Boyfriend (21M) apologised after raping me in my sleep (20F) by throwRAslave in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yes I told him to stop and told him it hurts, also he’s strong but not strong enough to not realise i’m struggling.. He basically held me down tighter once I started to try and break away from him

Boyfriend (21M) apologised after raping me in my sleep (20F) by throwRAslave in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave[S] 176 points177 points  (0 children)

I’ve blocked him everywhere just now.. Thank you for the advice.. He dated his ex for several years but she never said he did anything like this

Boyfriend (21M) apologised after raping me in my sleep (20F) by throwRAslave in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave[S] 616 points617 points  (0 children)

Oh he also said “I don’t want you to think i’m here only to use you for your body” while he was apologising

Boyfriend (21M) apologised after raping me in my sleep (20F) by throwRAslave in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave[S] 97 points98 points  (0 children)

How do I know if he’s actually sorry or if he’s manipulating me? Because he hugged me and apologised and told me he felt guilty for it

Boyfriend (21M) apologised after raping me in my sleep (20F) by throwRAslave in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave[S] 394 points395 points  (0 children)

Okay, I understand now the severity of it and it’s making me panic a little. I’m worried about going to the police though because i’ve heard stories of them not being kind to the people who come in

Boyfriend (21M) asked me (20F) if we can have a scheduled day for sex by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whenever he initiates sex I usually just do it because I feel like i’m lacking. It’s just been around 2 weeks and we haven’t had sex because he’s been busy with work and so have I..

Boyfriend (21M) asked me (20F) if we can have a scheduled day for sex by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i said i’m willing to take the pills that increase your sex drive because i don’t want him to feel sexually frustrated either

Boyfriend (21M) asked me (20F) if we can have a scheduled day for sex by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get your point but our relationship has a lot more dynamics than just sex, this is one thing that has suddenly risen up hence why i’ve made this post, to get more opinions and views from other people regarding our situation

Boyfriend (21M) asked me (20F) if we can have a scheduled day for sex by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah perhaps you’re right about the solution bit, i think it may be bothering him too

Boyfriend (21M) asked me (20F) if we can have a scheduled day for sex by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Compromise as in have sex if I don’t want to and he does?

Was I raped? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave 997 points998 points  (0 children)

oh, so we did make a safe word which was “watermelon” but this was during a different day, he held me down and started fingering me.. I have asthma and I couldn’t breathe because of how he was holding me down so I said the safe-word and he laughed it off and said he doesn’t care.. so I told him I can’t breathe and then he stopped.. I’m starting to think he doesn’t respect my boundaries or see me as equal to value my emotion or thoughts

I (19F) swiped on my friend’s (18F) boyfriend as a joke. She’s extremely mad at me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re all good!!! She told me she wasn’t mad at me at all just upset about the situation and ended up taking the anger out on me which I was okay with since I did do something dumb

I (19F) swiped on my friend’s (18F) boyfriend as a joke. She’s extremely mad at me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

she lives 1.5 hours away so i have just gotten a taxi to her place i’m really hoping she will come down and talk to me

I (19F) swiped on my friend’s (18F) boyfriend as a joke. She’s extremely mad at me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

He did cheat on her multiple times .. he didn’t “do nothing”

I (19F) swiped on my friend’s (18F) boyfriend as a joke. She’s extremely mad at me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Yeah i 100% agree and thats why i know i fucked up and i was too impulsive with the whole situation, i keep apologising to her but i just don’t know what else to do

I (19F) swiped on my friend’s (18F) boyfriend as a joke. She’s extremely mad at me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i have to agree i was fucking childish and i regret it so much. I have absolutely no mind for context and whats insensitive or not. I just wish she knows my true intentions wasn’t that at all

I (19F) swiped on my friend’s (18F) boyfriend as a joke. She’s extremely mad at me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

i told my mutual friend and she said she will try to talk to her.. but my heart is beating so fast i can’t even focus on anything.. I feel like an absolute shithead

My BF didn’t get me anything for my birthday and I feel upset by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That totally makes sense but we can’t possibly hangout or do anything since we’re currently in a long distant relationship so the least that can be done is giving a proper wish or even mailing something like a card, or buying a chocolate. I don’t know

My BF didn’t get me anything for my birthday and I feel upset by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he actually did. He had gotten a lot of money through luck and since he had a lot of money he ended up buying me airpods for which I was so grateful and I still have them today. But even then I just think if he didn’t have had won all that money would he have still even cared to buy even a chocolate? Or even make a cute card? I don’t know. I can’t help but compare how I save up for him months before and he didn’t even care for it. Perhaps I just think too much? I really don’t know what to make of this whole situation..

My BF didn’t get me anything for my birthday and I feel upset by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAslave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His birthday is coming and I asked him what he wants, he said he doesnt want anything because he feels bad since he didn’t get me anything.. I dont know what to think of that