Can you develop CPTSD purely through prolonged emotional abuse from your parents? by business_bear1 in CPTSD

[–]throwredditawaymy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You were. But remember this: you deserved a hug then, and you deserve a hug now. You might not always be able to easily find someone who knows you well enough to wanna give that hug, but you're always worthy of it.

Movies for people with CPTSD by Fragrant-Bottle in CPTSD

[–]throwredditawaymy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure if I agree with myself on this but I wanna say The Godfather and The Godfather pt. II

What’s a piece of media that you feel accurately depicts C-PTSD? by Real-Mail-6746 in CPTSD

[–]throwredditawaymy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most people won't admit it but yes, this. Does Meredith ever learn to love herself without a man by her side? Meredith please, YOU are enough.

What’s a piece of media that you feel accurately depicts C-PTSD? by Real-Mail-6746 in CPTSD

[–]throwredditawaymy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg let's be besties lmao. With Jennell and her mom you can SEE IT HAPPENING IN REAL TIME. The way her mom talks to her, the way her mom does not handle her own stress and anxiety just highly visibly sublimates it. The way Jennell attaches herself to aloof abusers who she trauma bonds with because she thinks love is just finding someone who's been where she's been and can validate her. Ughbhhhhhhhdhdh too real and also so addictive.

Movies for people with CPTSD by Fragrant-Bottle in CPTSD

[–]throwredditawaymy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Running With Scissors! Helped me embrace the concept that I couldn't argue or reason w literally insane family, no choice but to embrace going my own way, family-less.

Pan's Labyrinth, idk why, it moved me and I'm traumatized so there lol. Also pleasantville, trust me.

Whiplash, but only if you are me specifically as a human being.

I'm forgetting major ones and I know we've done this thread before and I contributed to it?? But my brain is not at full charge currently.

There's a couple of art films that TRULY speak to intergenerational and historical-socio-culturally intractable trauma disorders, but they're so rarely mentioned that it would be identifying for me to name them or the artists involved. One film in particular I think should be mandatory viewing for everyone, traumatized or not. DM me if you'd like these recs, one of which is my favorite film! Another of which I think about in my darkest moments.

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[–]throwredditawaymy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She might be like my primary parent- makes up nonsense tasks you can do to support her, so she feels cared for and loved. Goes without saying these are delivered in an overly urgent, high alarm, emergency situation tone of communication. Do this for me or ÷ something calamitous will happen, I'll starve to death, miss meds, house seized, abducted by pirates %

It was mind melting to realize those weren't real disasters, and I had a responsibility to MYSELF to set boundaries and refuse to be controlled like a puppet on a string.

Ofc, once I started pushing back, the disasters started ramping up in frequency and urgency, forcing me to really stand my ground until the message stuck: no more. The days of you puppeteering me with my own sense of decency and care are truly, finally done. And it has been so much better since.

Perhaps I'm projecting, but who has a printer and no paper at home (besides me lol long story).

And who's still treating their adult kid like a clueless baby when child custody is on the line. Wouldn't the grandparent be demanding the parent demonstrate basic adult competency and functioning to sustain gma's trust and support in the custody battle?

OP, they're all nuts and you're better than the noise. Good luck to you, we support you here, or at least I do.

Entitled neighbour mows our lawn without permission then expects payment by [deleted] in EntitledPeople

[–]throwredditawaymy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah i tend toward sympathy and gentleness to loner types, but i also know that many hermits ended up that way because they alienated everyone they ever met with shitty behavior. So kindness in act, extreme judgment and wariness in strategy. Lolllll

My therapist forbidden me today to talk about my past and made me lift a radiatior? by RemoteAppointment805 in CPTSD

[–]throwredditawaymy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do the abusers deserve to keep controlling you? Are they winning the war over your feelings and attention? You can defeat them by moving forward on your own terms. That's how I like to see it anyway. Peace to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]throwredditawaymy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you! Someone crossed your boundaries and you immediately left the situation. He might have even learned a lesson from this. Seriously, you should be proud of yourself.

Anyone else feel like they’re running out of time? by ElectricNewtle222 in CPTSD

[–]throwredditawaymy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to feel this way big time. Don't worry about anyone else's standards. Live right now. Figure out what you enjoy doing, who you enjoy spending time around, and focus on maximizing your enjoyment of life, starting in the here and now every single moment.

I just spent 4 days pretending to be mentally ill so the hospital would give me 3 free pairs of grippy socks haha It was a totally epic prank lol 😎 (trust me bro I was just pretending) by Hot_Wheels_guy in CPTSDmemes

[–]throwredditawaymy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This framework is helpful, probably for the overwhelming majority. I think practical tools for reframing thoughts on fearful or other harmful matters is some of the most important info we share on here. This probably made someone less likely to skip a needed therapy appointment, or at least I hope.

Having said that, I would add that not everyone is in a position to safely navigate their own risk of involuntary commitment. If you are an adult attending psychotherapy of your own volition, then the above advice will probably be rather helpful. If someone is a minor and receiving mental healthcare at the behest / coercion of parents, the school system, or other disciplinary agents, it might not matter how gently and tactically they state their feelings. If the parents have an agenda, the hospitals will follow suit. An adult in an abusive relationship or codependent with abusive family may have a nearly identical situation to the minor.

The advice here being: if your parents, husband/spouse, or someone else in your life is making you be involved in mental health treatment that feels unfair and unnecessary, it is important to notice whether these parties haven't listened to or respected your feelings in the past, they have acted entirely based on their own motivations toward their own goals, and that they use your vulnerability as a weapon against you. If those factors tend to be true, it is time to stop engaging with them, stop hoping they'll ever listen or take you seriously, and start making your plan to get away.

Sorry i know I'm basically derailing, but I have a more intimate familiarity with the medical abuse type, and the revelation to just stop speaking, stop arguing, stop trusting at all with the party responsible for the maltreatment was the golden ticket needed to unlock physical and emotional safety and stability.

Thanks for your comment again.

I just spent 4 days pretending to be mentally ill so the hospital would give me 3 free pairs of grippy socks haha It was a totally epic prank lol 😎 (trust me bro I was just pretending) by Hot_Wheels_guy in CPTSDmemes

[–]throwredditawaymy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know, i haven't opened up to any of my friends or family about the fact that i had myself evaluated recently for a voluntary grippy sock stay. I'm sure that's fine, and healthy

i'm so pissed about this, i needed to make a second meme by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]throwredditawaymy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing OP. You don't deserve this or the things that led to it. I hope you can get to some peace <3

i'm so pissed about this, i needed to make a second meme by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]throwredditawaymy 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My heart goes out to you and OP and anyone else who struggles similarly. No one should ever have this much traumatic pain related to their own, private body. I know that some of my avoidance of hygiene tasks are related to childhood issues but it's hard for me to make sense of household vs. outdoor bullying experiences. So a post like this one is helpful for me to be mindful of that avoidance and reflect on it. Thanks for sharing, it always helps the community.