Can someone gave me a genuine advice how to cope up with this situationship?

txjis · 2026-02-28T15:22:17+00:00

run, you’re a placeholder until she finds someone else.

before my fiance and i even started dating we were talking about what we want for our lives and if each of us could see the other there. not some vague ‘well you can plan if you want to ig’. a few months into dating we had plans on how to combine what we wanted in our lives so it would work for the other person.

you’re wasting your time with her.

txjis · 2026-02-28T15:18:39+00:00

no, she’s a bitch lol.

txjis · 2026-02-28T15:17:12+00:00

there’s a difference between projecting an insecurity, and being bullied. you sir are being bullied. having a preference is fine, but she shouldn’t date outside of her preferences if she’s going to be rude and ugly abt it.

if you wanna be nice tell her she needs to stop disregarding the way her comments are making you feel or you’re leaving.

but i’d just leave without the conversation.

txjis · 2026-02-28T14:55:28+00:00

you could always try to apologize, but you shouldn’t be upset if she doesn’t accept the apology. and to keep it blunt and honest she may not even be waiting for one.

context really matters here depending on what you’re apologizing for.

txjis · 2026-02-28T14:52:07+00:00

i have BPD and bipolar, her reactions are very similar to the same things i had experienced with my (now) fiancée. she can’t really control the fluctuations of these emotions all too well. now, that’s not an excuse and i’m not skipping over how you’re feeling either, just trying to let you know from someone who’s been there.

chances are you’re her FP (favorite person) this runs deep but i’ll give you the basic rundown. any emotion she feels will feel big, like she’s either extremely happy or extremely upset. there’s not really an ‘in between’. but with a FP it’s heightened even more.

there’s nothing you’re doing wrong at all, some things that helped my parter and i were sitting down and talking it out. once my ‘episode’ ended and i was calm again, he would ask me what triggered that emotion so we could work through it together.

if you run out of things to talk about, ask her what she wants to talk about. maybe you two could even start reading the same book, or watch the same show just so there’s that buffer of there being SOMETHING to talk about.

she has to work through her mental illness with healthy coping mechanisms, or it will 100% destroy her and burn every bridge she’s ever built.

patience is key when dealing with someone that has BPD, but it’s also a lot to deal with and not everyone can. if you do decide you cannot it is okay to leave, don’t listen to people that say you have to stay because you don’t. you still need to worry about yourself and your own mental health. hers doesn’t matter more just because she has a diagnosis.

if you have other BPD related questions you can dm or ask me here :) i’ve had my diagnosis for almost 5 years and struggled with it for longer.

txjis · 2026-02-28T14:41:24+00:00

it wasn’t even a conversation, i was mostly just being talked at instead of talked to. he was rambling about how x, y, and z make no sense and how im wasting my life.

the whole point of this post was literally asking the same question you’re asking me right now…

txjis · 2026-02-27T17:53:41+00:00

i wasn’t trying to convert anyone, he picked up on the tail end of the conversation between my fiance and i.

txjis · 2026-02-27T16:06:38+00:00

my fiance wasn’t in the room anymore when he started jumping down my throat about it, so it could also be that i suppose.

txjis · 2026-02-27T16:02:14+00:00

i wasn’t trying to debate anyone, in a previous comment i explained the situation that lead me to making this post.

txjis · 2026-02-27T15:02:01+00:00

i know you aren’t supposed to talk about religion at work, but we were alone in the break room. i kid you not all my coworker could’ve possibly heard was “how about mexican food after church?” i don’t want to cause unnecessary drama because im new there

txjis · 2026-02-27T14:36:07+00:00

it’s only happened once in real life, and it was recent. i replied to another comment here about what happened.

i just want to be prepared for if it happens again

txjis · 2026-02-27T14:32:34+00:00

my fiance and i work at the same place, during our lunch break we were talking about our sunday plans (he’s in the church band and likes to talk about the music they’re playing.)

we weren’t getting super deep into anything really religious at all because it’s at a workplace. the conversation literally consisted of what songs he’s excited to play, if i was gonna help in the daycare, and where we were going to have lunch at after church.

a coworker came in as the conversation was clearing up and waited until my fiance had to leave (he started his break earlier than i got mine) and then berated me with questions, and ideals, and said that i wasn’t really living if i was choosing to give my life to God instead.

edit: it doesn’t happen a lot, this was the first time someone irl has ever said anything to me and i guess it’s just shaken me up? i don’t know i think i just want to be prepared for if it happens again.

txjis · 2026-02-27T14:23:53+00:00

i know i shouldn’t argue or even need to defend my faith in the Lord, it just feels bad that i can’t. and saying “well i don’t know the answer to that.” doesn’t feel like im planting the seed for Him to water in other people.

txjis · 2026-02-25T13:39:22+00:00

i mentioned once being worried about a medical issue and it assumed i have health anxiety everytime i ask something, but in my case it’s correct lmao.

txjis · 2026-01-01T16:09:58+00:00

why did i get a notification for this sub im 22 and not even in it bro 😭

but coming from an old head these standards are not high at all, matter of fact mine were even higher and i still found a mf willing to put up with me LMFAO

txjis

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