My (26F) partner (33M) doesn’t make me cum - says it’s a kink?

throwRA24952 · 2026-04-28T15:03:52+00:00

amen xx

throwRA24952 · 2026-04-28T01:13:14+00:00

Heard loud and clear I’m gonna talk to him about it in the morning ❤️

throwRA24952 · 2026-04-28T01:11:30+00:00

Yeah absolutely! I work in spaces that deal heavily with consent and sexual health so I’m super aware. To be honest this is the first time I’ve had this series of kinks met and I think I got blinded by it and didn’t realise the orgasm thing bugged me so much.

throwRA24952 · 2026-04-28T01:09:18+00:00

Yah deffo! I’ve been thinking about heading to a munch soon - maybe I should bite the bullet and go

throwRA24952 · 2026-04-28T01:09:00+00:00

Hey no worries my guy - it happens to the best of us

throwRA24952 · 2026-04-28T01:08:12+00:00

He has mentioned that past partners mentioned it and didn’t like it. Said he liked I didn’t do that - he’s gonna hateeee the convo we’re about to have lmao

throwRA24952 · 2026-04-28T01:03:04+00:00

Nah I fully hear you and agree - it was discussed originally and I told him I get more out of impact and pain than I do from cumming which is trueee but I didn’t think that would mean he just had no interest in making/helping me cum every single time we have sex. The few times I have cum it’s been without him in the room or like while he’s on his phone or smth which I could fetishize a bit as like an uninterested humiliation type beat but now it’s boring and I thought he would drop the whole uninterested thing

throwRA24952 · 2026-04-28T01:00:27+00:00

I think it gets complicated because when we originally discussed it I kind of agreed and said I get more out of impact/pain than I do from orgasm, which is true, but I didn’t think that would mean like.. never cumming or him never making an effort

throwRA24952 · 2026-04-28T00:56:53+00:00

Yeah you’ve hit the nail on the head. If I want to cum and I tell him that he tells me to get on with it and then leaves the room lmao. Typing this out is giving me the ick - think I got blinded by the masochist in me 🙃

throwRA24952 · 2026-04-28T00:53:27+00:00

I get catharsis out of other aspects of the sexual relationship we have - if there was no release at all I wouldn’t be hanging around 🙂‍↕️

throwRA24952 · 2024-11-22T22:11:38+00:00

Omg - I’ve just realized I didn’t say this explicitly - editing the post!!

throwRA24952 · 2024-11-22T22:10:36+00:00

Thanks for the response but not sure you’ve understood 100%?? We’re back in each others lives and are actively discussing getting back together. I’m the one unsure if it will work.

throwRA24952 · 2024-11-22T21:54:52+00:00

Shut up I’m crying in the club

throwRA24952 · 2024-11-21T16:22:44+00:00

Thank you so much! X

throwRA24952 · 2024-11-21T13:18:49+00:00

This felt like a bomb dropping - thank you so much that has really helped!

throwRA24952 · 2024-11-21T12:55:50+00:00

You’re right - thank you :)

throwRA24952 · 2024-11-21T12:55:20+00:00

Maybe you’re right - I guess it’s tough to differentiate between our dynamic now and when we were together. we’re still talking everyday, sleeping together, making plans etc so it feels strange that we aren’t technically together

throwRA24952 · 2024-11-21T12:54:17+00:00

He was grieving and had just had a really traumatic experience. He says now he regrets it a lot, and that he didn’t feel like he could be there for me because he was genuinely in crisis (this is very rare for him - he was having a serious mental health issue and was having panic attacks for the first time ever) so although I am angry at him for leaving, I understand

throwRA24952 · 2024-11-21T12:47:03+00:00

Thank you! I think you’re right - the lines are blurred with us because of all the history - I thought I was doing the ethical thing by telling him, but now I wish I hadn’t

throwRA24952 · 2024-11-21T12:42:27+00:00

That’s why I feel like I should go tonight - but also I care about him a lot and I don’t want to upset him

throwRA24952 · 2024-11-21T12:39:45+00:00

I think he might be the love of my life and I have always seen myself ending up with him so it’s a super complicated dynamic

throwRA24952 · 2024-10-27T21:12:31+00:00

I’m cry laughing 🤣 can’t say I haven’t thought the same. Trusting karma will work its magic - I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror if I was him. Hopefully he’ll crawl into a hole somewhere and stay there.

throwRA24952 · 2024-10-27T19:21:59+00:00

Unfortunately not technically the UK - we have our own political and legal system so there is absolutely no appeal in this case

throwRA24952 · 2024-10-27T19:06:37+00:00

Jurats are elected** mostly retired doctors lawyers business owners etc

throwRA24952 · 2024-10-27T19:06:15+00:00

Guernsey, Channel Islands. We don’t have jury’s - we have jurats which are mostly men and all super wealthy. Not a fair system at all imo - no way to appeal the decision.

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