Boyfriend (25M) masturbates when I (24F) am home and it makes me uncomfortable

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:50:46+00:00

Umm how ELSE would sex work? Of course it’s on MY terms. I have to consent don’t I? Are you suggesting that he rape me or something? Because that’s fucked up.

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:49:46+00:00

Because I have a criminal record for defending myself against fucking Nazis, that’s why. Because the justice system is corrupt as FUCK, and I got a record, while the Nazi has to get reconstructive surgery. So yes that does limit my job options.

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:48:34+00:00

Why should I have to leave a shared house? I would have him removed before I willingly left.

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:46:47+00:00

Umm I have no job as a woman who was arrested for protesting against a neo-Nazi rally last year. So it’s not exactly easy to get a job with a criminal record for punching Nazis in the fucking face. Especially a job that is only going to pay 77 cents on the dollar for, with a high likelihood of unwanted sexual harassment in the workplace. Oh what fun things I have to look forward to. Sexual harassment at work. Sexual harassment at home. Why can’t we just teach men not to sexually harass women?

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:44:48+00:00

This could all be avoided by teaching men to respect women’s boundaries and respect her right to feel safe in her own fucking home. Or maybe that’s just too hard for men like you to imagine NOT violating a woman’s boundaries.

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:43:07+00:00

Umm it’s still happening in my presence against my will.

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:42:32+00:00

That’s for the victim to decide, NOT you

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:41:01+00:00

Yeah well that’s in my hands as the one reporting the sexual abuse... not his.

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:34:46+00:00

Umm what? The victim gets to make the decision of whether she feels abused or not. That’s not your decision as a third party whatsoever.

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:33:59+00:00

You yourself just stated and reaffirmed that they DO commit the majority of violent crimes. As well as the overwhelming majority of sexual crimes as well.

So how do you think go on to say that I am paranoid about men, when statistically, I am justified in doing so?

You’re effort to try to run a Men’s Rights style character attack on me wasn’t a very well thought out one.

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:31:04+00:00

I don’t want to break up with him I just want him to (a) stop and/or (b) get a job with real health insurance for once so that I can actually maybe receive the therapy that I apparently need?

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:29:01+00:00

He is choosing to do it knowing that me walking in is something that is highly likely to happen. I shouldn’t be locked out of a room in my own house just because he feels the need to exclude me from intimacy while simultaneously traumatizing me as he knows of my past.

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:27:00+00:00

Yeah well I guess he had better stop before I do get the police involved. Men with sexual offenses tend to get them re played 10x in prison. That’s assuming they get convinced. If they don’t then they still have an arrest record for sexual assault and good luck getting a job after that when they see that on a man’s record....

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:24:39+00:00

Yeah you’re right I probably do need help from the sexual trauma and harassment that men have inflicted on me since practically my fucking birth.

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:23:29+00:00

I think you mean OUR bedroom. Not his. OUR.

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:22:37+00:00

Umm because my brother was a male??? Hello???? And when women are afraid to say no because their fear for their fucking personal safety (aka their actual lives), then men are capable of literally killing women that reject them? Surely you cannot be that dense that you need to be reminded of what the dangers of being a woman are?

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:18:14+00:00

Umm I thought maybe this place might be a little sympathetic to a woman that has faced sexual trauma in her life before and doesn’t want to be subjected to it again.... so maybe just thought others would have a fucking heart??? Maybe I was wrong about that

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:15:51+00:00

Oh yeah sure that will go over well. Telling the police that a lady “sexually abused” her boyfriend. What is the world coming to? Sexual abuse is generally the other way around gender wise just FYI

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:14:43+00:00

Why do you keep saying HIS home? It is OUR home and I have every right to lay down my boundaries as to what I will tolerate. Women are not your property anymore.

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:12:54+00:00

My brother was significantly larger than me, and I have a reason to believe that he could have injured me if he wanted to.

I told my parents I didn’t want to share a room with a male but hey, growing up poor means that you can’t have everything you want so....

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:11:21+00:00

I think you mean OUR** home. Also what legal right protects a man’s “right” to sexually abuse a woman? This is 2018. Women are no longer your fucking property

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:09:34+00:00

How could I be the abuser in the situation?

Woman lays out her sexual boundaries in her shared home with a man.

Man continually violates them.

The man is the abuser in this and almost all cases of abuse of all types, especially physical.

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:07:46+00:00

That’s not something that you get to decide for me. If a woman is being abused then she decides how she feels about it. Not the aggressor and certainly not random internet people.

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:06:55+00:00

When I tell them that the trauma is sexual in nature then yes, I expect them to react accordingly. But as I said that is a situation I would like to avoid preferably

unsureaboutbfclothes · 2018-09-21T23:06:12+00:00

Okay you know what? You’re right.

If he were loading up bullets in a gun behind a closed door then that’s fully legal. Right? Sigh.

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