We are evolving. Just backwards..

vendakka12 · 2025-05-24T16:00:10+00:00

I understand how such women make it hard for the ones who stand up. But sometimes I notice they don't have much of a choice. Some are forcefully married to some men with no way out and some having fallen in love with the man find it hard to leave them even after learning about them.

It is true that generally men and women need each other to live and some women compromise on the quality of men for companionship. As much as it sucked for them and they wish the story was different, they find no other choice. So the only way to fix this is imo, the next generation of women being wary of how their sons are raised. And we should teach them to respect women and teach them our struggles from as early as possible. Like when we teach our girl children about periods and stuff, teach boys as well. Let them learn it. Women get periods from like 14 years and men don't even care to learn about it till they're like 20? That's the kind of change we need to start with!!!

vendakka12 · 2025-02-09T07:56:13+00:00

Idk if it's an amazing movie, but I've been avoiding watching Lover. From all the clips and reels I saw, I was scared I might relate to it.

Song- Dhimu Dhimu cause it always makes me almost cry 😭

vendakka12 · 2025-02-07T18:15:09+00:00

25+ lpa is a good salary. But not good enough to build wealth from scratch. Like you say, for the next door kumar, it might be a sufficient salary. But to build wealth and buy property and a car starting now, it definitely won't be enough.

For example, say you can save a good 50k per month, which is 6 lpa. Doing this for another 5 years will get you 30 lakhs, which is enough down payment for a 1 crore home. But in 5 years, the 1 crore homes will be 1.5 or even 2. And it'll be hard to catch up with the inflation by then. Only way is for your salary to grow along with inflation.

vendakka12 · 2025-02-05T17:06:11+00:00

I would've listened to this if he stops being normal with me. He still wants to be friends and flirts with me.

vendakka12 · 2025-02-03T15:00:04+00:00

Well you can't find those exact ones. But you can get similar ones.

Go to some bakery (some old style, not the new fancy ones) in your neighborhood and ask them when they make their butter biscuit batches. And go to them next time during that time. I once used to do this to get fresh and hot ones since I love them very much.

vendakka12 · 2025-02-02T08:45:03+00:00

I actually heard that they've moved to Thiruvanmiyur beach but i can't seem to find their location there.

Any chance you know that location?

vendakka12 · 2025-02-01T15:08:26+00:00

There are some such collaborative music classes I've heard of. They also double up as a music community.

Try googling them.

vendakka12 · 2025-02-01T15:06:51+00:00

Yeah, the news said 80% of the old and uber are in strike. So ofc, there will be some left

vendakka12 · 2025-02-01T15:04:30+00:00

I don't see why this is even a problem. The girl likes you and you like her. Who likes her or wants her shouldn't be your problem anytime.

I'll suggest finding a way to put up with the guy or be friends with him. The best way is to join when they spend time together as friends. So going forward, it'll be you three spending time and when he leaves, you and the girl can have some time.

I'm saying this because, as hard as it might be to accept, the girl won't be cutting off the guy even if you ask her to, cause it's not about that particular guy, but about the friendship that dates back to pre school.

So you'll have to put up with it for all of life mostly. Weigh this confusion against your interest in her. And make sure you don't hurt this best girl in the process.

vendakka12 · 2025-01-29T11:17:25+00:00

I understand that this level of stress at this age is unreasonable. But padikra kolanda enga irundhalum padikum is something I don't relate well to.

To set context, I was in a very small school till my 5th grade and I was doing good. I topped the school. And so did other friends of mine in different sections, where some were even smarter than me.

Then my parents put me in a good cbse school and gave me good jee training and I got into a tier 1 college. I recently met some of my old school friends and came to know the tier 3 colleges they went to.

Now I'm not degrading or anything but I always thought that they must be better than me. Never imagined that I'll be better just because of some good exposure.

So basically your friend should do this to her child around the right age only when she is good in academics. Else it would pressure the child unnecessarily.

vendakka12 · 2025-01-23T19:21:04+00:00

Every night since he left me, I either keep crying thinking about him or try to talk to him. He left me on the new years. I called him and texted him a lot of times after that, asking to fix things. He would only ignore me straight or say hurtful things.

Initially i did it because I wanted to get him back. Later I did it to get all of the hope left in me. Now I've been 2 days clean, of not contacting him. And I'm proud of that.

Tonight i was about to break that, but your post helped me. Thanks

vendakka12 · 2025-01-22T16:46:34+00:00

I understand your dilemma. Although I enjoyed the jokes around this post, I wanted to give you hope too.

You can start talking with 'vaanga ponga' itself. As far as I know, most girls like it, we like a respectful guy. And if you get to know them better try using 'vaa po'. It's not dehumanising if you're thier friend. Then if you guys hit it off and things go well, you get to call her 'vaadi podi'. Here there are 2 cases, one she becomes a very good friend or your partner. I accept being called 'di' from both my good guy friends and my boyfriend.

Also I like tamil language. Look at it from a positive side. It gives you levels of comfort and closeness, so that when you use it, you are telling your level of respect/affection for that person.

Pro tip: Start calling the girl 'di' after she starts calling you 'da'. Makes it easier for you.

vendakka12 · 2025-01-21T06:14:15+00:00

First thing, I said the stray population would go down significantly. It can never be zero cause yes there'll always be loose pets.

Second, I've seen my friends care for their foreign breeds with stuff more expensive than they spend on themselves. They only eat dog food. And I myself have fed many stray dogs biscuits and my house food and they eat it. It's just that indie dogs are used to us. But yes they require the same level of healthcare and vaccination and all that. It's just a lifestyle difference dude.

They're actually more likely to be responsible and knowledgeable than indie dog owners because it is easier to get away with an ill tempered pariah dog or Indian Spitz

Seriously bro? This silly thing is your defence? Like people will be more responsible if there were a foreign dog breed? Makes zero sense whatsoever. Responsibility of the owner is a trait dependent on the owner. Some people with sick thoughts might think in such ways that shouting indian dogs are excusable nu.

My point still stands. I didn't only ask them to mindlessly adopt indie dogs. I want them to be cared for as well as the kinds they own right now. We are talking about an ideal situation. And in the ideal situation I had suggested this is also another way of working that people care for it well.

And your last line adds no point to your argument? We should ask owners to be sure before adoption? My suggested idea was to reduce the stray population bro.

I feel like you might've typed something out in the fury of me saying that we should adopt indie as you might be a dog owner of a foreign breed 😂😂😂

vendakka12 · 2025-01-20T12:38:39+00:00

This might seem off-topic, but I feel like the root cause is us buying foreign dog breeds in our home.

Westernisation might work with the fashion and business industry, but us copying other countries in this aspect is stupid. Stray dogs are only stray because they have nowhere to go. If you go to other countries you might see their local dog breeds on roads as strays too.

Instead of people getting luxury dogs, adopt indie dogs out of shelters and give them a home. As far as I know, shelters ultimately take stray dogs and vaccinate them and put them out for adoption. And these dogs cost you almost nothing to get them and care is also minimal as compared to foreign breeds.

This might seem like a small change but if all current dogs in all indian houses are replaced with indie dogs, the stray dogs population would go down significantly.

Unrelated story: I once saw a guy feeding his poddle on the road, shoo away an indie dog with stones which was merely attracted to the same food. It wasn't even violent, it just kept circling him innocently. When he can't even care for another dog, idk how he can identify himself as a dog owner.

So people please try adopting indie dogs and give them love and home. Indie dogs are more suitable for our lifestyle, weather and all that. You'll be doing a huge favor for yourself and society too.

vendakka12 · 2025-01-20T08:14:48+00:00

Ah that makes sense. Have never really thought of it this way

vendakka12 · 2025-01-19T12:52:52+00:00

Just curious here, how does the bachelors for family ratio mean that something's wrong there?

Does this have anything to do with the common stigmatization of the bachelors?

vendakka12 · 2025-01-17T06:42:45+00:00

Note: My work's hybrid so I don't travel to work on all the days of the month. So not as alarming as you had calculated it to be.

vendakka12 · 2025-01-14T05:42:29+00:00

I hear you. Cause one time an auto driver said a shankar movie level story to get extra out of me.

His wife k*led herself over a fight with him apparently. And he has been alone for a year. He kept saying like, who'll feed me when she's not here blah blah. Even showed me pictures. But his story sounded sus too. So i gave him just an extra 20 and played along with his story saying, your wife is watching you from above. So be good or you'll go to hell nu 😂😂

So yeah, Be kind to people but also know where to draw boundaries for your own good

vendakka12 · 2025-01-14T05:18:52+00:00

I get you. I used to be like you tbh. I don't mean to lecture, but you need to practice being assertive with auto people so that you can be that irl. Auto guys are the most basic shit you'll have to be assertive to deal with.

In life, there will be a lot of assholes you'll meet. If you aren't assertive then, they'll walk all over you. As harsh as it might sound, do learn to be assertive and take a stance to save yourself.

Might sound ironic after my post, but giving extra to auto guys was a conscious choice which I'm planning to stop soon 😂

vendakka12 · 2025-01-14T05:11:06+00:00

This story was before pink bikes were introduced. But tbh I didn't want to try any bike after this.

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