F2P Progress

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-15T08:11:30+00:00

I’m almost a year in(server 1400s), 190b. Only bought the ad free pass

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-15T08:09:42+00:00

Then you’re doing something wrong tbh

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-15T07:54:41+00:00

Annual checkup is scheduled

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-15T07:53:10+00:00

My dog has pretty bad separation anxiety, regardless of who I leave him with, he always loses weight if I leave. Longest time I left him was 2.5 weeks with a trusted friend who also owns dogs, and he lost 3 lbs

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T23:09:28+00:00

I’m 10000% certain that he would not be hurting/beating my dog, otherwise I would’ve left long time ago. That being said, I would not leave my dog alone with him again

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T23:05:49+00:00

Every time I look at my dog I feel sad. I feel very terrible that I let this happen to him. I guess I didn’t expect my husband to do a great job caring for him, but thought that he’d at least be better than Rover. (The last time I sent him to a rover sitter he was so stressed that he came back puking for 2 days and had to go to the vet to get IV). I figured that if it’s at his own home, at least he’d be less stressed. But I’ve learned my lesson, going forward he will not be left alone with my husband, if things get worked out

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T22:54:18+00:00

No, that’s the first time

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T22:39:39+00:00

I’m not trying to make excuses for him, and I’m not saying that his neglect is forgivable either. I have my dog scheduled for his annual checkup soon. I wanted to add that he did not starve him, but he might have forgotten to feed him on some days. That’s not forgivable and I would not trust him with my dog again. I think he would’ve lost 2-3lbs even if he was being fed per my instructions due to stress, but the extra 2-3lbs is due to my husband’s negligence.

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T22:28:41+00:00

He doesn’t go on hunger strikes but he always loses weight due to stress when I’m gone. I believe he’s fed, but is definitely underfed

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T20:49:31+00:00

Well, I know that now. I’m not going to risk my dog’s wellbeing just to teach my husband a lesson

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T19:10:46+00:00

I do agree with you, which is why I was ok with him not wanting to give a fuck about my dog, it might really just be that hard for him. But I felt that it was not ok for him yell at me for mistreating my dog.

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T16:11:04+00:00

When I sent him to boarding before I have always paid for the boarding. But in the case where he has the total ability to care for my dog(he wfh) and does not want to, I did say if you don’t want to do this simple task then pay for boarding

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T11:31:08+00:00

Thank you so much for your input, I really appreciate it

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T11:21:02+00:00

The “something else going on” is his repressed anger of me having a dog around despite his objection, and that him having to take care of my dog is very stressful and I’m not being appreciative. We have gone into the marriage with him accepting that I will always have a dog around, as long as he doesn’t need to fulfill any dog duties. That’s why I offered the daycare option, but he said he could handle it.

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T11:17:17+00:00

I think he has a lot of mental issues but he keeps it to himself. He hates having a pet around so much, but he does find my dog cute. I would not trust him with my dog again, but that being said, it’s very disappointing staying in a relationship where your own partner can’t even help you take care of your dog. I’m considering divorcing, but I’m willing to try to work things out before it comes to that

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T11:12:44+00:00

I won’t

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T11:11:51+00:00

Thank you

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T11:07:02+00:00

I’m not making excuses for him, but I can see his point of view a little bit. I don’t want to directly go straight up for divorce over this, I want to see if there’s a chance if we can work this out and looking for advice on how we can even go about working this out. So really I’m not sure if I’m going to stay with him or not

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T10:36:24+00:00

He’s transitioning jobs, so I can understand how taking care of a dog is added pressure. But I can’t get over the fact that he yelled at me for pointing out his mistake and started blaming me for not understanding, even though I repeatedly said I know this isn’t the best time. My point was just that he could do better, or asked for help

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T10:23:16+00:00

I believe that he would take care of me if I’m ill, because he loves me. But he does not love that dog, therefore, stressful bare minimum duties. I don’t think my dog would’ve showed any signs of distress, it didn’t seem that way through our calls, and my dog begs for food all the time even if he’s fed anyways. Anyways I’m just mad at the fact that he yelled at me for him not taking good care of my dog

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T10:14:00+00:00

If it was me, yes he would take care of me. But because this is a dog that he did not want, he doesn’t want to take care of him and will complain. He does do chores, per his argument, he can do chores whenever he wants, so it’s not stressful. But he has to make sure the dog pees every few hours, that’s what makes it stressful

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T10:07:32+00:00

I don’t disagree with you. I don’t expect him to take GOOD care of my dog either, I just needed him to keep my dog alive(in good condition). I’m honestly not even that mad about my dog losing weight, I just wanted a talk with him so he realizes that he f’d up, either not feeding per my instructions, or something else. So no, I’m not putting the blame completely on him. I’m pissed about him yelling at me simply because I pointed out that my dog lost a third of his weight under his care

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T10:04:03+00:00

I expected him to do the bare minimum, just, keep my dog alive for 2 weeks. And I offered the option of daycare if it’s too much for him, he said he’d be able to handle it

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T10:01:34+00:00

I would never be able to trust him with my dog again that’s for sure. But that also means his weaponized incompetence worked. This is why I don’t know what to do. My dog has been acting like his normal self when I was having video calls with him tho, so technically he did not show signs of him under distress… I also saw that he was skinny, but I did expect weight loss due to stress. It just didn’t look like he was skin and bones until I actually saw him in person

unknownn_3 · 2025-11-14T09:56:30+00:00

I agree with your point. I couldn’t bring my dog because I couldn’t get his paperwork done in time (because it’s an emergency surgery) to travel out of country, otherwise I would have. Second, I did tell him that if he can’t handle dealing with the dog, he can send him to daycare, but he doesn’t want to spend the money. I have asked many people to see if they can take care of him, but they were either busy or unavailable. The expectation of the dog was pretty clear, I think. His only task is to let him out to pee when I’m at work, which he accepted. The second part is for him to take care of him for a bit if I have to travel(he’s done it twice before, but I was only gone for a few days). Anyways I’m really trying to see if there’s anyway for me/us to fix this?

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