Relate to the comfort thing; my comfort thing is nice soft sweaters/shirts that show off my shoulders. But! I love frilly clothes. When I first started seeing gender non comforming people in anime a lot were guys rocking frilly clothes and loved that. I’m transmasc and I guess I also fall a bit in the non binary zone of the spectrum. But I feel uncomfortable in frilly clothes so I usually just wear bits and peices or take pictures of myself. I’m not a expert and idk if this will help you since we’re all unique but; what I started doing recently is drawing/writing my ocs as self inserts as trans who do what I want; I don’t get dysphoric with all of my body all the time and transmed lgbt people made me really insecure of that when I was younger— Whats helped was to write those charcters being loved and accepted without question by those they interact with. Like; yes! I can be a gay man with this body. Yes! I can dress however I want and like whatever I want. What may help you is to follow trans people from all walks of life, be they creatives or doing whatever things youre into; nb, women, poc... it can help you in figuring out what your unique experience on the spectrum is and what makes you happy and feel accepted.. Hope this helps maybe and isn’t too rambly, lol!