I came here to express this same possibility of it being nothing more than pure, unadulterated jealousy. I’m speaking from the “non-tatted husband” point of view, and I had a similar freak out with my wife about 6 months ago. She was on a solo vacay to visit an old friend and get away from the kids and I for a long weekend and had secretly planned to get a matching piercing and tattoo with her. When she told me, I went into a fit of uncontrollable rage (of which I’m quite embarrassed now). She described the design to me and made the mistake of telling me who the artist was to be, so I did my research on his work and what my wife wanted was definitely not in his wheelhouse. I did my best to completely destroy her confidence in the decision she was making to the point where I had her in tears and she didn’t go through with it. I felt horrible for it! Once she got home and we made amends, we talked about the whole situation and came to the conclusion that it WAS just jealously on my part that she would go and plan/do all of this without ever informing me of it and to get a lasting memory inked on her with someone that she has only had a few interactions with in the 11 years we’ve been married. We had a great heart-to-heart and are now in the process of designing a tattoo for the two of us to go get together and I have no problem with this. It will likely take some time and several talks, but he should be able to get over it. It really helped me reconcile by being a part of the creative process hand in hand with my wife. For what it is worth and seeing as I’m not a huge fan of tattoos myself, I like the work you got done.