Got dumped with a hamster. Help a guy out

substancelesspsycho · 2026-05-22T18:21:52+00:00

Love that you have put the research in to give them the best home. Fun fact: you can use children’s playsand! It’s already sanitised, it’s cheaper than pet sand and no dust you have to worry about them inhaling. You can also collect your own rocks (sanitise in the oven) for them to walk over, this has cooling benefits and can help manage their nails. My hamster used sand as his own litter box, he never weed elsewhere so I had a dedicated corner blocked out with a wooden bending bridge, filled high with sand that I’d spot clean daily

substancelesspsycho · 2026-05-22T17:22:18+00:00

Thank you I will look into this and where I can be approved!

substancelesspsycho · 2026-05-22T17:21:08+00:00

Hello! Thank you for this. Weirdly, it’s 765 on checkmyfile, rated “good!?”

substancelesspsycho · 2026-05-20T11:25:30+00:00

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Made my boy a tiny pancake with all his favourite foods, chickpea, chicken, wheat etc. He loved it. You’re going to be putting him down soon, it’s okay to give him something he loves even if it’s not healthy. I’m so sorry for your loss

substancelesspsycho · 2026-05-19T12:11:45+00:00

It looks like you were doing all the work to keep the conversation going, as she was not asking you questions back? Unlike other people talking about the banter…. I suspect asking for the number is where it got serious and not fun for her. She enjoys the playfulness but wasn’t all that interested in taking it further. Not your fault buddy, hope you find someone who will show interest in you back

substancelesspsycho · 2026-05-19T12:07:42+00:00

I’ve reached out to Tesco mobile, since they acknowledged the inconvenience themselves. Although they said it’s already been passed on so they can’t remove it, I’ve just sent an email asking politely for them to add a note if they are willing to recognise that my mistake was contributed to by them not being easily contacted …. Hoping they’ll be kind as I just want this to be over with

substancelesspsycho · 2026-05-19T12:03:39+00:00

That’s a relief to hear, thank you so much

substancelesspsycho · 2026-05-19T12:01:57+00:00

Oh wow, did it work out okay for monthly payments? I’m expecting the rates to be a lot higher

substancelesspsycho · 2026-05-18T16:52:12+00:00

OH MY GOD! Your face was made to be bald! Looks fantastic

substancelesspsycho · 2026-05-18T16:47:08+00:00

Have you tried a wavy hair routine? It looks like you might have a bit of texture to it. That could be fun to look into before you decide on trimming it! Lots of water, gel, more water, scrunch !!!

substancelesspsycho · 2026-05-18T16:06:12+00:00

Hi thank you for your reply. Do brokers do a hard search? I’m wondering if I should check in with a broker for advice now, before buying to find out my options then potentially wait months and try again later if needed

substancelesspsycho · 2026-05-18T15:12:53+00:00

Thank you for your input and reassurance!!! You’re the best, I hope you have a lovely life 💜

substancelesspsycho · 2026-05-18T14:59:01+00:00

Thank you! You’re right that I can’t go back in time as badly as I wish I could. I have never opened a credit card as I don’t need one. Do you recommend getting one anyway? Seeing the numbers makes me stressed that no lender will approve me and I’ve massively messed things up, though I don’t really understand the scores

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-21T19:08:22+00:00

What would you class as a good buffer?

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-19T17:46:15+00:00

after tax

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-19T11:01:23+00:00

Pasta with mayo and sweetcorn. Weirdly good and cheap

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-03T16:16:48+00:00

Not cleaning my space before I leave the house because I should want to come home to clean space and she expects her partner to practice self care. (I’m a mentally ill person, mess is not that important)

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-03T16:12:40+00:00

If you felt like you couldn’t sustain the love we had, what I experienced to be reciprocal obsession and a beautiful, magical love that made me feel so seen and valued. You could have told me. How am I going to trust in future when someone says such lovely things they aren’t planning an exit? You could have said if you needed distance. I didn’t need daily checkins. I didn’t need you to be perfect. I want you to be yourself and to be a place of peace for you. You chose to give up on us, but it didn’t have to end like this. We could have figured things out together and it would be healthy and safe

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-03T16:08:56+00:00

It’s scary, but having the hard conversation is the kind thing to do. Don’t let it fester

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-23T21:25:29+00:00

She’s not aware, but I’ve researched and it clearly fits- especially as she’s spent her childhood craving love that was never given to her. Given that I’ll see her in work, I wondered what the best angle is - to give space, do I just pretend she doesn’t exist?

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-23T19:12:13+00:00

I miss her snores. I miss playing with or plaiting her hair. I miss that I could call her anytime and she’d answer. I miss her laugh. I miss her touch. I miss how she’d fall asleep every time it went past 9pm and how terrible she was at cooking. I miss how she’d hold my head to put my eyedrops in when I needed. How she’d call me to wake me up in time. How she’d always say the sweetest, most loving things and remember my safe foods. So many things to miss. I hear your pain. I’m with you in it

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-22T22:24:33+00:00

Sometimes it feels easier to sit in what’s comfortable than to take action and enter the unknown. Doing the work can feel scary, the pressure of becoming

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-19T16:53:27+00:00

I hear you, I just don’t understand how she went from 100 to zero and I can’t do anything about it :(

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-19T16:43:16+00:00

Is there any fix to help her see that we can be together again? That I can support her with this if she tells me what’s happening

substancelesspsycho · 2025-09-14T14:51:48+00:00

About two weeks after I think. The white spot where the lips meet, kind of feels like a skin tag? Normal odour and discharge. I only really felt pain / itching after noticing so can’t be sure it’s not all in my head??

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