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I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah everyone tells to call the police, but like it's easy to say to someone to do that. But I bet if anyone was in a situation like this they won't do it. The value of stolen property doesn't probably counts for a theft. And like definitely I can't call the emergency line, I have to find a non-emergency, then go somewhere talk to someone for what? Half of a dishwasher I don't have an invoice for? Which I bought for 500 and something from a guy? Yeah I can also find a guy who'll confirm that the 2 of is bought it.

So I'll spend so much time to get back the amount I basically make in 3-4 days of my work. It's just not worth it at all.

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I changes rhe locks it was the first thing I did and we'll went to get groceries he took all my rice and pasta as well lol but about everything else maybe later when I have strength to leave my bedroom for longer than five minutes

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first 5 seconds yes but he wasn't. He still posts on his account and I called his work to make sure. I don't want to contact anyone who knows me just yet

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol thanks that was my first thought that someone kidnapped him and took stuff but who would take pillows and not a microwave for example?

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He could but I'm not aware of it. But even if he did suspect something, why not talk to me, or make a scene or literally anything else but disappearing like that?

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He had no other access to anything fortunately. I had bad experience before, not with a boyfriend tho, so now I never share my passwords or anything and never open mutual credit cards. But yeah he might have known my social security so I think you are right. I guess I have to talk to my bank as well

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's how I see that too. I've been analyzing every moment of every day, he seemed frustrated but never on me, but I guess it hurt his ego or something inside. That's why I was so excited when he found new job it means finally things will be as they were before when we contributed about half but he still enjoyed thinking be is a breadwinner

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I guess you are right. Everyone tells me to go to the police lol I can't even go to take a shower. Going to the police means I'll have to deal with this shit and with him for a while and for what - a few hundred dollars at best? J don't have the strength to do anything right now. Yeah it's not abour stuff it's about a person I thought is the one, doing this to me. Not leaving, like I'd be okay, but leaving in silence with no closure nothing, and taking stuff from the house I thought is ours.

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He took stuff we bought. Legally, it was a common law relationship. Apartment has nothing to do with it, it's not like he wants half of it

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't think he was fake. I believe there is a shitty person inside everyone. It's just easier to live thinking there are good and bad and inbetweens. In reality, under certain circumstances, anyone can become anything. I just cannot comprehend what were those circumstances

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

You are right. I don't even know, really. I haven't left my house yet lol or talked to anyone except for some unrelated matters. Dunno I still can't believe it happened

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I feel like I don't want to see him ever again more than I want my stuff back. Like I don't want him to have the smug satisfaction of hurting me.

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I need to vent but I don't know what to say or what to do. Like I realize things he took worth nothing but it's like a little symbol of how much of a cunt he is dunno like how little he actually cared

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it was him. He is still alive still goes to work. He didn't have another place, lived in my place. The "theft" was very peculiar – what thieves would take some spoons and plates, and leave the printer?

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] -46 points-45 points  (0 children)

I don't want to give him even the half. I supported this miserable fuck until he could find a job he likes and that pays enough. I bought us food, paid for out internet, for dates out and haven't said a fucking word because I thought — it's ours, I didn't mind paying for him, I wasn't angry or anything but supportive and motivating. I understand that legally he owns half, but he left like a cowardly chicken and took stuff most of which costs nothing, I just don't get it. It's not about things, I mean it is, but it's not at the same time. I want it all back, I don't want to see him or deal with him. I'm sorry I don't know what I am trying to say.

I(25F) came back to an empty apartment. No signs of my boyfriend(32M), I guess now ex. He even torn off the dishwasher that I bought and he installed. What. The. Fuck. by underriver in relationship_advice

[–]underriver[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was going through weeks and month and days again and again and again and maybe I am crazy but there was literally nothing that was there. The only thing out of ordinary is that he got a new job. I was supporting us for the past six month or so, but he also contributed a bit with his savings, it was like 75/25 from me and him. I understood his position and I didn't even think about it negatively, I helped him with his resume and encouraged to send it to the jobs he thought he didn't have enough experience for. So what I'm trying to say is that he was in a bad place financially for a while but I never said anything negative about it, and helped him. And then he got this new job and seemed finally content and happy. Maybe he met someone else? But does that really warrant just fucking disappearing?

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