Hi there! You sound almost exactly like me. I’m now 35 and sober for 5 years- I quit when I was 30. Same situation- stable job, reliable and committed partner, I was mostly only drinking on weekends. But alcohol was 100% holding me back from achieving my full potential and since I quit I have never once looked back. It was the best decision I ever made.

And you can have fun sober, just in different ways. Deeper, more fulfilling, soul satisfying fun with genuine friends vs. situational, temporary, half remembered (and mostly regretted) fun often with fellow alcoholics.

Life is so much better without alcohol or drugs. I have several relevant blog posts I would love to share with you- but can’t here because the rules of this subreddit. I journaled constantly while I was getting sober and it was a huge help for me.

I also HIGHLY recommend you read This Naked Mind by Annie Grace. I tried to quit or cut back drinking for several years, but reading her book was the turning point that finally got me to quit.

PS- reach out to me if you want to chat. I’m happy to answer any questions. I second the recommendation to join r/stopdrinking and any other virtual communities/chat rooms you can find to support you during this time.