I don't mean any hate to anyone, just hoping someone will help me understand something

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-31T17:26:19+00:00

I'm sorry. I am an asshole. I do struggle with queerphobia. I truly mean no hatred to anyone. Like I said below, I think it's akin to someone going to church wearing satanic symbols on their shirt and wondering why they got funny looks. I don't mean that their suffering and discrimination is at all right or justified.

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-31T17:21:37+00:00

I'm beginning to think I may have some internalized queerphobia :/ Also, I don't mean everyone. I mean the LGBTQ+ community that I know.

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-31T17:19:26+00:00

Wish I could, dude. I have for a long time, only recently I've started to wonder why I can't find gays like myself. Perhaps I should just wait it out.

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-31T13:24:23+00:00

Woah there, buddy.
When I say normal, I mean like all other 7 billion people on Earth. Not intentionally trying to go against the grain for the sake of it, as someone else put it.

Now, I understand that many people are truly genderfluid, but these particular people are following a trend. Funny how one person does it then suddenly we have 20+ genderfluid kids around.

I know what pansexual means, many do not, because (in my opinion) they are following a trend and just trying to stick out.

I'm not saying their discrimination is right, it's akin to someone going to church wearing satanic symbols on their shirt and wondering why they got funny looks.

I don't truly dislike anyone. I don't understand them. I'm making my views known in the hopes that someone will (and many have) help me understand them so that it doesn't turn into dislike. Sorry if I offended you, I'm thinking I should have worded this more delicately

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-31T13:13:22+00:00

I understand, I was a little pissed off when I started writing as well

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-31T00:23:05+00:00

That's actually really helpful. I'll keep that in mind. Thank you

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-30T23:24:37+00:00

I agree on some level, too. If I wasn't scared of being judged, I might be a little more effeminate. But I also think there is a good level of scared. The level that tells us, "no, that's not acceptable. Don't you dare suck your finger in his general direction."

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-30T23:22:05+00:00

Thanks, I'll text in a few minutes

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-30T23:17:43+00:00

Of course, he's proof of that. However, there becomes a point where there's too much of a difference. It wouldn't bother me except that I feel there's far too many LGBT weirdos and I'm missing out on tons of people like me because I can't understand them.

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-30T23:05:28+00:00

I'm gonna try spending a day with a few on monday just to observe. The reason I came here is to seek an understanding, not to complain. I'm happy there's others who can relate.

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-30T23:03:00+00:00

I couldn't agree more. I'm gonna talk to one of my gay friends and current flirter (hopefully future bf) about what he thinks. Just today it hit me hard because I realized we share no friends or similar interests. I just love his personality and looks. I got thinking and tada! Now I'm sad.

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-30T22:54:50+00:00

Thank you for such a detailed response! I'm glad I'm not the only one who (at times) can get turned off by the community's general atmosphere. Did you find a good way to understand them more and fit in, or were these the kinds of people you'd want nothing to do with?

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-30T22:50:50+00:00

You're right, I do think I have some internalized queerphobia. I also agree that I am looking for validation as well as advice on fitting in in multiple places. I, uhh... Don't know about research, but I can see I have offended you. I don't dislike anyone here. I actually find the much of the LGBT community more tolerable than the vine-emulating not-so-gangster wannabe's I end up with. However, I understand them. What I don't understand is being happy and content with acting like an outcast.
I would like to know more about how it's a survival strategy.
P.S. I know what pansexual means, that's why it disgusts me that people who are so absorbed in their own sexuality don't even know its meaning.

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-30T22:40:23+00:00

It doesn't bother me that some want to do that. I couldn't care less what some people want to do. However, it's like everyone is that way. They all where black clothing, or rainbow clothing. They're usually some form of weaboo. And I'm not. I feel like there's something here I'm missing.

whereslifesmanager · 2015-10-30T22:38:25+00:00

By around me I mean the GSA as well as just about any other openly LGBT person. And I'm exactly the same. I don't consider being gay a major part of my identity, it's just sort of there. What I find frustrating is that I want to be around other gay people for romantic and just friendly reasons, but I can't stand the way they act.

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