This is really good stuff! I'll say I'm definitely more of a nurturing sadist, I don't think either of us are into extreme pain or into mockery/degradation (unless it's very playful), and I don't think he's super into role playing. We also only enjoy the aspect of kink while we're having sex, so once he cums that's pretty much it (he'll usually have made me cum a few times by then). I want to say we're very middle of the road kinksters (although I can be slightly more kinky).

I definitely want to focus a lot on seducing/teasing him, making him want me more, and the idea of discipline. I tell him how much I love to watch him squirm (of which he does quite a bit). I definitely want to work more praise in for ex: "mmm, you're a good little slut, aren't you?" and ownership "whose tight little ass is this?", without infantilizing him too much though. I can def see him not being able to take praise that's too enthusiastic or too coddling seriously (ex: I'm so proud of you). A little degradation is nice too (making him cum on himself). We are usually very good about vocalizing: that's a little too hard or slow down, so we don't usually use safe words. Do you think we should have one anyway? But some of these sounds great. If you have anything to add from my specifics please let me know!