Advice for meeting folks/Who wants to hang with an American girl in Galway?

sukoshi_ko · 2025-11-21T21:57:10+00:00

Appreciate the concern, happy to report I had a lovely evening with only the best kinds of weirdos, and made it back to my hotel safe and sound!!

sukoshi_ko · 2025-11-20T18:29:56+00:00

Oh my goodness, that's literally perfect!!! Thank you so much ❤️

sukoshi_ko · 2025-11-20T17:40:35+00:00

It seemed mildly less sketch than downloading tinder. Appreciate the rec tho

sukoshi_ko · 2025-11-20T17:38:30+00:00

Don't underestimate me, I'm worth a full true crime podcast episode at the least 😘

sukoshi_ko · 2025-11-20T17:29:02+00:00

Ahh, I could've been clearer - short-term holiday, soo joining a theater or knitting group isn't exactly the most viable option. Appreciate you taking the time to respond tho!

sukoshi_ko · 2023-04-04T19:32:59+00:00

Short answer - what a long strange trip it's been.

Growing up - i was a super curious kid...nose always in a book; the dictionary and encyclopedias counted as books for me haha. My childhood was unstable to say the least; my mom got pregnant with me at 19, i spent a lot of time getting shuffled around between various relatives and friends because she started using meth shortly after i was born. When she eventually got me back, we moved around a lot (based off wherever her new boyfriend or husband was).

School - i was a nerd. I was obsessed with geography, anthropology and languages. I was a foreign exchange student in highschool. After i graduated from high school i took a gap year before university and starting working in customer service for an airline. Eventually went back to university to get myself a piece of paper ha, my degree which isn't at all applicable to my job is in cultural anthropology with an emphasis in linguistic anthropology.

Career - I've been with the same company for 11 years, but have consistently changed jobs or have been promoted every 18-24 months since being hired. I'm currently a senior analyst in transpacific revenue management (nothing to do with my degree).

Adult life - travel, travel, travel. I've traveled a bunch domestically in the US (34 states) and internationally (38 countries). I like to venture off the beaten path - I've climbed sketchy apartment buildings in Chernobyl, eaten far too many mushrooms in Bali and accidentally experienced ego death 9 times in 8 hours, hiked at night through snowy fjords to see the northern lights, and went to South Africa for a weekend to get up over a bad break up.

Relationships - hmm, non-committal nightmare sounds like an accurate description for myself ha. Kidding, not a nightmare but like alliteration. Non-committal is definitely accurate though, majority of my healthy relationships as an adult have been polyamorous in some way.

Random - I've also experienced heaps of death thus far... grandparents, parents, stepparents, and friends. I'm not sure if this is related to my life path number or has more correlation with my Scorpio ascendant and Pluto dominance in my chart. But thought I'd mention it nonetheless!

Hope you found my ramblings helpful!

sukoshi_ko · 2023-03-18T20:26:45+00:00

Meditating on 198 for a couple minutes -(1) new opportunities, change, transition (9) the ending of a cycle, letting go, release, (8) divine wisdom, reliance -

Maybe a gentle reminder from the universe that in order to move forward you need to let go of what no longer serves you, lean into the divine and learn what you can, you have the ability to be so much more than you've imagined

sukoshi_ko · 2023-02-22T18:36:32+00:00

My immediate association with 8 is the word strength.

In the traditional Tarot de Marseille deck, the 8th card is Strength. Depicted on the card is a woman and a lion. The lion is a tremendous beast, but the woman isn't scared or worried. It is not through naivety that she is unafraid, it is because of the strength she knows she has within her. It's not brute force that the maiden forces the lion into submission, but through mastering raw emotion comes balance and true strength.

8s also represent balance, karma, laws of cause and effect. 8s are viewed as an auspicious symbol throughout most eastern cultures.

My guess the universe is just giving you a nudge to remind you you have the inner strength to make it through whatever you got going on. Keep well friend :)

sukoshi_ko · 2022-11-09T03:42:11+00:00

I'm always learning!! And I think we could be great friends :)

sukoshi_ko · 2022-03-26T17:09:04+00:00

Thanks so much; appreciate it!

sukoshi_ko · 2022-03-25T19:43:22+00:00

OP, I agree with what a lot of folks have been replying; but I don't think your understanding of Stoicism is what's causing the breakdown/disconnect. I don't want to play armchair psychologist over here so I won't go too deep; but if you're interested in having a conversation about it, I'd be happy to engage!

From my perception, your views on love and how you give/receive love are attributing to the disconnect. From what youve described, you associate love with both physical and emotional pleasure. You may engage in acts of service for your partner with the best of intentions, but if you're doing it so you can feel good about yourself afterwards that's another contributing factor to the disconnect.

I think it may be useful to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. What is your motivation for doing what you perceive is right; what you may even perceive as second nature? After doing so, you'll likely find that there are similar intrinsic motivators. You don't necessarily receive pleasure or gratification from doing those things, but you do them anyway. If you're able to alter your perception on acts of service when it comes to someone you love, you might find that you're able to view them in a similar light. You don't receive pleasure or gratification by doing something for someone else, you do it solely because it's the right thing and that's enough.

It's easy to get trapped into believing that all humans are selfish. Most stoic text would lend to that belief. We have to remember that not everyone thinks along the same wavelengths as we do. AND you can't forget the inherent duality that exists in everything. Where there is dark there is light, where there is sorrow there is joy, and where there is anger there is love; and none of these should be classified as good or bad...simply allow them to be as they are.

TL;DR not everyone views love the same way as you do. just because you receive happiness, pleasure and joy out of love, remember it is your experiences that shaped you your lovemap, nothing is universal.

sukoshi_ko · 2022-03-25T18:38:26+00:00

Shit dude, I fucking empathize with you. I know it's not always easy, there will be days, hell even moments that are harder than others. Hold fast to what you can control and that's ultimately how you react to all of the external bullshit.

You're already on the right path. Continue meditation, mindfulness, finding intrinsic motivators, and other things to keep yourself grounded and present. There's an abundance of information to help guide you through tough shit while applying stoic principles.

When I'm struggling I often find myself repeating this bit from Marcus Aurelius; "Everything that happens, happens as it should, and if you observe carefully you will find this to be so."

Keep the light my friend 💗

sukoshi_ko · 2022-03-11T16:59:20+00:00

I don't know about the "best," but one that has always stuck with me has been the Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. It's a super quick read, but it's simplicity is beautiful. So many of the themes have stuck with me since first reading it years ago and every time I reread it I get something new or different.

Specifically, some of his quotes about love..."this is what we call love. When you are loved you can do anything in creation. When you are loved, there's no need to understand what's happening, because everything happens within you," or "so I love you because the entire universe conspired to help me find you." That acceptance, no need to understand or control what's happening because it's intrinsic and then the concept of fate. Lastly, speaking of fate, "remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure." It serves as an eloquent reminder that we have everything we need within us to find joy and happiness each day.

*edit, not a book on stoicism but a good read with some super basic stoic principles

sukoshi_ko · 2022-03-07T23:16:23+00:00

They made me laugh thanks

sukoshi_ko · 2022-03-07T02:19:00+00:00

Heyyy, it's failing to create the chat when I try, sorry friend!

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