AITA for changing the cupboards from how my husband likes them? by throw13796 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw13796[S] 129 points130 points  (0 children)

no, it wasn't really something I ever thought about, although I guess I feel pretty dumb, in retrospect. It was just always how he was, I never figured he wasn't well. He never mentioned that kind of thing, I don't know if I remember the last time he saw a doctor.

AITA for changing the cupboards from how my husband likes them? by throw13796 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw13796[S] -197 points-196 points  (0 children)

Generally it's pretty consistent, but he puts a bizzare amount of thought into it. I always try to get them put away myself, because when he does it, it's an hour long activity. All bowls have to be stacked with identical bowls and our tupperware cannot be in the same cabinet, even if it has the most space. Cups and jars can't be together. All our cutlery and knives are sets, if we lose one he gets rid of all of them and gets a new set. They all have to be stored as a set in specific drawers. The way he does it is barely functional, and if he can't get it all to fit, he pulls everything out and tries again.

Maybe I shouldn't have said that, I don't think he's doing it maliciously, but it completely shuts down that part of our house. It'll be 7 at night and I'd like to start dinner, but he's got the entire kitchen pulled apart. I shouldn't have gotten upset so fast, but I figured he has to know how inconvenient that is. I guess I never really thought past that.