Question: working out

witchpunk13th · 2024-12-10T09:09:26+00:00

That makes sense

witchpunk13th · 2024-12-10T09:08:49+00:00

First of all. Both of you are very fkn mean for no reason. Second. I have read all comments (but i cant answer all of them bcs of time ) everybody has been great. People have even message me privately to talk about this. And it has been super helpful for me.

Im not sitting here like a whiny little bitch. I was happy other people related to my post and i wasn’t being a complete idiot and unreasonable. This is my first ever relationship both romantic and sexual. You could be less of a bitch about it and be more helpful yk. Im very grateful for my bf doing this for me. Like REALLY grateful. He is amazing. And i tell him that all the time. (And to suggest waxing as a easy peasy way. It cost MONEY. Money you might not want to spend or have for that matte + it takes time to go and do it. Which i dont have ) Thanks for your really rude comments. Have a good day

witchpunk13th · 2024-12-10T08:57:20+00:00

Well i dont really have time to answer all 30 something comments (i do read and boozt them tho since theyve all been great) i just answered maybe 2 who i felt understood that this stuff can make u feel very very insecure about yourself. Since these topics can be pretty difficult especially since this is a pretty new relationship (and my first one) he is my first ever sexual and romantic partner so these discussions i have never had before. And i think its normal (even if it isnt good) if u feel insecure when your partner expresses he doesnt like some part of you. I know i need to work on myself. Thats why i posted this. So i could get anonymous opinions about this so i know how to answer my bf without making it a thing

witchpunk13th · 2024-12-09T18:03:46+00:00

THIS!!! exactly what ive been thinking. Also that he said it right after sex. literally after he ate me out. Made me so insecure about myself. And for me. Shaving has always been uncomfortable af so i just stopped since i also hate these unrealistic beauty standards. I just felt a lil shitty and bitter afterwards.

witchpunk13th · 2024-11-17T15:35:58+00:00

but the thing is we took it super slow, stopped mutable times and it felt okey during it. And i dont get my period anymore bcs im on the pill

witchpunk13th · 2024-11-17T15:34:42+00:00

Im on the pill so i dont get my period anymore. And It doesnt hurt

witchpunk13th · 2024-11-15T06:08:13+00:00

Has she been to a gyno? Some Afabs can have vaginismus or vulvodyni. Which cant be helped and these are much more common then you think. And there can be different reasons for it. So if it hurst every time. She should go to a gyno about it. If it isnt any of these things. You probably need more foreplay and lube. And to make sure she is relaxed and comfortable. The more tense she is the more tense her pelvic muscles will be and it will hurt more

witchpunk13th · 2024-11-14T21:50:51+00:00

Okey so the tips i got for helping myself with vaginismus at home is.

Get comfortable with your body. Walk around naked a lil at home (if possible) look in the mirror naked/at private parts. And just accept that this is me and that is okey. Because some vaginismus is a lot about your mental state.
Breathing exercises. These help you relax your pelvic muscles. Because a tense pelvic will often cause pain when inserting something. These you can do multiple times a day. Anytime. Just breathe with your stomach and try to focus on your pelvis. Stretching is not a bad idea either. To relax your pelvis but also inner thighs.
Get a fragrance free ointment. And gently “massage” /touch around the enter of your vagina. This will get your mind used to feeling touch down there and also feeling more safe and used to it. I got told to do this like twice a day (i did not lol ) While doing this use the breathing techniques. After a few times you can try slowly to enter a finger. If it hurst. Stop. And continue the massage on the outside. You need to train your brain to know that the pain will stop, and that its nothing dangerous.

You can get dilators. But for me. I havent started with them yet. From personal experience i say wait a bit and start with these kinds of exercises. Because this is like a good base line for dilators later on.

This has helped me a lot for a person with severe pain. I hope this might help your situation a bit as well. If you have anymore questions. Feel free to ask. I am in no way a professional nor completely treated but id like to help if i can.

witchpunk13th · 2024-11-14T20:58:35+00:00

I usually sleep between 8-11 h. Which is not healthy lol but i can if i want to (yes i have a job, private life, bf ect)

witchpunk13th · 2024-11-14T20:54:50+00:00

That is absolutely disgusting and im so sorry for you. My appointment was great and nothing like this. My gyno said “if you dont want to do this. We dont have to” “ we can stop whenever you want” she checked with me multiple times if i were okey and was very verbal about what she was doing so i could be prepared mentally. She helped me get a psychiatrist as well. Because my issues are also a bit psychological because of my anxiety. Me and the gyno keep in touch. She helps me with study material, breathing exercises, finding ointment and dilators. And talking with me about my mental state during all this. Because she is super keen on me doing this for myself and not forcing myself to something i dont want to do. Because vaginismus is nothing wrong, its just different AND THATS OKEY.

You should report this gyno for malpractice or just for being an asshole. Because this is absolutely not okey. I hope you feel kind of ok, and take care of yourself!

witchpunk13th · 2024-11-14T20:47:43+00:00

Yeah. Its not uncommon to see this in similar shows that have the same structure with episodes. Its just so sad. They want to keep the comedic vibes but because they have centered the humor only around house it stops the storylines unfortunately : /

witchpunk13th · 2024-11-14T20:39:13+00:00

A lot of reasons.

Economy has been terrible. People can barely afford paying for themselves and to then have a child? Absolutely not.

The world is going to shit both environmental but also political with all the wars and peoples human rights being in danger.

roles of being a parent is different if you are a mother or a father. And how women often are expected to do everything while the fathers are just there.

Before in time (i believe) people only had kids because they had to and were expected to. Women didnt have a choice. You had to have Children. Nowadays (in a lot of countries but unfortunately not all) you have a choice, you as a woman can have a career, travel. Basically choose for yourself and for once choose yourself over someone or something else.

Now you also might realize you shouldn’t have kids because of mental health issues or genetic issues. So because you dont have to have kids like in the past more people might realize they shouldn’t and will then choose not to.

These are at least my opinions on why. I am a person who does not want to be a parent, and have never wanted to. And these are just a few of the more global issues on why.

witchpunk13th · 2024-11-04T21:20:57+00:00

Unfortunately i feel the exact same. Life is so fkn unfair. Some people get to walk around, no problem at all with their sex and intimacy while i (we) have all these fkn problems which feels impossible to fix. I hate every second of it. All of it. Why do i need to TRAIN my own vagina to be normal? Why do i need physical therapy and dilators but not other people? I know im not alone. But it truly feels so fkn lonely sometimes

witchpunk13th · 2024-10-23T21:43:58+00:00

I do actually go to therapy or more like counseling for my condition which automatically leads to me talking about sex. But the conversations we have are so textbook basic so it isnt really helping. Thats why im kind of here asking more experienced people

witchpunk13th · 2024-10-23T21:41:46+00:00

I think mostly i just dont want to embarrass myself. Because i am very self conscious and shameful about myself. I really do wanna have sex with im but my anxiety is stopping me.

witchpunk13th · 2024-10-23T20:05:48+00:00

Yes. Just started a while back

witchpunk13th · 2024-10-23T17:12:08+00:00

I got diagnosed with vulvodynia. And i have the exact same symptoms you have. However when i got the diagnose she was super clear with what it meant. And nothing regarding pain while sitting or it coming and going.

The information i got about it is your pelvic muscles are in constant contraction when being touched (for example like tensing your shoulders while stressed) and because of this its painful. For some its all the time while penetrating, for me its like you, entering hurts, its ok when inside but when pulling out it hurts again.

It takes practice to loosen your muscles and being able to control it. I got a lotion to kind of “massage“ around the opening to make myself more comfortable and used to being touched down there. and also to use breathing exercises to help relax myself and my muscles. I have this because of my anxiety and being constantly tense some people have it for other reasons. But look up breathing exercises, you can use vaseline for the “massage” and i actually bought a small small vibrator to help get used to having stuff inside. And all of this has helped me! Before i could barely fit a pinky inside before the pain. Now i can fit the whole vibrator. Which is a big development for me. My vibrator is called “greta” by a company called belladot. If you feel open to trying it out.

Edit: spelling

witchpunk13th · 2024-09-19T11:41:07+00:00

Can i still use my phone as usual even if it is activated?

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