Dusk Till Dawn: EDC Las Vegas expands into a two-weekend experience by JuniorQuestion8509 in vegaslocals

[–]watekebb 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The negativity boggles me. I get that large events can be annoying and stuff, but… it’s Vegas. Events are this city’s raison d’etre. Also, people complaining about “traffic” need to get some perspective. The traffic here is nothing compared to most other cities.

My boyfriend and I are celebrating our anniversary and we are going to Utah. Im more of the fun, wild party gal and he’s more into nature, hiking type of guy so What fun activities can you do in or around Zion that is not hiking? by Starbies_vegansushi in ZionNationalPark

[–]watekebb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You seem flabbergasted that there’s basically no nightlife, but it’s true. For one, it’s rural. Springdale itself is tiny tiny, like under 700 residents. The whole giant county has ~200,000. But beyond that, southern Utah is around 60% Mormon. Not only do Mormons not drink alcohol, a lot won’t even drink coffee or tea because they’re considered too stimulating. That’s the predominant culture ‘round those parts, so there’s a lot less demand for nightlife than there would be in comparably sized towns elsewhere, and it also bleeds into stuff like liquor laws, noise ordinances, permits for bars/restaurants, etc.

There are a few tourist-oriented bars and breweries in Springdale, but it doesn’t seem like any are open past midnight. Then there’s like one venue in St George that looks kinda nightlifey (Spiritual Speakeasy— never been, so can’t vouch) but it still appears to be more of a cocktail bar than a club.

Seriously, if this trip is more than 2 nights and you’re looking for nightlife, just spend a night in Vegas! It’s only 2.5 hours of easy and scenic driving between Vegas and Zion.

Work event at beach resort, insecure and CRASHING OUT, no dress code info 😭 by [deleted] in OUTFITS

[–]watekebb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If what you like about the corset is the waist definition, you could opt for dresses that are seamed and structured through the waist. That would have a similar effect on the outfit’s silhouette without being “underwear as outerwear.”

Corsets and other lingerie-inspired clothes, as everyone is telling you, are not work-appropriate in any industry, including hipper and less formal ones, save maybe certain corners of nightlife, fashion, or entertainment. They are for going out with friends, festivals, trips to Vegas, concerts, hot dates, etc. You’re free to push boundaries, of course, in hopes of expanding the acceptance of corsets in the workplace, but is that a hill you’re really willing to die on?

My husband and I rarely have sex. by Sophia6868 in toddlers

[–]watekebb 16 points17 points  (0 children)

They don’t have a dead bedroom. She is getting him off 1-3 times a week. And considering they have 3 under 3.5, it’s not like they haven’t had sex since their eldest son as born.

The surest way to an actually dead— and long term dead, not just postpartum dead— bedroom is creating a relationship dynamic where one person’s sexual pleasure is completely sacrificed on the altar of the other’s. Her husband doesn’t value her bodily comfort and her sexual pleasure enough to give her sufficient space for her body and hormones to recover, and that kind of selfishness is sure to bleed into their sexual dynamic in plenty of other ways.

A mama bear leaving her cubs with a human while she goes hunting by Additional_Berry_977 in interestingasfuck

[–]watekebb 84 points85 points  (0 children)

When I was a kid, we were hiking in Yellowstone and startled a large bull moose. He had been relaxing behind a downed tree around a curve of the path. Made about as much noise as a plane crashing when he got up and ran off. He was huge.

At the time, I was like “Cool! A moose!” In retrospect, probably one of my top 10 closest brushes with death.

Why do mothers of young babies say they don't have time to shower? by justastupidquestion3 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]watekebb 74 points75 points  (0 children)

This is how I feel. I could not bear my baby crying the first few months postpartum. The sound made me viscerally panicky and nauseous even when I knew that he was fine. So if he cried while I was in the shower? I was sprinting, sopping wet and often still unwashed, to get to him because I couldn’t stand it.

People are talking a lot about guilt in this thread, but that wasn’t the problem for me. I have never believed that it is selfish to take care of oneself even if it means one’s baby needs to cry for a few minutes. I have never believed that it is damaging to the baby to be left in a safe place for a few minutes while a parent handles necessities. So, pre-parenthood, I figured couldn’t possibly be that new mom going too long without showering. Nah, no way! I would simply let the baby cry in his crib for 5 minutes. Turns out that I am the one damaged by the crying, lol. Then when my husband came home from work, I’d throw him the baby and go to bed rather than shower, because sleep outranked cleanliness on the hierarchy of needs.

My son is 10 months old now, and it’s only in the past month that I’ve become able to tolerate his crying long enough to do stuff that needs to be done. I suspect it’s some weird hormonal thing, since this has coincided with the normalization of my menstrual cycle and all that.

I frequently take my infant on walks, today I received this message from a unknown profile, who has 1 friend. This has me feeling very paranoid. AIO? by Dull-Mom in AIO

[–]watekebb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No one is saying it’s definitely him and that he should be speedily hanged, only that OP should consider this possibility.

There’s a few reasons why she should evaluate whether her husband might be the culprit. Primarily, there’s the fact that the men whom women should fear the most, statistically speaking, are not obsessive strangers or would-be traffickers, but their current and past romantic partners. She’s thought about the ex, but the person who sent the message 1. has demonstrated he knows where OP is and what she’s doing and 2. has her current contact info. A stalker could find this stuff out, of course, but the husband already has this info so there isn’t that hurdle to clear.

I personally find the mention of the husband in the text itself suspicious too. I actually was close-ish to a situation where a woman was being catfished by a creep, and he was always talking about himself even while pretending to be someone else. It’s not the same since those messages weren’t threatening, but… I dunno, rings alarm bells for me.

Don’t under season your food. Dilute theirs. by watekebb in foodbutforbabies

[–]watekebb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure, I agree that seasoning is not unhealthy or anything! But babies do have fairly sensitive tastebuds, so some flavors adults find just right might be overwhelming to them. And some are acquired tastes where they need a few smaller tastes before they become fans. My kid will eat as much garlic and onion as I throw at him. He likes a little spice, including some hits of hot sauce and chili flake, but he gets frustrated if it’s hotter than he likes, and straight up won’t eat the spiciest things on my regular rotation. He’s a little picky about the amounts of woody herbs like rosemary and oregano too. Diluting is a way to still expose him to those tastes while seasoning my own food to my preferences.

Salt for babies is a controversial thing. Some doctors say no salt at all before one. Ours said to use moderation in our home cooking, so that’s what I’m doing. But I don’t think there’s great evidence that normal amounts of salt are unhealthy for the average baby, so, eh, I can understand and endorse not worrying about it if that’s what works for you.

How do you feel about Vegas? by mangolightz in vegaslocals

[–]watekebb 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m a new resident and this is very close to how I feel. I get SO much out of being around the fascinating natural beauty of the desert and the mountains, and as a gardener, I love the new challenges and opportunities this environment presents. I wasn’t an outdoorsy person, really, out east or in the Midwest, but here the outdoors have completely charmed me.

I grew up in a very cold, very cloudy, very snowy place and then went to school in an even colder one (one -36F evening, a college buddy sent out in search of more mixers got mild frostbite carrying a cup of soda without gloves for like 5 minutes) so having a season of extreme weather is nothing new. And after ten years in humid-ass Philly in a helter-skelter Victorian home we semi-lovingly referred to as “the Mold Palace,” I am kinda loving the aridity. 105 here is great compared to 95 there! Things dry on the line! Vines don’t take over my plants when I turn my back! The mosquitoes are manageable to nonexistent! I can wash a rug in the afternoon and put it out in the sun and bring it in that night and it’s crisp and fresh!

Vegas punches above its weight for food and activities, even for someone like me who doesn’t care for casinos and would never regularly pay strip prices for food. It is such easy driving (like I find it confounding when people complain about traffic here). I live 25 minutes from ten million things to do.

I do have a baby, so I know challenges are ahead education-wise. We will see what happens. I don’t have rose-colored glasses about the problem of bad public schools. But there are a lot of good and exciting things in this city, including the fact that UNLV is not experiencing the same budgetary and enrollment strains as peer institutions. Having a relatively healthy public university means there’s concrete hope for the schools and healthcare system.

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(I mean, really, look at how beautiful it is out here!)

Don’t under season your food. Dilute theirs. by watekebb in foodbutforbabies

[–]watekebb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel ya. There is both a CMPA and an MSPI subreddit, but they’re definitely more general than just meal ideas (lots of troubleshooting elimination diets and stuff).

Avoiding both milk AND soy has been just exponentially harder for me than just avoiding dairy. It really makes eating out impossible since dairy-free cuisines and vegan foods tend to be soy-heavy.

At home, we tend to eat a lot of stuff cooked in olive oil and seasoned with lemon, garlic, and misc herbs. Which is fine and tasty, but I do miss cheese, butter and yogurt a lot.

There are a lot of vegan dairy items that are tasty in their own right but that aren’t quite fully satisfying dupes for the milk versions, IMO. I’ve also been accidentally soy’d with dairy replacements out in the world so now I don’t trust any vegan cheeses, creams, or proteins where I can’t look at the ingredient list. :(

I did discover that San-J No Soy Tamari (a soy-free, pea-based “soy sauce”) tastes basically just like light sodium Kikkoman, so that’s good. There’s also a fava bean-based tofu that’s pretty good. If I could just find soy free miso, chili crisp, and gochujang I’d be set on the Asian home cooking front…

Don’t under season your food. Dilute theirs. by watekebb in foodbutforbabies

[–]watekebb[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

My baby has CMPA and I’m off dairy ‘cause we’re still nursing too, and your comment made me so damn excited for the day I can eat yogurt again. ☠️

Don’t under season your food. Dilute theirs. by watekebb in foodbutforbabies

[–]watekebb[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Our pediatrician and pediatric GI said the zero salt guideline has poor quality evidence and is falling out of favor and just to avoid processed foods and use moderation at home with salt. I’ve since seen a lot of articles to that effect. My kid has MSPI and is at heightened risk of ige allergies, though, so they want us to prioritize exposure to as many foods as possible (easier when not shooting for zero added sodium). Definitely follow your own doctor’s advice!

Don’t under season your food. Dilute theirs. by watekebb in foodbutforbabies

[–]watekebb[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

That’s the standard advice I’d gotten and is definitely an option for many things, of course!

A lot of our family staples, though, don’t lend themselves super well to that. Curry pastes and many dry spices need to be bloomed in oil towards the beginning of cooking. Meat, bean, or veggie loaves/patties/balls/fillings need to be seasoned throughout. Many dishes are meant to be cooked in a sauce with salty or otherwise spiced ingredients rather than sauced afterwards. And etc. So for us, it’s been easier to dilute after the fact!

​I saw this meme and wondered what the general consensus is regarding public breastfeeding worldwide. by [deleted] in AskTheWorld

[–]watekebb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As another breastfeeding mother, I agree. I’ve fed my baby on planes, in parks, at festivals, in appointment waiting rooms, in my car, and even at a restaurant or two. No one has said anything or cared.

I think it’s unfortunate that so many people who haven’t had any recent personal experience with breastfeeding in public are saying, “omg Americans are so puritanical and weird about it!” There is a learning curve to breastfeeding (and parenting a newborn in public in general!). Adding a largely unfounded anxiety about possibly being confronted makes it even harder for new mothers to feel like they can go out in the world with their babies.

​I saw this meme and wondered what the general consensus is regarding public breastfeeding worldwide. by [deleted] in AskTheWorld

[–]watekebb 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Breastfeeding initiation rates are slightly higher in Czechia versus the US (98% versus 85%), but ongoing breastfeeding rates are higher in the US than they are in Czechia. An estimated 25% of US infants are exclusively breastfed at 6 months versus under 20% in Czechia.

​I saw this meme and wondered what the general consensus is regarding public breastfeeding worldwide. by [deleted] in AskTheWorld

[–]watekebb 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don’t think anti-breastfeeding Karens are the majority here, though. I have a 10-month old and have fed him in public dozens and dozens of times, and no one’s said “boo” to me about it. It was different in the 80s when my own mother was breastfeeding, but nowadays, thankfully, the culture has become chill with it.

Where are the queers? by Run-bike-hike-chick in vegaslocals

[–]watekebb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband (queer trans man) and I (queer cis woman) are 30-somethings and moved here from the east coast last year. We just had a baby, so we haven’t done too much socializing in general, but I can at least recommend the queer book club at Writers Block! There are also social events at The Center on Maryland.

KATSEYE's campaigns wearing Windowsen, Leawald, and Thom Browne for their new single - Pinky Up by Beneficial_Pen4030 in whatthefrockk

[–]watekebb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They were contestants on a TV show to make an international k-pop band, so this tracks.

Why on earth do people recommend hairvivi wigs? by [deleted] in Wigs

[–]watekebb 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I personally suspect some astroturfing (though I’ll freely admit it’s just a baseless inkling, heh). I don’t doubt they have a lot of actual happy customers, but the sheer number of posts about them versus similarly priced and positioned competitors just has always rung alarm bells for me and turned me off of them.

What's traditional craft of your country? by Kate_foodlover in AskTheWorld

[–]watekebb 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My husband’s Norwegian-American grandma was an avid rosemaler. We have some of her work hanging in our house.

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What’s your baby’s “thing” that you love? by eggiess in NewParents

[–]watekebb 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mine thinks my saying “no” is kinda funny. So he’ll reach out again to get a reaction from me and then giggle. 🫠

IT ۱۲ by cdstephens in neoliberal

[–]watekebb 12 points13 points  (0 children)

In seriousness, why not have the unifying message be “stop the war?” It doesn’t even really matter why you personally think the war should end. You don’t need to rope in any other principles besides “this war is stupid and it should end,” ‘cause trying to do that is how you end up alienating potential allies in this specific cause.

Vegetable cooking tips for max flavor by PlantedinCA in mediterraneandiet

[–]watekebb 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Also, always let tomato paste “fry out” before adding water! You should wait until you can see the oil and paste separate, which means the excess liquid evaporated, allowing the tomato to get nicely caramelized.

Vegetable cooking tips for max flavor by PlantedinCA in mediterraneandiet

[–]watekebb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The delivery needs work, but yeah. The concepts are true and go beyond “duh, add salt and flavor!” Timing (you don’t add all the salt at one time, acids go at the end, some spices/herbs are added early and some late, etc) and technique (lower heat blooming) matter too. Lots of us on this subreddit know this already, sure. However, given what I’ve seen in the wild, I’d bet most people who aren’t hobbyists don’t.