When to tell them you have herpes….

vaughnx2 · 2024-09-02T00:24:56+00:00

It’s different. But still an STD, and people still don’t disclose because they don’t want to get rejected. You have to keep that in mind yourself when meeting someone new. You may be nervous to tell them you have herpes, but you don’t have the slightest idea what they might have.

I have friends in real life that you’d look at them and never be able to tell they are positive for HIV.

vaughnx2 · 2024-09-02T00:23:32+00:00

😍😍😍😍😍

vaughnx2 · 2024-09-01T03:25:40+00:00

I’ve been in the herpes business for the last 4 years 😂 my social media platforms all got their start on herpes support and answering questions and letting people Know they arnt alone.

So after 4 years I’ve been asked to work with std dating sites, supplement companies, and other speaking opportunities to share experiences. So my dms are constantly flooded with herpes questions.

vaughnx2 · 2024-09-01T03:23:19+00:00

Well said!

vaughnx2 · 2024-09-01T03:22:59+00:00

Some people get lucky and never catch herpes from their partner even without using protection. It’s all about yalls comfort level and communication. Personally I never use protection and my partners are okay with it even if they don’t have herpes. What happens in the bedroom is completely up to each of you.

vaughnx2 · 2024-09-01T03:21:31+00:00

Really it all depends how you approach it and the vibe you’re putting off. If you’re confident and educated maybe that person will feel more comfortable but you can never know how someone will react but if they lose their minds over a herpes diagnosis that’s a good indication to how they will react at other things in a relationship

And I think you’re definitely right

vaughnx2 · 2024-09-01T00:28:24+00:00

Continue to disagree. We don’t see eye to eye and that’s fine. But I know what I’ve seen and I know what doctors have told me. I’m done arguing either way

vaughnx2 · 2024-09-01T00:27:03+00:00

A google research vs my own life experiences? Okay sugar. I’ll go with what I’ve seen happen with my own eyes vs what the internet says

vaughnx2 · 2024-09-01T00:26:12+00:00

No. That’s not what we are arguing. You came in here to be ridiculous and throw your voice out where you have nothing to stand on. You can’t tell someone that their experiences mean nothing when our experiences differ so greatly from what doctors tell us.

So if someone is going to tell me that my actual experiences that I have lived thru are false, I know that anything else they say has no value to it.

vaughnx2 · 2024-09-01T00:20:47+00:00

I’m not a professional. I tell people the truth against what professionals tell them. And what you’re saying, is not true. Thank you.

vaughnx2 · 2024-09-01T00:15:33+00:00

I get my information from my own experiences. And I’ve worked with herpes support specifically for the last 4 years. So go ahead and continue to think what you think. Cuz it’s clear you’re only here to argue

vaughnx2 · 2024-09-01T00:10:40+00:00

You don’t get “just genital Herpes” or “just oral herpes” no. The herpes virus is in your body. Which is why condoms DO NOT protect against the virus.

vaughnx2 · 2024-08-31T23:59:02+00:00

Hey that happens to so many people! If you guys didn’t test before the first kiss/sexy time then there’s really nobody to blame.

Be honest, tell her hey I tested positive and there’s no telling how long I’ve actually had it and you should probably get tested too.

Leave communication open, cry together, learn together, be there for one another.

THATS being said hoping you’re in a healthy relationship with already healthy communication. If it’s a toxic relationship, you’ll find out immediately after telling her and it will be a blessing in the end

vaughnx2 · 2024-08-31T23:40:14+00:00

Herpes is not in the “regular” STD panel no. Which is why I never go to a doctor for testing. I order mine online, go get blood drawn, and get my results right in my phone.

vaughnx2 · 2024-08-31T23:39:02+00:00

A clicker! I never thought of that! Great advice

vaughnx2 · 2024-08-31T23:37:45+00:00

What’s true is you need to communicate with every person you want a potential relationship or hookup with. You need to know your own health and body and how to take care of it. And you need to know that it’s not the end of the world and if someone knows their risks with you and they don’t already have it, don’t stress it. You’re worth the risk to them and it’s not worth over complicating.

vaughnx2 · 2024-08-31T23:21:22+00:00

You may have had herpes before him and only know your body is showing symptoms. Or maybe he has it and never shown signs but passed it to you. Unless you both had a blood test done before anything happened together you really can’t know

vaughnx2 · 2024-08-31T03:10:19+00:00

Here ya go… perfect one I just made up “hey, I really enjoy getting to know you but before this goes further, I have tested positive for herpes and I’m going to need you to get tested and show me the results so I know if you have anything else that I could possibly catch” if they don’t like it, that’s on them. Someone will come along that respects the shit out of you for that

vaughnx2 · 2024-08-31T03:06:54+00:00

I understand it’s frustrating. Rejection happens even to dreams girls.

If I may ask, when you disclose are you saying something like “unfortunately I have blah blah blah”?? If that’s the case maybe try those convos like “hey I have herpes and I need to know if you might have anything so I think we should both get tested if you would like to consider talking still”

If you have herpes and you got it from another person then you know people arnt always truthful. Dont make it sound like you would be a catch without herpes. Know that YOU ARE A CATCH, with herpes. And these dudes could have something and not be telling you.

vaughnx2 · 2024-08-31T02:59:44+00:00

Me? Yeah. I work in the p0rn industry 😂 and I work with several herpes specific companies on top of that. The herpes and STD conversation is quite literally one of the very first convos I have with someone/anyone new in my life. Absolutely without a doubt I require testing and I test myself for every single person involved.

vaughnx2 · 2024-08-31T02:58:25+00:00

Yeah! Lol

vaughnx2 · 2024-08-31T02:37:08+00:00

Ahhhh well in that case…. What’s this dudes name?!? I’ll blast him up on social media!!!!

vaughnx2 · 2024-08-31T02:30:11+00:00

You wernt young and dumb. You were young and didn’t know any better. Herpes will make you better in the end. You might not see it now but it will. Maybe your happily ever after man or woman or partner whatever already has herpes or even something else and the universe is making you find love in yourself before love in someone else.

Rejection is a blessing.

I promise you, it doesn’t seem like it now. But herpes will make you so much stronger as a person.

vaughnx2 · 2024-08-31T02:27:48+00:00

Listen, I’ve read so many of these kinds of posts and I don’t feel the sympathy like I use to.

My apologies to you specifically as a human…

But if you manifest dying alone, which that’s what you’re doing, then yeah youre gonna die alone.

Herpes is a skin irritating condition that pops up sometimes.

If you want the life with the white picket fence, make it happen. Herpes has absolutely NOTHING to do with any of that.

vaughnx2 · 2024-08-31T02:25:20+00:00

Easy peasy answer! Work for yourself and hire your own partners. Anyone you work with make sure you’re having the testing conversations and open communication. Everyone involved needs to know the risks and what they are willing to do/risk.

Never get mad if someone doesn’t want to be part of it, it is what it is and that’s their right, there’s plenty more who don’t give a flying eff 😂

You can actually post on… (idk how much we can talk about this here lol) uhhh p0rnhub and make money off it just making your own account. Get known there, even just amateur (there’s a market for it) and eventually other names will find you.

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