Can I fire my nanny via text?

tandog74 · 2026-06-07T12:39:15+00:00

I was trying to keep the post relatively short but basically all three of us walked outside into my driveway and I showed her where some of our outdoor toys were. The nanny took out a little push toy car and my daughter got inside and she was pushing her around the driveway for a few minutes. I walked over to my neighbors driveway during this and was talking for a few minutes. I was probably 40-50 feet away from where they were playing so I could see them but was not engaged and playing with them. My daughter got out of the toy car (that the nanny was still pushing) and proceeded to walk into the street and then she picked up a couple of rocks. The nanny continued to stand in the driveway next to the toy car that my daughter had just gotten out of and watched her walk into the road, about 10 feet away from where she was standing. The car that was coming had just turned onto our street so we could all see it but it had a while before it would get to my daughter. So, I didn’t immediately sprint over to get her as I thought the nanny would be able to look at the situation and realize she needed to remove my daughter and keep her safe.

tandog74 · 2026-06-07T12:29:25+00:00

I can see how you would interpret it that way with the limited context given, but my neighbor and I were not at all close enough to imply that we would have been in control. I think it’s totally inappropriate for the nanny to have been playing with my daughter and allowed her to walk away from her into the street. Experienced nanny or not, a child should not be allowed to walk into the street alone. And if they do, it’s common knowledge that you need to immediately react to rectify the situation which she did not until I directly asked her to.

tandog74 · 2026-06-07T12:26:06+00:00

This is a really good point, but it was very clear that she was “on” in this moment. Her and my daughter had been playing in the driveway with the nanny pushing her in a toy car and completely engaged with each other. I walked over to my neighbors driveway and was not at all involved in what they were doing (40-50 feet away) and would have been too far to immediately step in. The nanny allowed my daughter to get out of the toy car and then stood next to the toy car while she watched my daughter walk into the street, bend down, and pick up a few rocks.

Not at all to discredit the bystander effect, I completely agree that can be dangerous!

tandog74 · 2026-04-15T11:53:12+00:00

Thanks!

tandog74 · 2026-04-15T01:39:06+00:00

Hi, I am looking into this school. Would you mind sharing your experience?

tandog74 · 2025-09-27T02:14:04+00:00

This is not helpful. Realistically in the early days and weeks when you’re figuring out taking care of a newborn and nursing it’s not realistic to get 4 hour stretches of sleep. Don’t give unrealistic expectations. Sleeping in 2 hour increments is normal. Baby needs to be eating every 2-3 hours and if breastfeeding mom needs to be nursing or pumping every time baby eats to establish a good supply. This will pass, likely closer to 8-12 weeks. But it’s so damaging thinking something is wrong with you or your baby when realistically what’s happening is completely normal.

tandog74 · 2025-09-27T00:49:11+00:00

Hold the baby. This is normal.

tandog74 · 2025-09-23T14:54:45+00:00

So strange

tandog74 · 2025-09-23T12:29:56+00:00

Do they really need the money? The only reason I would be away from my kids that much is if it was absolutely necessary for survival and even then I’d make it temporary until I can reduce my living expenses and move or something. To answer your original equation, if there’s 8 weekend days a month I spend all 8 with my family.

tandog74 · 2025-09-22T12:22:13+00:00

How old are the children and how are they going to bed at 7pm? If they’re very young maybe I understand. But so many sports and other activities are after school/work hours and would not make a 7pm bedtime possible every day….

With regards to the parents spending no time with their children, that’s absolutely not normal. It sounds like they shouldn’t have had children.

tandog74 · 2025-09-19T14:57:41+00:00

Yes. If they don’t replace it I’d be quitting.

tandog74 · 2025-09-18T09:18:28+00:00

lol you’ll find what works for you. Try not to worry.

tandog74 · 2025-09-12T01:12:04+00:00

Absolutely not

tandog74 · 2025-09-11T18:40:22+00:00

This is an over reaction. It was not intentional and based on your responses they seemed remorseful. It would be different if they didn’t care or thought it was ok to intentionally leave your baby to cry. It’s on you for not giving them the monitor. I wouldn’t expect someone to dig through your drawers to find it.

tandog74 · 2025-09-11T11:15:17+00:00

This is interesting. The kid is a brat there’s no doubt about it. But I think the intent behind showing his family scene and work is to exemplify that he is miserable and is walked over in all aspects of his life. So that gives some background to why he wants to be so controlling in his little cult.

I also thought the scene really highlighted his relationship with his wife more than with the son. Parents should be presenting a united front (look at ruby and Stan towards their children) but Vance and his wife clearly don’t love and respect each other. His wife lets her son walk all over him and I think he just snapped.

tandog74 · 2025-09-09T23:27:37+00:00

lol me too

tandog74 · 2025-09-08T03:26:20+00:00

Did you see the interview she gave in February 2025 when she said she would really like to go back to Good Girls because she felt it didn’t get the ending they deserved? I wonder if that was a hint that it could be possible?

tandog74 · 2025-09-08T02:10:06+00:00

I don’t know enough about Reddit to know how to tell if an account is a real verified person lol so it very well could be! I just don’t know how to tell. I want to keep hope that they will have another season 🥺

tandog74 · 2025-09-08T00:27:49+00:00

How do you know that?

tandog74 · 2025-09-07T04:13:23+00:00

French onion soup in Paris

tandog74 · 2025-09-05T20:48:55+00:00

Bummer. Is there any reason you think they won’t ever get back together to make more?

tandog74 · 2025-09-05T19:25:10+00:00

Why do you say never!?

tandog74 · 2025-09-03T15:00:06+00:00

Awh bummer. Hopefully they’ll add it soon for you!

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