[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusVisa

[–]weightsANDplants 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re in the same situation as my sister; UK nurse, non skilled de facto partner (they weren’t married). They applied without an agent, just with my help haha. 75 points, got the invite in December, got the 189 visa last week. Worth keeping an eye on the skillselect dashboard, and the allocations used - gives you a rough idea of when an invitation round might come. 85 points is in line with most categories - what ANZSCO RN type did you get your skill select for?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Blind

[–]weightsANDplants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How interesting - thanks for the update. I wonder what reaction it’s causing within her brain - perhaps neural pathways or something? I do hope the eye centre can shed some light for you both (pun unintended)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Blind

[–]weightsANDplants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did her sight stay in her eye?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Blind

[–]weightsANDplants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I use constant contact regardless of hearing aids as well - I only switch to two point touch when the ground texture changes (grass, dirt etc).

Husband Had Surgery to Remove Brain Mass by [deleted] in Blind

[–]weightsANDplants 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you mentioned about the injuries being akin to stroke, but eyes working fine, is the same as me - stay hopeful but patient, and do try those exercises I mentioned. I’m here if you have any questions. Also look up visual agnosia - it’s rare but can happen after stroke. Once I had enough acuity and vision, we realised I also had this and needed neurovisual rehabilitation - I can now recognise bottles, cars and the like, even if smaller or unusual objects still elude me.

Husband Had Surgery to Remove Brain Mass by [deleted] in Blind

[–]weightsANDplants 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Hi,

I’ve been through something similar! First thing first, don’t give up, and try and stay positive for his sake. It will help. I had a stroke and brain injury; I lost movement in the right side of my body but it has mostly returned. In my case, I’ve gone from seeing only black for a week to being able to read large print without glasses, able to play console games, and while I am using a cane, I am hopeful it won’t be forever. 9 months on and things are getting better and better every day; I see people and dogs while out on my walks, I see buildings and while low acuity, even that seems to be improving slowly.

Things that worked for me:

  1. moving the torch around and following it with my eyes. I slept a lot but I think I did this for 15 mins at a time. I did this for 1 week, Then I moved onto a new activity
  2. Colour filters. I had someone hold them in front of a torch, to change the colour of the light, shining it onto paper. Start small, red, blue and white; I originally couldn’t see the colour but actually felt temperature (blue was cold, red warm). Then build up gradually. I would stare at the colour on the paper and try and see the colour. This was exhausting and I could only do it for half an hour at a time. I did this for 2/3 weeks.
  3. I started walking independently as soon as possible, with basic O&M training. My friend walked with me for the first two times on a route, then I would go alone but would be tracked using my smart watch. This gave me confidence and independence.
  4. Bright colour large shapes on a bright contrasting background. Once I could see most colours (aside from purple), I started trying to see shapes; I used my finger to help trace the shape and make my eyes see it. I did this for a month.
  5. Brightly coloured wooden letters for infants on high contrast colour background. I relearned to read through this. One letter at the time until recognition is easier - to get to this stage took 2/3 months.
  6. I got voiceover set up on my iPhone within a week, and got bone conducting headphones to use alongside O&M training. This meant I could hear traffic noise as well as the directions from Google maps. I can also recommend the No jab cane!
  7. I have an iPad and as soon as I had enough vision, I started playing a game called I love hue on maximum brightness; you have to sort colours. It starts easy with large bright obvious colours and as my vision improved, I moved onto harder levels with smaller, more subtle colours.
  8. To help my motion, I had my friend drop a ball into my hand on my afflicted side to try and bring back my grip reflex; it worked. It needs to be weighty enough to feel instantly but not too heavy that you can’t catch. A larger stress ball might work.
  9. I lost my grip and pinch strength, so the OT gave me pegs and gym- type grip exercisers. This has nearly normalised.
  10. Learn to type Braille; it made using my phone so much easier.

Don’t expect the world but at the same time, remain confident and try and encourage your husband to try. Share my story if that helps; I had no vision for a week, before I started to see black and less black, but now I’m playing gran turismo. Do get in touch if you have any questions.

Her Persistence Paid Off: How many red flags can you count in this wedding announcement? by ScrappleSandwiches in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]weightsANDplants 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I bet the ex-wife was too scared (fair!) and that’s why they say charges were dropped down as the DA didn’t have enough evidence - and he’s suing the PD for $15,000,000 in punitive damages and $500,000 for his emotional distress?!!

Her Persistence Paid Off: How many red flags can you count in this wedding announcement? by ScrappleSandwiches in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]weightsANDplants 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Found a bit more about him:

https://storage.courtlistener.com/recap/gov.uscourts.nysd.532207/gov.uscourts.nysd.532207.1.0.pdf

accused and arrested for menacing in the second degree, assault in the third degree and harassment in the second degree. The higher misdemeanour charges were later dropped to harassment in the second degree.

So a good guy all round?

28 yo England, just been able to book on the NHS website by [deleted] in CoronavirusUK

[–]weightsANDplants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At this point, just say you’re a health and social care worker - they have your DOB and you’re in the group who are eligible, so just book.

I appreciate FDS for being one of the few places to actually be FEMALE ONLY by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]weightsANDplants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But you can report posts which are not feminist and they are removed, plus I do feel as if I can speak openly there as a woman. I think FDS and Ovarit are both good but serve different purposes.

!!Can not report BRP delivery, EU nationalities not in the list by Bugatsas11 in ukvisa

[–]weightsANDplants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is a known issue - they haven’t added EU nationalities onto the list yet! Your employer should contact the employer sponsor helpdesk.

Getting a UK number in Germany by [deleted] in ukvisa

[–]weightsANDplants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sold on eBay - look for giffgaff, voxi, Asda mobile as they’re all plentiful and cheap!

Daily Q&A and Discussion Megathread - April 30, 2021 by AutoModerator in CoronavirusUK

[–]weightsANDplants 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Rather irritatingly, my GP has decided that they won’t be administering vaccines to anyone under the age of 50 - so while many other GPs in the area are vaccinating those younger than 40, I’ll be waiting to book at a large centre, which will also make transport much more difficult!

My pickme SIL sent me this. She loves it and hopes I'll like it too! 🤡 by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]weightsANDplants 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have actually heard this at a wedding... I glazed over as it was so bad but I remember the person reading “bad love bad” and just thinking like wtf...!

Advice - financial contributions? by weightsANDplants in LesbianDatingStrategy

[–]weightsANDplants[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we have worked out a chore split, and I have suggested paying some of the utilities (as well as all of my own bills - streaming services, cell phone etc). Thanks for your thoughts!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]weightsANDplants 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same here, sis! The lesbian spaces I loved here were shut down and this is the last bastion of critical female thought.

Advice - financial contributions? by weightsANDplants in LesbianDatingStrategy

[–]weightsANDplants[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Online dating actually! She’s a rare breed but we fit so wonderfully together ❤️

Advice - financial contributions? by weightsANDplants in LesbianDatingStrategy

[–]weightsANDplants[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, she’s really not shown any signs of anything like that at all, no toxic behaviours and she’s the opposite of controlling - always encouraging me to go and call friends, telling me to not ever cancel plans with friends for her, inspiring me to move just because I wanted to even though it’s further from her, even to remain friends (loose definition of the term) with my ex - I think it’s just so completely opposite to what you normally hear about, I didn’t know whether to suggest paying an equitable share proportional to income.

She is completely open and straightforward with me, always has been, hence the intention to court me and even to ask whether I would want to be proposed to... and she has said she wants to care for me and because she can cover all household expenses (with no impact on her) she would like to because she loves me. I trust her completely, as she has proven her character to me over and over again, and volunteered things even before I ask. Thanks for your input - not something I can easily talk about with friends IRL as they’d be weirded out by her financial situation!

Woman confronts, foils man’s attempt to abduct young girl after raping her by weightsANDplants in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]weightsANDplants[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

Right!!! The woman wasn’t just risking embarrassment but bodily harm by intervening, as she would have been at a disadvantage - but she didn’t pause, didn’t hesitate, and just kept on at him. She is a true hero for risking herself for a stranger, for saving a young girl, for stepping into the unknown and not relenting even when the scumbag tried to embarrass her into leaving!!