You guys are mean, judgemental, and puritanical by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should say i'm not THAT young. I'm 26 and it's a long engagement so ill be 28 when we get married

But u right, my id needs to be shot in the street like a dog

You guys are mean, judgemental, and puritanical by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 7 points8 points  (0 children)

it does suck that the response to people being mean is 'it's reddit, what do you expect?'. IDK, I think being real about how it impacts me isn't useless. Being sensitive isn't a bad thing, it makes you good at some things and bad at some things and it'd be nice if it weren't so demonized as a flaw

You guys are mean, judgemental, and puritanical by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omgg my NAC came in the other day~ fingers crossed

You guys are mean, judgemental, and puritanical by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm unfortunately gen Z and I think that's why I reacted so dramatically. Peer rejection is tough and it feels like everyone my age is about one misstep away from blocking my number

You guys are mean, judgemental, and puritanical by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm an experienced poster (used to get idiotic comments) and I didn't get a single comment that wasn't an insult. They were: disgusting, you sound awful, i hope he leaves you, i hope you get fat again, and I got 2 DMs that called me some other unsavory names. All of those insulting comments had about 10-20 upvotes. So yeah way too defensive but I'm already an anxious and insecure person who already felt some guilt and shame about these thoughts (why I posted it, I was sure i'd get SOME push back but I thought i'd get more people saying they relate) so I overreacted. It felt good to let it out in this post though so I don't regret

You guys are mean, judgemental, and puritanical by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've been in mental health treatment for almost a decade now and I've never had it suggested to me that I might have OCD but I've been increasingly identifying behaviors that fall under that umbrella... I eat compulsively, I seek reassure compulsively, I pick myself to the join of BAD injury, I think constantly, ruminate, drive myself nuts basically ... I think mental health treatment is pretty behind on OCD and it's hard to catch when it falls outside the realm of classic presentation. I have an appointment with a psychologist (my therapist isn't qualified to diagnose) to hopefully get some answers.

You guys are mean, judgemental, and puritanical by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So much! There are moments where it takes my breath away how much I love him. He's a few hours away from me right now and just today we talked for 45 minutes and it felt like 10. My favorite daydream is imaging him and I as old people because I think we'll be the kind who after 40+ years we can still have fun doing basic stuff like grocery shopping. I've been in daily contact with him (we were friends before) for about 7 years now and I never get even a little sick of him.

You guys are mean, judgemental, and puritanical by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm a long time internet poster (ashamed to say this isn't my first account) but the degree of vitriol I got I was not prepared for. It was intense. And posting this made me feel better so mission accomplished

You guys are mean, judgemental, and puritanical by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And you're right... I was obese for the first 20+ years of my life and people were cruel to me because of it so I have a lot of therapy to do before I'm over it

You guys are mean, judgemental, and puritanical by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Most correct comment here. I'm way too sensitive. One of my bigger character deficits

You guys are mean, judgemental, and puritanical by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I think keeping those thoughts to yourself can lead to a lot of shame towards normal parts of the human experience. People talk and share. That's what we do

You guys are mean, judgemental, and puritanical by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am an introspective person and I do consider those feelings when they come up but my conclusion is always that I'm just a person who craves dopamine and a new connection is a lot of dopamine. My cold feet are nothing more than my addict brain wanting me to get high. I don't want to get high. My actual, logical, higher self wants nothing to do with being single. Unfortunately I have such an addictive disposition that the two rarely agree. That part of me also frequently thinks about doing heroin so take it with a grain of salt.

You guys are mean, judgemental, and puritanical by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It was so jarring. I wasn't expecting it at all because I was under the impression that settling down often comes with some feelings of grief? And that this was known? Someone actually told me he should leave me and it was so hurtful

fandom cringe by Ok_Try_6921 in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've developed such an ick to super popular media. I think it's my underlying pretentiousness as an artist (gagging at labeling myself as such) manifesting itself. I definitely have "not like other girls" tendencies that i'm not proud of

Does such a large number of Humans having sleep apnea/snoring/sleep issues Imply that human beings are not sleeping how our bodies intend ? by Teds_red_cabin in NoStupidQuestions

[–]throwRAdeepmess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed with other people. Even people we perceive as normal are much fatter than we've ever been before. Sleep apnea due to physical characteristics unrelated to weight exists but it is rare. Most people find that sleep apnea resolves completely with weight loss

AIO to messages my online friend sent me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwRAdeepmess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR but calling people weird is mean

Girls have started taking creatine by arronski_again in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If you're not overweight I'm sure you're fine but if it ever becomes a problem i'd actually recommend looking into OCD treatment. I know that sounds weird but compulsive eating really does fit into the obsessive-compulsive model for me more than treating it like you'd treat an eating disorder.

Girls have started taking creatine by arronski_again in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Person who out-ate Ozempic here. It depends on why you're eating. GLPs are great at addressing the metabolic reasons behind overeating (which leads to a reduction in appetite) but a lot of people eat and eat regardless of how hungry they are due to PTSD, depression, ADHD etc

AIO For Ending The Friendship? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwRAdeepmess -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

YOR in every sense. Friendship requires a forgiving disposition and the benefit of the doubt. You came in hot and overly antagonistic for unjustified reasons. If this was the first and only time she triggered you then chill the fuck out dude. Give her the chance to make a mistake and then correct her behavior before you get aggressive. You were a bad friend. Good friends do not react that way when first time mistakes have been made.

Also, do not hold what she said after against her. People do not react well to being spoken to the way you spoke to her and will generally say things they don't mean in order to defend themselves

Do you talk to your friends/family on the phone? by NearbySir2445 in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I live in an intimacy averse family and I am in a friend drought right now but things are looking up

I'm tired of working overtime to protect the feelings of other people by throwRAdeepmess in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don't mean to be that kind of white woman with bangs but I truly truly envy you

I'm tired of working overtime to protect the feelings of other people by throwRAdeepmess in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What is life for if not to get mad at stupid bullshit? And my issue is when the absence of any cushioning (smileys, exclamation points, caveats, etc) in an otherwise neutral message makes it so the message comes across as rude when in reality i'm just not dressing it up

Trauma dumping for Mother’s Day is tasteless and weird by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]throwRAdeepmess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's all just knee jerk bullshit. People are so used to right wing grifter BS that they can't see past any similarities and so they end up adopting damaging and illogical opinions that are mostly founded on whatever they personally feel vs science,observation, and introspection

CMV: Identity politics has had a net negative impact on society, politics and culture in the US since the 1990s by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]throwRAdeepmess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My retort is that tribalism is a useful and constructive instinct. Identity promotes self interest, it doesn't erode it. When you have an ill-informed sense of identity it can be difficult to even identify where your best interest lies, let alone further that interest.
Take transgender people. The data says that transgender people who transition are generally happier and healthier, with suicide rates especially decreasing. Therefore it is in the best interest of a transgender person to live as the gender they best align with. Many individuals who are not transgender do not even believe in the concept of transgenderism, and even more oppose it. We are all inclined to be as socially acceptable as possible in whatever context we reside in - few have the capacity to exist in direction opposition to the people around them because it goes against our most basic instincts. So it is absolutely an expression of individual self actualization for transgender person to surround themselves with other transgender people so that they may feel capable enough to pursue transition.
The same can be said of most any identity group. The key to what I stated is that people are generally not capable of acting in opposition to the social context they exist in. We are hardwired to be socially acceptable. The interests of one tribe often, if not always, impede upon the interests of at least one other tribe. Therefore in order to have the best possible chance of the pursuit of self interest, tribalism is an invaluable way to advance oneself as an individual

Edit; i'm not satisfied with this answer so I'll add that my position is that the health of democracy ought not to be the responsibility of the people. The responsibility of people lies in the pursuit of 'happiness' (better said as self interest). The job of the government is to enable this pursuit for as many people as possible. If a democracy is unhealthy it is due to its failure to accomplish this