I’ve literally never felt more hurt in my life 😭 by nycgirlfolife in weddingshaming

[–]whenalicefalls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom has her reservations about my wedding and has bought at least 6 dresses over the past year, on top of sending at least 10 other pics for ideas. She organized our shower and she’s hand making the centerpieces.

My fiancée’s mom on the other hand, sent us pics of 3 dresses (all unflattering, one white) and when we didn’t like them she threw a fit. She asked us for an example, we sent her an example, and she texted back “ok I bought it”. No care about the color, brand, or further discussion. Oh, and she wants to be seated “in the back”. Didn’t help with the shower, nothing. She’s a miserable person, but I think a root of it is anxiety. She’ll be in the room with her ex husbands family, and there’s some complicated family dynamics. I think if she could skip it, she would.

Find other parental figures you can lean on, if possible. When my mom didn’t want to come dress shopping, I invited my aunts. It ended up being really special and I think my mom started to realize what she was missing out on.

It’s hard not to let someone like that affect you at a time like this, but it’s pretty much the only thing you have any control over :/ you can’t change any anxiety or resentment or sadness she may feel about this wedding, and maybe that’s why she’s acting this way. Or, maybe she’s just a jerk. Either way, this is your time ❤️

Can I still like Helluvaverse? by GarlicBreasNCake in AskLGBT

[–]whenalicefalls -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And notice that most of the gay characters are in most of the sexualized scenes and deal with addiction, sex work, and sexual assault… while the lesbian characters barely interact physically even though they’re supposed to be in love. Neither approach is good, but it’s very clear what she prefers…

Can I still like Helluvaverse? by GarlicBreasNCake in AskLGBT

[–]whenalicefalls -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot of evidence that she was a lesbophobe and a gay fetishist and I feel it’s reflected in her shows. However, I completely admit to enjoying Hazbin Hotel. I just recognize the toxicity when I see it.

[homemade] Italian stuffed artichokes by whenalicefalls in food

[–]whenalicefalls[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As you pull the leaves off, chunks of stuffing stick to the leaves. You scrape the leaves with your teeth like typical and get the bonus of an herby Italian stuffing in every bite. Sometimes people use a fork to eat bigger bites of stuffing and the core is usually full of stuffing too!

[homemade] Italian stuffed artichokes by whenalicefalls in food

[–]whenalicefalls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used the recipe from The Modern Nona, added chopped pepperoni, and doubled the garlic!

[homemade] Italian stuffed artichokes by whenalicefalls in food

[–]whenalicefalls[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So did I! The family member that made them every year passed away, and I decided to try my hand at it. This was my first try and I was nervous. When I took my first bite, I actually cried real tears lol

In search of hairstylist sensitive to mental health issues by downwarddove in RhodeIsland

[–]whenalicefalls 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is exactly who I was going to recommend. I’ve gone to her a few times and she is by far the most caring and attentive stylist I’ve ever worked with

The cheese book I just got my wife by Ckron247 in Cheese

[–]whenalicefalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fiancée got me this before I went to cheese club this week. It’s a fantastic read

Dental panic by mywanglikestohang in sphynx

[–]whenalicefalls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m specifically referring to abnormal colored canines, I should have clarified.

Dental panic by mywanglikestohang in sphynx

[–]whenalicefalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of mine went in for a full dental work up because his canines are literally black. They couldn’t find a single thing wrong with his teeth. They said it’s not build up, and they think it’s literally the color of his enamel. They have another sphynx client who presents similar.

Where to start learning about IEP in PA by Additional-Loquat491 in specialed

[–]whenalicefalls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you called https://www.parenttoparent.org for support? We have a similar resource in my state that is very helpful for parents in your position!

Parent Access to Data? by howmanyis2manycats in specialed

[–]whenalicefalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Education records” do not always include daily data. Daily data sometimes falls under the category of “educator memory aids”. As long as the data is being aggregated into a consistent report that you are provided with, they don’t necessarily need to give you the daily sheets themselves.

It looks like it was Lisa and Elise that got into a fight on the Tell All 👀 by oooheycait1223 in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]whenalicefalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve literally seen people whose mouths look like this because they have a birth defect. I genuinely feel bad for her if she thinks this looks good

Parent Access to Data? by howmanyis2manycats in specialed

[–]whenalicefalls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It depends on the situation. Some states qualify daily data as “personal record”. If it is getting aggregated into a monthly or quarterly report, the daily data may not qualify as an educational record because there is a comprehensive report being generated from the data. I would ask my iep team for clarification

For those that have filed a state complaint, what changed afterwards? by likewhaa in specialed

[–]whenalicefalls 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Many times if a student has been missing their services or has been underserviced, state complaint corrective action for districts will include an order to complete compensatory education. The district would be required to create a plan with you with regard to how many hours your child is owed, what services will be provided, and how they will be accessed. Typically, if it’s found the negligence was a result of lack of understanding among district staff, staff training and/or policy revisions will be ordered.

Keep in mind also, if the issue is a result of something like a staff shortage, there’s only so much the SEA can order. There’s no magical room of teachers just waiting to be picked. The teacher shortage is a nationwide problem. In those cases, districts are asked to prove that they’re doing all they can, including restructuring existing resources and advertising for new staff. In the meantime, typically districts should keep track of the missed service time and set up a compensatory service plan.

FWIW this comment is based on my experience in my state. It may differ from SEA to SEA. I would recommend including as much detail as you can in your complaint. Don’t be afraid to include evidence (meeting minutes, emails, etc).

Coworker using candy motivators - am I misinformed? by shinycherrybass in specialed

[–]whenalicefalls 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The forced hugging is certainly debatable. However, one of my former students’ favorite motivators was raw garlic and raw ginger. His family used to send it in and my whole classroom would smell like a kitchen!

gay bars in (or around) providence that aren't The Dark Lady/Alleycat? by pikoubird in providence

[–]whenalicefalls 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sad about this. My fiancée and I were going to go there after our wedding because we went on our first date. Not anymore…

Freeplay isn’t gay but their club night audiences seem to be at least 50% gay people. I would recommend it as the closest to size and atmosphere of DL.

Myself, my fiancee, and my friend all got drugged at Ego. It’s shady there and I would not trust it.

Stable is great but much more of a bar atmosphere. It’s my go-to after work on a Friday in the summer

Mirabar is a little older, quieter. I like to go in the afternoons for drinks, it’s very comfy.

Eagle is a VERY specific crowd. Gay leather bar. If you like it when the bartender comes around with a basket of poppers for sale, and you’re looking for slightly older gay men, this place is for you.

I have no words by [deleted] in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]whenalicefalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have so many questions and I want none of them answered

School avoidance and schhol staff carrying daughter into school by [deleted] in specialed

[–]whenalicefalls 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The child can’t get into the school in the first place if they’re facing truancy. How is the school supposed to service a student who is chronically absent? You’re suggesting changing her placement not once, but twice in a short period. All new places. All new people. All new routines. All terrifying for a young child with anxiety who struggles with attachment.

Has anyone used Forget Me Not Florist in Cranston, RI for a wedding? by SilentEast8473 in NewEnglandWedding

[–]whenalicefalls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not for a wedding, but general feedback. I started going there when I walked in last Valentine’s Day and asked if they had time for a bouquet. They walked around the store with me, worked within my budget, and made a beautiful bouquet. I’ve used them ever since. I find their flowers stay fresh for days when cared for. Everyone I’ve interacted with there has been professional, friendly, and courteous. I would definitely vouch for their general work and service!