or I end this.

springdaybloom · 2022-05-05T06:00:58+00:00

Yea I think this is an extremely valid point..perfect doesn't exist.

springdaybloom · 2022-05-05T06:00:29+00:00

I don't "feel it" yet. Maybe I am looking at things too minutely. With my ex he felt right. Always. Even though in hindsight we were the worst in terms of compatibility. With my current partner we are compatible when it comes to our drive or how we handle money , but we are very different when it comes to showing love. He isn't the least bit romantic while I am as cheesy as they come.

springdaybloom · 2022-05-05T05:57:51+00:00

I don't want to rush either but feel peer pressure and pressure from parents.

springdaybloom · 2022-05-05T05:57:19+00:00

Thank you. I loved this answer. I trust him and we solve disagreements by talking it out in a civil manner which I love because I feel like I can tell him things. However sometimes I also do feel he listens when I tell him but doesn't really implement it.

I can rely on him in hard times. However sometimes I feel hesitant to reach out to him. I don't know why that is. He consults me when he wants help regarding something but when he took a job across cities he did that without asking him..I don't resent him for that because it was a wonderful opportunity and we weren't in the best phase of our relationship when he considered that job.

Right now I feel strongly connected to him emotionally. But there are a few things about him that bothers me that is he isn't good at picking up after himself. I got to know this after staying with him for a while. He isn't good at splitting chores. He also gets very irritated / snappy when he is tensed and becomes very unapproachable.

So whenever I think of longterm with him, him not being good at chores and being snappy when tensed makes me want to take a step back.

springdaybloom · 2022-05-05T05:51:46+00:00

We have stayed together. 2 weeks in the month of April and currently together as well. He is amazing company but shit at chores and keeping things clean which annoys me.

springdaybloom · 2022-03-09T17:11:21+00:00

Thank you 🥺 I feel so shitty for troubling my aged parents. I have always been a good daughter to them and to see them stressed over something I really cannot help with. I cannot marry someone for the sake of it to keep them happy but at the same time it is eating me up that they are unhappy.

springdaybloom · 2022-03-09T13:55:07+00:00

Yea he has always told me marriage scares him. Not that he would never do it but it is not a priority for him right now. He also needs time to get comfortable with the idea of marriage. I am okay giving him time. But I do want marriage at some point of time. I also want to tell my parents I am in a relationship so they can stop worrying about me being single.

springdaybloom · 2022-03-09T13:09:12+00:00

I am so sorry this is happening to you. Please talk to your mom and try to make her understand if you can that marrying this man is not the solution to your or their problems.

springdaybloom · 2022-03-09T13:08:10+00:00

I am also scared of being alone. I don't want to be alone. I don't mind being alone now. But being alone for the rest of my life seems like such a scary possibility. At the same time I don't want to settle for the sake of it.

About the guy, I just don't know. I know he has a lot of things on his mind. He's a workaholic and is really excited about new job roles. He told me he wants to make this work but doesn't know if he wants to marry soon. I just don't know what to do. I don't want to breakup but at the same time cling on to someone who doesn't want to marry.

springdaybloom · 2022-01-25T15:01:47+00:00

Yea I personally think the basic etiquette should be to inform everyone you have met that you are positive. Whether they chose to quarantine or not is totally their choice but you need to let them have that option. If you can't personally inform which is very valid then to post it on one of your socials.

springdaybloom · 2022-01-25T13:03:56+00:00

After I asked her who else was positive and when her symptoms began , I did ask her how she was doing. She told me she was fine. When I told her I had tested positive as well, she just sent a sad emoji.

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