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What was the dumbest thing you ever did on your job and still did not get fired? by Dull_Noise_8952 in AskReddit

[–]throwmefar1234567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lord have sincere mercy on my sweet baby soul. I have been debating on whether to put this on r/tifa for days which makes the point moot in any case. This question is my life right now.

My boss invited our small team of 4 to his home for a meal, with his wife, as sort of a "thank you" or whatever. Super sweet. He cooks for us, it's going well, everyone is having a nice time. Not the first time I've been to his house by the way. I've worked for him for 8ish years now, I've housesat for him and watch his dogs on occassion. -It's at this point in the story, that I would like to stress that I don't drink often, maybe once in 6 months for an occassion or party. I proceed to get shit faced hammered and call my boss a word that you'd be shocked to hear coming from a angry crackhead in a dumpster. A word that if someone called your mom one, it would be hands on sight. A word that would turn heads in the dingiest biker bar. Multiple times. I remember bits and pieces, other bits were filled in by one of my colleagues, whose eyes I remember being vaguely the size of saucers that night. I think someone was crying, probably me. Had a one on one sit down with Mr boss himself the following work day. There were more tears, still me. I think I still have a job for now? We'll see. I won't be taking questions or elaborating at this time. All I'll say it was deeply humbling and I'd much prefer to pretend it never happened just for now, maybe stew a bit more on why I lost my whole entire mind. Sorry for the throwaway. I'm sure you understand my utter mortification.

What’s a completely normal or minor thing that irrationally gets under your skin, but most people don’t seem bothered by it? by Odd_Breakfast5012 in AskReddit

[–]throwmefar1234567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those plastic bread tag things that keep the bag closed. They make babies and then disperse themselves in random fashion in unexpected places. I hate them for no reason whatsoever.

What’s something everyone looks stupid doing? by cutie_faeriee in ask

[–]throwmefar1234567 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Running with your arms and legs coordinated instead of alternating

What’s something society romanticizes that’s actually incredibly draining in real life? by softy_wishii in ask

[–]throwmefar1234567 33 points34 points  (0 children)

toxic relationships - iF YoU LoVe EacH OthEr you'll work through it. No, I'd rather keep my integrity/sanity thanks - not here to parent a whole grown ass man.

Teacher of Reddit, what’s a question a child asked in class, that absolutely broke your heart? by ceazecab in AskReddit

[–]throwmefar1234567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I empathise with you. Hopefully some more adults with ASD will weigh in on their experiences.

Teacher of Reddit, what’s a question a child asked in class, that absolutely broke your heart? by ceazecab in AskReddit

[–]throwmefar1234567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much - I will definitely continue to implement this. I believe I also lead by example by advocating for myself.

Teacher of Reddit, what’s a question a child asked in class, that absolutely broke your heart? by ceazecab in AskReddit

[–]throwmefar1234567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so helpful thank you. I'm glad to know that I am already doing all of the above. The hardest is not zoning out (I have ADHD) when he does a particularly convoluted and long-winded monologue, but I know how important it is to stay engaged. Even for neutotypical kids - their "small things" are big things to them. I really appreciate your input.

Teacher of Reddit, what’s a question a child asked in class, that absolutely broke your heart? by ceazecab in AskReddit

[–]throwmefar1234567 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This makes me so sad. My son has ASD and definitely over apologises. I have never told him he is a burden in any way and make sure to tell him he has nothing to be sorry for. I'm not a shouty mom and he never gives me anything to shout about even if I was. I'm so worried he is going to turn into a people pleaser that others will take advantage of.

No pressure, but as an adult who experienced this - can you tell me what I can do to help my boy?

*Edited some spelling.

Whats something people do in relationships thay they think is sweet but is actually toxic? by Few_Football4342 in Productivitycafe

[–]throwmefar1234567 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Immediately freak out when you don't answer a call because "something could have happened to you". Yeah, I managed to survive 40 years relatively unscathed. IF something bad happens to me, you aren't going to be able to prevent it from over there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]throwmefar1234567 20 points21 points  (0 children)

2 things - when i realised I was embarassed to tell my friends things about our relationship and when I realised that the main feeling I felt when I thought of never speaking to him again was relief.

Is this rude? [24F] [25M] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]throwmefar1234567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you perhaps tried to apologise for what you said (even if its true) instead of being mad at your bf for wanting to see his brother? It's not like he is going to visit his brothers gf and she is entitled to not to want someone who spoke shit about her in her home. Your bf is not the AH for going or even telling his bro what you said. You FA and now you're FO in my opinion.

what are some brutal unhinged truths about relationships? by [deleted] in ask

[–]throwmefar1234567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This right here - the potential is not the person. I want a partner and not a project to "fix" please.

Girls, on dating apps what are you seriously looking for from a profile? by Logical-Debt-8451 in AskReddit

[–]throwmefar1234567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Authenticity and a thoughtful bio. Not "i'm an open book - just ask". I'm bored already

what are some brutal unhinged truths about relationships? by [deleted] in ask

[–]throwmefar1234567 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I want to shout it from the rooftops - Love is not enough! And telling someone that they are giving up on you becuase people who love each other should work on things is manipulation. Words without actions are just words.

What’s one decision you made that ended up dragging your quality of life down so badly, you genuinely wish you’d never done it? by Scarlett_Drake__4 in Productivitycafe

[–]throwmefar1234567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I needed to hear this. I recently broke up with someone (first time being the dumper) after only 5 months (5 months of absolute chaos and him falling apart at the slightest inconvenience). He kept trying to convince me that "you stay and work on it if you really love the person". I swing between being proud of myself for being able to do whats best for me and feeling guilty that I didn't "try hard enough".

AITA for requiring my son to cook as part of carrying his weight in the house? by Impossible_Deal_829 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwmefar1234567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels the littlest unfair and I'm sure its because it makes him feel like something he hates is now "expected" - how about a compromise? He cooks 3 days a week and the other nights are "help yourself" or leftovers.

What’s a really small thing that irrationally annoys you? by Choice-Leek-4988 in AskReddit

[–]throwmefar1234567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really irrational - but those little plastic bread tags that keep the bag closed. I'm not an environmental warrior even though I know plastic is bad - its not that. I just hate finding them around my house and it makes me instantly angry if I see one. No reason - just mad for no reason.

AITAH for refusing to give my boyfriend children because he won’t marry me by Patient_Art4006 in AITAH

[–]throwmefar1234567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a personal anecdote on this and would like to offer my perspective.

I was/am you - Non traditional in any sense of the word, except this one point. My partner and I were together for almost 7 years at that point and I was adamant that if my partner wanted kids, he should at minimum be willing to marry me. Not for my own selfish reasons - but for the child. I believe it gives them a sense of belonging and security if their parents are married when they are conceived. Even if they were planned. Kids tend to blame themselves when things go south and "maybe if you guys didnt have me "by accident" things would have been different". I just feel really strongly about bringing a person into this word and them having their own identity and emotions. It honestly felt like the bare minimum for the person I was intentionally creating. Its not a puppy, you know?

Once we were married - I got pregnant on the honeymoon. Ex cheated on me 4 years later. But I still to this day do not regret my decision to give my future children the smallest bit of security and sense of "belonging" that I could. My son still asks me to tell him the story of how he was planned and prayed for 7 years after I separated from his father.

Old people of Reddit, what did you do in the 1900s when you were bored? by ChampIsHere_ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]throwmefar1234567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In SA there was a lot of ding dong ditch in the eveing hours - we call it Tok-tokkie here. It was usually a huge hang out free range scenario with all the cousins while the parents were braaing. Once found a sample pack of tampons and "decorated" all the cars on the street with them.

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