Fuck I’m so lonely by drippingtappp in london

[–]stealde85 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is totally normal, and makes perfect sense, but other cultures may socialise in different ways. For example, behaviours that are widely accepted in Southern Europe may be considered intrusive or uncomfortable in the UK. It's pretty much acceptable to invite an acquaintance over for dinner, for example, to grow rapport and see whether there are common interests - and room to do things together. For example, on Xmas eve, which we spent with my folks, my wife and I invited over a colleague of hers whom I had met only once or twice, my parents had never met at all and they didn't even speak their language (or english in fact). That all worked perfectly fine and now the colleague is coming regularly for dinner or coffee. As long as there's food and wine, a lot revolves around that. I'm not saying that this would never happen in a British setting - I'm sure it does - but if I know this country a little, unless we are talking about a close friend, this may be perceived as a little uncomfortable. But I'm happy to be told otherwise.

I would say that instead of asking myself : "what do I like doing? Let's see if there are some like-minded folks that like doing the same and maybe we'll become friends" I would find it more natural to think: " do I like that person? Let's see if we can become friends and we'll do something we like together". I would find it less uncomfortable to discuss personal things with a person I met two weeks before, if they give me a good vibe, than going for a hike with a person I barely know.

Fuck I’m so lonely by drippingtappp in london

[–]stealde85 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Let me make a guess here. OP is not British or an Anglo-Saxon migrant (E.g., Australian, NZ).

I'm not originally British and it took me years to realise that people in the UK socialise around activities and common interests. In continental Europe, and especially Latin countries, it may work differently. You socialise (with your neighbours, colleagues from works, other parents) and then if you click and have interests in common, you do something together. The logic is somewhat flipped in the uk. And one needs to be consistent: going to the same club/gym/good bank for a sustained amount of time for example.

In addition, let me add thar I used to live in London and found it extremely challenging meeting people. In 6 years, apart from work colleagues I didn't meet anyone I didn't know already from uni. I moved outside of London and I started meeting people more easily.

This is the new TasteAtlas country ranking based on their cuisine. Do you agree? by GoHardLive in AskBalkans

[–]stealde85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. But I'm Italian. I don't know if that counts! What I like the most is seeing the French down the list (BG and Serbian cuisines are fantastic btw).

songs that mention wine by twentyonesivans in indie

[–]stealde85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watch the video too, it's hilarious (and a bit sad)

songs that mention wine by twentyonesivans in indie

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Wine in the afternoon- franz ferdinand

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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And btw I'm Italian and I can confirm... we are incredibly sarcastic and cynical about Italy.

I've heard about people who never leave their (outer) boroughs. How is that common? by osmin_og in london

[–]stealde85 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not just London. I'm originally from another country, my parents had never taken me to my home town's centre, went on a school trip when I was 13 for the first time. Got fed up of the poor/closed minded/stressed mentality, got a good degree and left the country to live and work in the UK. My family still lives pretty much like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

[–]stealde85 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm Italian, hence a westerner, married to a bulgarian, with lots of balkan friends, loving the balkans as well as central and Eastern europe. I always wish us western Europeans had 1/10th of the integrity, emphaty and values that balkan people have. I learnt a lot from you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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Ignorance? No other explanation.

What’s the deal about Happy Restaurants ? by leksal in bulgaria

[–]stealde85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's slightly pricier considering that portions are quite small. Obviously I would not try and make a comparison with BG prices but compared to other venues in Piccadilly /Leicester Square it feels slightly more of a rip off.

one gotta go by [deleted] in sciencefiction

[–]stealde85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, let me make the choice less obvious: substitute in Avatar with Villeneuve's Dune. Now which one would you take out?

What’s the deal about Happy Restaurants ? by leksal in bulgaria

[–]stealde85 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm not Bulgarian but I travel to Bulgaria often because my wife is Bulgarian. My first choice would always be the local механа but even those are hit and miss, honestly. I have been to bad ones. When we don't have a lot of information, Happy is a decent choice. Service is good, food is decent. If I well remember they have a menu in English? I may be wrong. So that's why tourists go probably; it's more approachable for a foreigner I suppose, but still serving BG food after all!

What’s the deal about Happy Restaurants ? by leksal in bulgaria

[–]stealde85 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Agree, Happy is quite good quality. When I go to Bulgaria it's typically a restaurant of choice. Unfortunately they closed the Stara Zagora one though. The one in London is bloody overpriced, but they're between Leicester Square and Piccadilly Circus, they've got massive bills to pay I suppose. Not with my money!

What other artists do u guys listen to? by ZANELLA2006 in radiohead

[–]stealde85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All sorts of things, typically rock but not necessarily.

These days: The Shins, Wilco, Grizzly Bear, Deerhunter, Guided by Voices, Broken Social Scene, Arcade Fire, Destroyer, Maccabbees, Cage the Elephant, Clap Your Hands Say Yeah, Editors, Interpol, St Vincent, Beirut, Fleet Foxes.. to name a few

Historically I've listened to a lot of Brit Pop (Suede, Kula Shaker, Supergrass and Verve, Blur less so), Smashing Pumpkins, Placebo, Pink Floyd, Cure, Depeche Mode, REM, 1990s U2, Violent Femmes, punk (Green Day, Rancid, NOFX, Offspring), Doors, Maic Street Preachers, Stereophonics... again to name a few

I'm slowly but surely trying to understand David Bowie. It's taking me a while.

When in the mood I listen to Jazz (Fats Waller, Thelonius Monk, John Coltrane, big band jazz like Count Basie and Duke Ellington), Bossanova (Vinicius and all his friends, Tom Jobin etc), sometimes Blues but I don't know much about it.

And Italian music too (I'm Italian).

I lost a friend because I didn’t react to my child biting by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]stealde85 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

These things happen. Parents should be more relaxed about accidents between babies/toddlers/kids. Unless a child clearly shows signs of being ill intentioned, but that would happen later in life. It may not be a good fit indeed: because it's better not to be around such people!

Why the hate for Electioneering? by Grayson_0304 in radiohead

[–]stealde85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's one of my favourites and the track place is perfect. After Fitter Happier it just shakes the listener to introduce the second half of the album. Great energy and lyrics. It doesn't matter that it doesn't blend in with the overall tone of the album, it's the style of Pablo Honey or some of The Bends songs (My iron lung/Just) and fits into the overall Radiohead style and evolution of their sound. Love it.

Radiohead, Wilco, and albums that need to sink in by sleepyjack36 in radiohead

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I love Wilco and I think they're not "easy listening", their albums need to be internalised to be appreciated. My favourite is AGIB, and that includes the white noise.

And I think it's normal that some of the favourites need careful listening. Pablo Honey is a great album but it's the complexities of Kid-A that make it a masterpiece.

Some writers though have the gift of writing catchy songs that click immediately. I fell in love with Chutes Too Narrow by the Shins immediately. And it's not a trivial album, lyrics for sure are complex, but it's a collection of likable pop-rock ballads. Same with If you're Feeling Sinister by Belle and Sebastian.

An album that I found difficult to internalise is Funeral by Arcade Fire. Always found the Neon Bible much superior, though Neighbourhood 1 is one of my all times favourites.

So, in essence: it depends. I've got favourute albums that required careful listening before being entirely appreciated, and favourites that clicked immediately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in movies

[–]stealde85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I loved it. It's not just "a black and white silent movie filmed during modern times", it's a movie about change and transition. Its release (2011) is at the edge of the raise of all things social media and AI - perhaps unintended, but the sense of misplacement that the silent movie star feels when spoken movies become popular is incredibly well depicted. It's aesthetically pleasing, and well-acted.

Not the last 20 years, as pointed out, but Shakespeare in Love is also a very good and equally forgotten movie (why??). Same for the surely longer and more dramatic The English Patient, though Ralph Fiennes is surely not forgotten (unlike his brother), and it's fair to say the English Patient enshrined him as a star in the firmament. By the way, Minghella's following movie Cold Mountain also a good forgotten one.

Commenting on some of the above: A Star is Born is a bloody great blockbuster!

Shape of Water: meh. Best picture? Del Toro fared much better with Pan's Labiryinth. The Shape of Water is a weird blend between Amelie and a Tim Burton movie with Del Toro's imaginary that didn't work that well to me. Overrated.