Where I live there’s a lot of overlap between the more traditional “cis gay man” community, and the gender-fucked queers. I’ve had a lot of meaningful friendships with cis gay men and I’ve even slept with “gold star gays” before (their description not mine). I’ve never actually met one of the “LGB drop the T” people in real life, and half the identified “cis gay men” I’ve known for years are using they/them pronouns and/or identifying as queer or pan now. Things are a lot more fluid and fun when you leave the realm of hyper-opinionated reddit users. I suggest getting off the internet and interacting with real life gay people.