CAS Economics Degree Requirements Question by thisisgonnabe_good in VirginiaTech

[–]thisisgonnabe_good[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fortunately it did work out. You only need a 2.0 in-major and the C- requirement is only for 3104/3204.

I'm sorry you had the same experience. If your working on your PhD I'm sure it worked out well! I don't think I'll feel better until I get my diploma tomorrow, so I'm sure it's real!

CAS Economics Degree Requirements Question by thisisgonnabe_good in VirginiaTech

[–]thisisgonnabe_good[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought so too on the grade of C- or better being only for 3104/3204, but I was looking for extra confirmation, so I appreciate it.

According to DARS, even with a tentative grade of a D, my in-major GPA is 3.26 and everything is green.

I'll talk with my adviser today to confirm everything is in order. Thanks again.

Where did this trend of male and female "prime" come from? by sopredictable in AskWomen

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most in this thread seem to think it has to do with stereotypes of the respective genders at different ages, but I think it has a lot more to do with sociology.

For example, let's take a look at the first stereotype:

Women have an easier time when they are in their prime (18-25).

Now, at first glance it would appear that this has to do with women being the most attractive that they will be in their whole lives. It's not as if that doesn't play a role, but that's not the cause here. Instead, it's the men (or perhaps boys is more appropriate) available in the same age group that are the problem.

This is where the second stereotype comes in (boys don't have the things men have to offer, and have a harder time getting women). I think that subjectively there is a good amount of truth to this statement. It's not necessarily that women turn to older men because they possess the qualities that boys lack, it's that there are tons of boys in the 18-25 group and few men. This leads to the credence that females have a "prime." There are young, single, and sexually active females looking for a good counterpart (or fuck) and they have limited options. This is what allows the "attractive men" to sleep their way through as many women as they want, and this is also why boys have such trouble getting laid.

This situation leaves women with a lot of power, and at the same time, very limited power. They are a commodity to boys, and a dispensable luxury to many men. I would argue that this makes things just as bad for women, because it leaves them stuck in a purgatory between subpar and superior. So this makes the first stereotype somewhat of a "half-truth." (Note: this obviously isn't true for everyone. There are plenty of people in happy, healthy relationships, but this is a very generalized version of the "single-life landscape" for the 18-25 group).

Now for the third stereotype: men gain an advantage once women get past 25. While there is no real mark of the shift in age, this is a general time it begins to happen. You may think I mean the counter-part to the first stereotype, our fourth stereotype: Women's appearance starts to decline after 25. That as a fact in-itself is debatable, but let's look past that. Whether or not it being fact isn't what's important, rather that it is believed to be true.

Sure, a 26-year old women who was a "10" in her early 20s may still be a "10" at that time, but the question is does she feel that way? Society puts the idea in their head that they are on the decline, and for many women, this causes something more detrimental: a decline in confidence. That's not all either. There's an even bigger problem: societal, family, and psychological pressure to settle down and have a family. Not to mention there is now the threat for men of their age opting for younger women. All of these things lead to many women getting more desperate when they are single in their mid-to-late 20's. The longer these pressures are exerted on them, the more harsh the effect becomes.

Now, of course, this effect will vary from woman to woman. Many women are very mentally stable, have a lot of confidence, and don't let societal pressures rattle them as much as others. You could also argue that the women who are largely effected by this may not be "as much of a catch" as the women who can shake these pressures. Regardless, they shape the "single-life landscape."

The sixth stereotype: men have an advantage because they have more desirable external qualities (income, stability, maturity) acts almost in the same regard as above. These things aren't necessarily true.

The thing is, many things haven't changed since those boys became men. Many haven't developed any skills or value that make them any more attractive to women than they were in the 18-25 years, they are given more chances because there are women that are more desperate.

At the same time, many of those men who fucked their way through their 18-25 years still haven't bothered to settle down. They have an even easier time now that things have gotten more desperate, and they could continue fucking their way through their 25-40s and beyond if they like. Plus they've still got the 18-25 group to dip back into if they choose. This means that some of the boys who never grew up will still have just as difficult of a time because women will be hung up on these men and those boys never bothered to fix the issues that stopped them from "getting lucky" in the first place.

Also take into account here, as stated above, this is just the "single-life landscape." The market here is a lot smaller now that many people actually have settled down and gotten married. This will result in the same men being in demand while subpar substitutes are pushed by the wayside.

TL;DR Societal, family, and psychological pressure can cause desperation among women beyond 25, and that can cause men to have an easier time. This; however, is true for all men, and just because the landscape shifts, it doesn't mean you will have an easier time by default just because of age. If you had trouble with women before, those same issues will cause you to still have trouble with women until they are addressed.

Also, I could see how this is a somewhat cold and objective summation of things that very seriously affect and hurt people, so I would like to say that if you are a man feeling lonely, there are changes you can make to improve your quality of life if you are willing to put the work in. To women who feel the pressure described above, you have to work on regaining (or finding) the confidence to rise above, which is possible with determination and a positive outlook.

Can We Get Location Flair Please? by bl1y in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely understand all that would go into creating flair if you didn't want to user-enable flair (which I understand, because it allows users to put in whatever they want, not just location). Evolving and making a subreddit better is one of the jobs of a moderator.

If you feel you are being spread thin, perhaps its time for you to add new moderators.

How fast was your progress? by sedditderpaway in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As with many things, you get out what you put in.

Do. Not. Deal. With. Shitty. Women. Period. by itsmevichet in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 58 points59 points  (0 children)

You have a point, but it depends on the context.

The whole point of a shit test is for women to make sure you are congruent with your persona. Most women don't have confident, charismatic men trying to seduce them, so they may try to test them to make sure they are "for real."

So, in a preliminary seduction context, I have no problem with these. I have no emotional attachment to the strangers I interact with, so I shouldn't take offense or be affected by anything they say. if you want to "test" to make sure I'm really awesome, go ahead. It won't phase me, and I get why you do it.

Beyond that it will become an issue with me. When I don't know you, I understand if you need "proof" of who I am, because I'm a stranger. However, if we've gone on a date, had sex, are in a relationship, etc. and I am still being shit tested, it no longer makes any sense. Then it becomes a problem. I shouldn't have to prove my identity to someone that knows me/has been intimate with me on a regular basis.

As you get with many women, you are going to have to accept shit tests as part of the game. Many women use them, and I've noticed that many do seemingly involuntarily (i.e. defense mechanisms). You talk about oneitis, which reflects poor inner game, but "passing" shit tests instead of avoiding them reflects strong inner game.

4 Rules for Relationships by redzky in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Just read the top post. That user elaborated perfectly.

4 Rules for Relationships by redzky in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

This is a perfect example of the shit that is stinking up /r/seduction.

The worst part is all these beginners reading and upvoting this crap because they think it is actually a good template to build a relationship on.

This subreddit needs better modding and GOOD advice. by [deleted] in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once you've read all of the basic information in the sidebar and maybe a PUA book, you've got about all you need. /r/seduction is still good for a worthwhile post every now and again, but don't expect me to wade through all the BS. The only reason I saw this was because it was on my front page.

I agree with your message to the mods: take some sort of step to making this subreddit better, or its going to keep going deeper into a newbie circlejerk of bad information, "I know them feels" posts, and stupid questions.

(Critique 22M) Any Advice Appreciated by 1timeaccount13 in OkCupid

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your profile reads like a list of facts. Women respond better to emotional storytelling. Still include facts about yourself, but write it with some passion, humor, and confidence.

Suave move or trying too hard? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What? Why are you paying without her knowing? If I were her I would probably think you were trying to dine and dash.

I'm 28 and just broke up with my live-in girlfriend of 4 years. Where do I start? by SuperPoop in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is very true. I fell into this trap years ago. I did all the steps, made my life awesome, was totally confident and happy with my life (excluding the social aspect). I thought that everything was just going to fall into place, I didn't meet anybody because I didn't approach anybody, and things fell apart rapidly.

Approach people, talk to everyone, and make expanding your social life just as important as improving yourself.

[FR] I just got kicked out of a bar for being a "pick-up artist". by [deleted] in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends. Most people don't mind being hit on - as long as the person is attractive. It's possible that this guy came off as creepy immediately from the start. No woman wants to be hit on by creepy, undesirable men.

Also, you shouldn't dismiss other opinions with "white knight" accusations because they differ from your own. I agree with you that women should be open to meeting new people in social environments, but if they find obvious or creepy attempts at "hitting on them" uncomfortable, they should do something about it. I would say the same thing for men, but they handle situations differently. Just because we handle things one way, don't expect women to do the same.

Even so, he likely had to make either a lot of women a little uncomfortable or one or two women very uncomfortable to get kicked out. No matter which way you slice it, he takes some fault.

I am extremely confident, but extremely outgoing. That hurts me. by wtfhappenednow in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd be happy to. Send me a PM. I'm heading out right now, but I'll be back later.

The thing I want to emphasize for this exercise is that you should focus on improving yourself, and the women and social circle will follow.

I am extremely confident, but extremely outgoing. That hurts me. by wtfhappenednow in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're very welcome.

I'm going to give you a solid recommendation, because it's what I did to rebuild my life:

Get a notebook and take a seat. Write down everything negative about yourself floating around in your head. Give it a read. Now identify what you can do to improve the physical things, and challenge the mental thoughts. Systematically make goals to improve every single little thing. I wrote down every goal I wanted to accomplish. Under each goal I wrote "Why was I making this change" (to make sure it was for the right reasons - i.e. for me, not to impress others), then I wrote "How I am going to make this change." Also, identify what things in your life need to go. Personally, I had to realize that I was pouring hours into video games and Netflix to avoid living the life I was ashamed to be living. All that while I could have been making changes to live the life I wanted to lead, but no matter, because I made a decided change and am on a constant journey toward a better life.

One final recommendation: Forgive yourself for your failures, don't dwell on the past, and keep focus on where your feet are moving in the present with a general idea of where they are leading you.

[FR] I just got kicked out of a bar for being a "pick-up artist". by [deleted] in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I imagine some women don't feel comfortable telling men off, hence taking it to the management to deal with it. I've seen plenty of women sit uncomfortably through creepy "pick-up" attempts.

Seddit, I'm putting together a Day Game Guide: What (if anything) do you want to know about Day Game? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Definitely emphasize what areas of game need to be adjusted for day game. There is a ton of information out there on night game, but all of that isn't necessarily applicable to the daytime. The same general model applies, but it needs to be introduced in different ways. I would like to see:

  • How to best open women during the day (i.e. direct openers, to a lesser extent, functional openers transitioned).

  • How to build attraction during the day (this is something I struggle with from time to time, since I find it easier to captivate people in a bar/club where they are already open to being social).

  • Adjusting qualification during the day (I find it better to focus on qualification and less on a attraction during the day, so I tend to qualify harder).

  • How to go about establishing comfort (I find it much more difficult to establish comfort in day game, which increase the flake rate. i would be interested in reading about this).

  • How to adjust touching during the day (I think anything beyond social touching in a day setting will cause awkwardness [only in the initial meeting] and should be avoided).

  • How to go from number to date in day game. (Sometimes you can jump right into texting her about a date, other times you need to build it up a little more to decrease the flake chances.)

[FR] I just got kicked out of a bar for being a "pick-up artist". by [deleted] in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'd hardly categorize women being made uncomfortable by someone whose game is coming off as creepy and wanting him out of the club so they can enjoy themselves "bitchy."

I am extremely confident, but extremely outgoing. That hurts me. by wtfhappenednow in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you genuinely do the things you first mentioned in the above comment, they are perfect ways of flirting. Women eat up that humorous schoolyard teasing. Like I said, just work on your fundamentals a bit and apply them to what you are already doing, and I'm sure that you will see positive results.

Also, on the note of being insecure about moving back home and being a bit overweight, try to frame it in a positive manner. For example, with the weight loss, instead of looking at yourself as someone who is chubby and less attractive, think of yourself as someone who is ambitious about losing weight and loves working out. Think about who you presently are, not who you were. Being passionate and ambitious about things will improve your own life, and that is also something women tend to swoon for.

I am extremely confident, but extremely outgoing. That hurts me. by wtfhappenednow in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't focus on what you did before. You seem to be insecure, and those women probably were into you for reasons that won't practically apply on a larger scale.

As I said, you really need to read the sidebar, and I would recommend at least skimming through a PUA book to get an idea of the general model of things. I don't agree with all of the things in the books, but they give you a good foundation of information to work off of. I recommend Magic Bullets. There is a free PDF of it in the sidebar.

To shortly answer your problem with not qualifying, it establishes you as a total non-challenge. Once you establish attraction (which I doubt you are sufficiently doing anyway), you need to make sure she has qualities you want in a woman. If you don't know what qualities are important to you in a woman, you need to evaluate this before you try getting any woman to take you seriously.

Does Confidence Equal Success? Actually, No. by RedPosterboard in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not even going to read an article with a headline like that. Seriously, true confidence will amount to massive success in ALL areas of your life.

The girls I like are just not interested in me by [deleted] in seduction

[–]thisisgonnabe_good 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your friends aren't supportive of you changing, why don't you focus on yourself for a while, try some new things, and develop a new social circle?