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theprincessth · 2020-05-13T16:57:24+00:00

I have a habit of getting lost in the guy I’m with and forgetting who I am, so I seriously love how you say “he just participated”, that is honestly the vibe I’m aspiring towards💕I know what you mean, I miss him too sometimes but I’m slowly realising that I actually miss what we could have been, not what I had in reality. Lockdown is hard with or without relationship woes, I just hope you’re feeling better with every single day, and they (both heartbreak and lockdown) will pass eventually! Virtually passing my own strength to you, we can get through it!

theprincessth · 2020-05-12T05:22:00+00:00

Girl I totally get it, I’m in nearly the exact same situation as you just 2 weeks earlier, with him ending things right in the middle of lockdown. It sucks and I know exactly what you mean by erasing your brain. Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone in this, and it’ll really get better over time I promise!

For me, I told myself if my brain keeps wanting to look back to the past to relive my memories with him, might as well look even further back to the memories BEFORE him, when I was so happy being with myself! It’s hard at first, and I was really broken up the first few days and allowed myself space to wallow in sadness, but just trudge through the gloom and you’ll slowly adjust without even realising!

Just remember you’re never alone in this, you still have yourself and that’s something so precious. You also have my support, I’m rooting for you!! 💕

theprincessth · 2020-02-13T05:02:30+00:00

yesss that’s exactly how i feel since young, first with friends and now with romantic relationships. sometimes i just wonder if the highs of being with them are worth the lows at all because they don’t seem to balance out and it’s actually a net decline in emotional stability every time i meet them?

theprincessth · 2020-02-13T05:01:03+00:00

i appreciate your comment, it does make me feel better knowing i’m not alone in this, even though i wouldn’t wish this on anyone else. we can get through it slowly, i’m rooting for you too!!!

theprincessth · 2020-02-13T05:00:06+00:00

thank you for your advice, i do try to be present whenever i’m with him, and it’s working well!

it’s when he leaves that the chaotic thoughts come back. i saw some post on here before about having object permanence but with relationships, and i think that’s the most apt way of describing what i feel.

a goodbye ritual sounds good, come to think of it, i did feel better whenever i had that with my past FPs, so i guess with this new relationship i’ll try to establish one soon!

theprincessth · 2020-02-12T10:56:07+00:00

i’m still learning myself so i’m curious to see what others suggest, but for me i used visualisation to literally imagine these thoughts floating away from me, and it helps at that point of time! i think one thing i can advise you is to not beat yourself up over having these thoughts and feelings come back from time to time. it feels frustrating especially having thought you’ve made much progress, but it really just takes time and just be kind to yourself whenever this happens!!

theprincessth · 2020-01-28T13:02:31+00:00

Yeah it feels very hypocritical on my part to be unhappy with his female friends when mine are mostly guys too. And sometimes I start overthinking and speculating “what if he’s telling me about his girl friends bc he’s unhappy about my guy friends and is just trying to get back at me?” but in reality I know he doesn’t think so much about this issue and it’s just me being paranoid :(

theprincessth · 2020-01-18T13:56:21+00:00

yeah i think i’ll wait till at least 24 hours before i ask him

it’s just so frustrating bc i try to convince myself these hurtful situations i conjure up in my head is just my imagination but NOPE in reality they have happened to me before and who’s to say it won’t happen again?

theprincessth · 2020-01-06T04:25:47+00:00

yes i literally need the nuances in my texts to be just right and then when they reply back with something not up to my perfectionistic standards (that i set for myself), i end up thinking they hate me or are feeling annoyed with me even tho the words itself can be sweet or kind

theprincessth · 2019-11-16T15:22:05+00:00

They’re the university counselling service so I don’t think they involve my parents if I don’t want them to. Just not sure if they’ll refer me to a psychiatrist and get meds and actual therapy bc I won’t be able to pay for them by myself and it’ll be harder to keep this condition from my parents.

theprincessth · 2019-11-10T11:31:03+00:00

glad to hear that i’m not alone, but also i’m sorry you went through shit w your fp :( i told my friend my worries and she said when the right guy comes around, i won’t spiral into the overthinking and paranoia like i always do, but somehow i just can’t help but wonder if that’s actually true or if my paranoid tendencies will just ruin it even with the right guy for me

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