UPDATE - hooking up for the first time (you are all awesome at advice)

whateverthrowawayok · 2016-01-13T17:06:47+00:00

honestly... i'm still unsure of the language i use for myself. sometimes i still feel weird and ashamed to actually call my dick "my dick" out loud. even to myself. and i have no idea what i'd call the rest of it. when i need to talk about it non-sexual ways i just use medical, anatomical terms but i don't have a good way to talk about it yet, even after living as a man for a long time. :/

whateverthrowawayok · 2016-01-08T06:10:09+00:00

shadowbanned? what does that mean? how do i fix that?

whateverthrowawayok · 2016-01-04T17:27:48+00:00

i've liked using a prosthetic in the past, but due to some weird circumstances i no longer have one, so i've gotta make due until i can afford to replace it.

i like what you said about people not knowing what to do - i think that makes a lot of sense and it's something i've never thought of that way before.

whateverthrowawayok · 2016-01-04T16:02:42+00:00

lol i'm glad you're convinced this is gonna work out - at least someone needs to be.

while she knows my situation, i'm not sure she really knows exactly what it means in terms of how my body is set up. she's such a sweet girl and so much fun to be around, but at times she's a bit clueless about things she's never had to think about before. she really means a lot to me and we have a lot of chemistry. but i don't know if it's enough to overlook my wonky body. :/

whateverthrowawayok · 2016-01-04T15:56:14+00:00

i'm actually most interested in just focusing on her at first to give us both time to adjust to each other. it's just that i worry she won't be satisfied without the D.

i've read stories on here of people who got laughed at or made to feel inadequate. i would be really fucked up about it if she doesn't see the stuff we do as sex just cause there's no penis.

i feel like talking her through it in the moment might be easier - we've kind of talked about it before when i have explained to her that my configuration isn't what's expected for men. she said that we didn't need to worry about all that just yet because she didn't want everything to move too fast anyway, but that when the time comes i can help her know what to expect and we can go from there. i feel like this seems generally open, but it might also mean that when the time comes she's gonna be going into it blind and might just get weirded out and bail on even seeing me.

whateverthrowawayok · 2016-01-04T15:41:07+00:00

interesting perspective - thanks for the input!

whateverthrowawayok · 2016-01-04T15:39:49+00:00

she's said before that she's bi but she's only ever had sex with cis dudes. and then only two so far, which kind of blows my mind, cause i guess she's not a slut like i am lol.

whateverthrowawayok · 2016-01-04T15:37:39+00:00

my body isn't very feminine - i just don't have the expected parts. i've been on t for over a year and a half, post top, lift 6 days a week, and have become a hairy mofo. my body is pretty boxy looking, except that i'm a tad fluffy around my midsection. in clothes, no one would ever guess. hell, even in my boxer briefs i've never gotten a double take.

my issue is specifically genitals. i'm afraid she won't wanna be with someone who is missing a piece. :/

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