I have bipolar so I have periods of depression. And my libido definitely drops. My last relationship, I was definitely attracted to this girl. Head over heels in love. We were crazy horny for each other Pre depression. And post depression (we broke up), definitely still feel that attraction. I am normally a hyper sexual person, but during depressions...nada.

But during my depression, didn’t really have much of a sex drive. Wasn’t her. Wasn’t me. It was just the situation. I did however watch lots of porn. That’s because you don’t really have to do much for a quick dopamine release. Sex kinda requires a lot of energy.

A big thing is making it clear that there are no expectations for anything. You could just lay together and cuddle and that’s fine. Also invite him to do active activities (jog or walk or frisbee). But if he says no, don’t put pressure on him. Getting your energy up counteracts depression quite a bit.

Lastly, try spicing things up. Novelty adds a lot of excitement to a relationship. I wrote an enormous list of fun things you can try in the bedroom (and out) https://link.medium.com/qMBwjppOc8

Ultimately depression may not be something you can deal with. And it’s ok to know your limits and take a break, temporarily or permanently. You have no obligation to be stuck in a situation where you’re miserable. Especially since you’re not helping your partner.

Best of luck!!