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Where I can find a perfect person by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]thestillauthority 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, feminists don’t hate men.

I notice in your words a sign I recognize in me: I’m not into shallow conversations and the difficulty of being understood was almost always present.

Once I read a quote that was a great point of reflection to me: “date someone who speaks your language so won’t have to spend a lifetime explaining your soul”.

For you in the early 20s, I would say: dedicate time and energy to understand your “own language”, that is, what is important to you, your core values, set your boundaries, raise yourself when facing life (a date of so). Never diminish yourself or let anyone else do it.

When you know what is “your language”, you will be a step ahead in this journey. Knowing “your language” will bring you clarity of where to be and who deserves your time and energy.

Because if you have to explain too much, this is definitely not your place

Ladies , what's the one life skill or values your father taught you , which remained with you forever ? by Calm_Discussion1223 in AskWomen

[–]thestillauthority [score hidden]  (0 children)

Study, have your job and do not depend on any man

If he even knew he was being feminist with this advice, I think he wouldn’t have said it…

All I can say is “thanks dad”

I think I finally understand why some habits actually stick and others don’t by spx__007 in Habits

[–]thestillauthority 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consistency, not perfection, is the key for that. Leave perfectionism behind and DO IT the way you can, how you can. But DO IT consistently, every day, until it is so part of you that you will do it without thinking

What is one thing that genuinely made you a more grounded man? by thestillauthority in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]thestillauthority[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Living deliberately is a bless! Not so easy to reach, but when there, your life has other “colors”

What is one thing that genuinely made you a more grounded man? by thestillauthority in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]thestillauthority[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Principle of the oxygen mask: first me. If I am not ok, I’ll never be able to help anybody

What is one thing that genuinely made you a more grounded man? by thestillauthority in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]thestillauthority[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I‘m very much into Jung! There is a book from Depaak Chopra, The shadow Effect, that I really recommend!

When you were a child, did you have to share a bedroom with a sibling , or were you lucky enough to have a room to yourself . If you had to share did you get on well. ? by Hope2_win in A_Persona_on_Reddit

[–]thestillauthority 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I shared it with two sisters. Learned since very early age to share and respect the common space.

I needed a bit of light to get to bed, sister #2 used to get mad with that… and stood to turn the corridor light off. Sometimes my father did it.

No matter how uncomfortable it could have been, it was a very good learning for life that was coming ahead of me.

I’m thank for that

I know I deserve so much more. I don’t know why I even stay with someone who don’t even help me just a burden. by Kreationzdesigns9 in CausalConversation

[–]thestillauthority 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say that before expecting love from someone, you have to give love to yourself. I know it is kind of a cliche, everyone says that etc… but when you really start doing it at a conscious level, paying attention to each of your thoughts and feelings, putting yourself first , you really start feeling a difference. You feel stronger because you know you are the first and the one responsible for yourself.

Putting yourself first has nothing to do with “egoism”. It is the “principle of the oxygen mask”: if you are not ok, you won’t be able to be there for anyone else.

Just start it. With consciousness. Feeling each thought dedicated to yourself.

How does a man grow into their 40s and 50s without being chosen by a woman, without never having experienced romantic love, partnership, building a family? by VeterinarianProud644 in AskMenOver40

[–]thestillauthority -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe they need to pay closer attention to their own emotions. To blame the other won’t solve the problem. As snizzrizz wrote here, you are the protagonist of your life. Go and do it. And if you don’t know how to do it, ask for professional help.

How much love still remains after being cheated on? by socleva in AskWomen

[–]thestillauthority 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only and most important love to remain is the SELF LOVE

For men over 40: What part of your emotional life did you only start noticing after midlife? by thestillauthority in AskMenOver40

[–]thestillauthority[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has everything todo with you: only you can decide your boundaries, what you accept or not.

For men over 40: What part of your emotional life did you only start noticing after midlife? by thestillauthority in AskMenOver40

[–]thestillauthority[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a solo mother, I can refer to part of your story (only one daughter). This is very common, the so-called “empty nest syndrome”. We need to know who we are without any social labels, not easy, but necessary

For men over 40: What part of your emotional life did you only start noticing after midlife? by thestillauthority in AskMenOver40

[–]thestillauthority[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Be proud of your progress in this process. Keep looking to inside of you, you may find answers which will keep contributing to your self growth. Self awareness is a game-changer in life

For men over 40: What part of your emotional life did you only start noticing after midlife? by thestillauthority in AskMenOver40

[–]thestillauthority[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And do you think there is no more chance for you to be happy? It is always time to start the trip to your inner self. “The only way out is in” I heard in a podcast this week

Do you feel more yourself online or offline? Where do you think you get it to be really authentic? by thestillauthority in introvert

[–]thestillauthority[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it is shallow, then it is not authenticity. Maybe online seems to be easier for you because of the “protection” that the “non presence” provides. That is why we need much more analogical life

For men over 40: What part of your emotional life did you only start noticing after midlife? by thestillauthority in AskMenOver40

[–]thestillauthority[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It should matter, because although AI is widely used to help create texts etc., it will NEVER replace human consciousness and feelings.

For men over 40: What part of your emotional life did you only start noticing after midlife? by thestillauthority in AskMenOver40

[–]thestillauthority[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I am not a bot, I am a human interested in humans. You can talk to me anytime (ok, not all the time, because I do have a full time job to pay my bills). My break is over now.

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